cranberry Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 Hey guys, If you like a girl how long does your attraction to her usually last? Link to comment
-Dredg- Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 I don't think it ever fades 100% but depending on the girl I'd say I lose interest after a solid 3 months. But after that I'd still think about her every now and then. Link to comment
Rage Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 Forever if she is nice to me ......if not the attraction fades slowly, if she plays mind games it fades fast! Link to comment
Jaiex Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 I agree with -Dredg-, I have never REALLY lost all interest in my old partners, but I only think about them at the most maybe once every couple of months. Link to comment
Darknova12 Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 I agree with the others, it never really goes away totally, u think about her less and less as time goes on, faster if u get closer to another girl, but every so often something will happen that will remind u of her... it may bring back sum feelings.... (this is of course assuming that she hasnt dun something to hurt u, ifshe has, then it fades alot faster, becuase u feel a bit disgusted.) Link to comment
1Adam12 Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 I can agree with what the others are saying but for me the attraction can easily fade real quick when I get to know a person or things about them..like for me I liked a girl in my volunteer group for a while and she flirted with me too and I was gonna get the courage to ask her out but then I started to find out what kinda person she was..partying, and wild stuff, and introuble with the law all this I heard from a close relative of hers..and at the time I still liked her but then I sat down and thought about it all and was glad I didn't ask her out in the first place cause now I've gotten to know someone who I think is more of a person I can be with and I'm going to ask her out soon and hopefully it will work in my favor.. Link to comment
Breakdancer6 Posted April 25, 2004 Share Posted April 25, 2004 It depends on how she is to me, like how long we have known each other , and if i care about that person, i been crushin on this one girl, no excuse me, i been IN LOVE with this girl for 2 Years almost, and i know i got a long ways to go before i can get her outta my head, i think about her ALL day everyday. When i see stuff that reminds me of her, see girls that look like her so yah it can be a short time or long time depends on how u well u know that person and how strongly u feel. Link to comment
cranberry Posted April 26, 2004 Author Share Posted April 26, 2004 What if you only see your crush/the girl once or twice a week where you sometimes get a chance to talk to her and sometimes not? Will your attraction to her eventually fade? Link to comment
Santa Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 If the girl does something nasty to the guy, then his feelings will probably fade. However, if she doesn't I doubt they will fade away totally... perhaps just die down a little, until she does something to think of her again. I think time can also make you like people. In my case, I like a few girls now that I just totally ignored for years, until they did something to catch my attention. Link to comment
PaulB1979 Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 It depends on the guy. What kind of guy is he. Example: Player, Possessive, Whocares, Niceguy I think you get the picture. If he's a player, he don't really think about past lovers, unless he wants something from her again.......... If he's possessive, well.. He'll most likely never forget her, think about her everyday, want to see her, call her... so he won't forget easily at all. It could get extreme. Sometimes you'll get a guy that don't really care, just wants a woman around to give him company, he might have feelings for her, and he might not.. mind games... And there's the nice guy. You know that term "Nice Guys Finish Last".. hehe, ok fine, a nice guy with no courage, and overly shy will finish last, but anyways, A nice guy usually is looking for a long-term, loving relationship. Respects the lady, treats her right. Over time, will have the hardest time forgetting his lady friend. Also, most of the time, he is the one that gets hurt the most often, since he does care, maybe too much for his own good, this is coming from a guy that's been hurt too often, and now Is seeing someone once again and is whatching his butt. You see, Im not trying to say that all the above guys are 100% exactly as branded, they could be a mix of all types, and the same goes with women. It's a crazy world out there. Anyways, Im no shrink, but I'm sure some of what I said makes sense and some don't. Take it as you will. Love Hurts... Nazareth couldn't have said it any better... Link to comment
cranberry Posted April 26, 2004 Author Share Posted April 26, 2004 A lot of you guys are saying that your attraction for a girl will fade if she does something "nasty" to you... Could you please define or ellaborate on what "nasty" means to you? Does it mean her telling you to get lost or something like that? Or something very minor? By the way thanks to all those that responded. Link to comment
Santa Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 Nasty things include playing with your head, and generally leading you on... Or like rejecting him in a harsh way. Basically, if theres a guy that liked you before, and you told him he was like the ugliest person alive, then went out with his best friend just to get at him... well then thats nasty. I don't think minor things matter much, if at all. Link to comment
sebaot Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 I remember a long time ago reading or hearing that scientists found that "being in love" could chemically onl last 2 years. Might have been some 70's research, though. Attraction, however ... there's so many types of attraction. If she's pretty, there's really no fading it. But if she opens her mouth and sounds not-so-intelligent, that'll fade her beauty and my attraction. Like the other guys said, somebody doing something nasty to you will turn sour quickly. Some attractions will be pure sexual and last until you get it on. That kinda thing can quickly fade afterwards. For fun, I know some girls in high-school like 10 years ago that I'm in my mind attracted to still today. But you know what, I wasn't the social type so I never really talked to them back then. LOL. I never saw them after high-school and I don't think I ever will. So ... there's lots of different types of attraction. Link to comment
Rage Posted April 26, 2004 Share Posted April 26, 2004 I agree with Santa..............MIND GAMES and leading you on are sooo nasty, especially to us sensitive nice guys! It's alright if they're a Player though.....I Fcuking hate players Hey Santa....are you the same Santa from Muscletalk forum????????????????! Link to comment
trulyDee Posted April 27, 2004 Share Posted April 27, 2004 I am very independent and sure of myself, and would have no trouble asking a man out, or telling him I find him attractive....do men appreciate that? Or dislike it? Link to comment
Santa Posted April 27, 2004 Share Posted April 27, 2004 I like it when it happens to me, but I don't mostly always say no, because i dont find them attractive, not because they asked me - by asking me all its done is boost my ego a bit, and notice them more. Link to comment
traxxas4tec13 Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 until u find someone else who you like, but usually you never forget them Link to comment
Shyness_overwhelms Posted May 9, 2004 Share Posted May 9, 2004 as they said... depends on the girl and it never really fades away... you just push it away in the back of ur head..... Link to comment
planman Posted May 9, 2004 Share Posted May 9, 2004 as soon as i like someone else... perfect example i liked this close friend of mine but i didn't see anything happening then i met someone else and im still not sure but interested Link to comment
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