Closure

[jimbobday]

My ex just contacted me with something I have to reply to (Or else I could get myself into legal troubles). I'm tempted to ask for some point of closure as I never got it before. What does everyone reckon?

[Keyman]

No. By point of closure, I assume you mean, posing questions you feel will resolve some of the thoughts about the break up, loose ends etc. While that is the common perception of closure, and it may help to answer those questions, it will not stop other questions from remaining unanswered.

 

Closure is a personal thing, when you are willing to close a relationship where it is, no further questions asked. It's accepting that you may not get answers to some things, and moving on.

 

My thoughts are to just respond with what you need to respond with, and leave it at that.

[jimbobday]

Thanks Keyman. Thats exactly what I've done. I hated having to break NC but knew I had to or else I could have left myself open to legal dramas. It almost feels like I'm back to day 1 again because of that contact

[Keyman]

Yes, and each time contact is made, it will feel like you've gone back to day 1 again, but each time you will move on a little faster.

 

Keep strong dude, and you'll get through it.

[Hopelives]

Yes, and each time contact is made, it will feel like you've gone back to day 1 again, ... Keep strong dude, and you'll get through it.

I disagree. At some point, you will reach the point of "who is this" and then an "oh yeah" and then a methodical answer to questions.

 

Yes, even if it is related to child support, alimony, or whatever.