Big fight over me going to therapy

[bertdru]

OK so I wanted to go to therapy as you guys have recommended. I have not done it yet.

 

I told my mother because I didn't want to hide it from her. She got angry and she spoke as if she felt guilty for everything. She was constantly saying she was a bad mother and she didn't do a good job raising me. She couldn't understand that it wasn't her fault and going to therapy doesn't mean there is anything seriously wrong with me. I finally had to calm her down saying I won't go.

 

I guess I will because I need to address my issues, right?

[DN]

Of course you should go. This is about you not about your mother.

[IphigeniaSaysHi]

Not everyone takes the idea of therapy well, they have their own conceptions about how people are supposed to get along in life. It seems obvious it's best not to disclose much with her about it, but I think you'll benefit from going regardless.

[avman]

Yes, definitely go anyway. Therapy will also help give you some tools in learning how to deal with your mother.

[BellaDonna]

You should still go- and hopefully the therapist will help you to develop strategies to cope with your mom's overreaction and attempts at emotional manipulation.

 

You don't have to tell your mom everything. Therapy is a private matter.

[Casey13]

Keep these kind of things private. You don't need to tell your mother about this, especially since it's not some very serious issues and obviously she's not supportive. Seeking help is a very personal thing and should not be based on what others tell you.

[cafecomleite]

Therapy will help you to become happier person in the future. Just go and don't bother telling her.

[unabashed]

When I was in middle school, I went to see the counselor and my mom found out. Unfortunately, the counselor was unprofessional and actually told my mom, who was also a teacher in the district. My mother got so upset--it seemed she felt guilty or worried about what others would think of her. I ended up not seeing the counselor again, which I think was a mistake. You should go, if you want to, and not worry about your mom. This is your life--that's what therapy is all about, taking charge of your own life.