mike2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Share Posted July 22, 2009 just don't assume that girls can read your mind either. be honest from the get go. it may be awkward but youd' be surprised at how many girls are into casual sex. im not lol most girls have a man opps lol Link to comment
Laura11111 Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 You're not going to be laughing when you get an STD or a girl pregnant. Link to comment
hers Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 yeah, actually. i've stopped guys and said that before. guys have stopped me and said it before. it's awkward for a sec but if she's cool with it then she'll continue. all you have to do is stop kissing and be like "before we go any further, i just want to let you know that i'm not looking for anything serious." awkward yes but honest too. Link to comment
knightingale Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 I would imagine someone with these values would be a little awkward making out with someone they've known for a couple hours, then? If they're up for getting extremely physical while still barely knowing anything about one another, you can probably assume they probably don't feel "used" or "bad" about having casual sex. After going to college and living on campus I've been made aware of just how many females don't mind the casual stuff at all just from what I've seen. It's hard for me to say what "most" feel, I don't have any info on that. And "No different from a rapist." I just read that from someone else. You're joking right? That's ridiculous. A lot of girls try to think they are okay with casual sex and still wind up being hurt. I didn't live on campus (thank God), but made plenty of girl friends. One friend in particular would say (on several occasions), "So I slept with _____ last night," very casually, then a few days later would be upset that she hadn't heard from him. This happens A LOT. You're not a girl, so you don't hear that side of the story. I'm not a casual sex kind of girl and even I have been used a couple of times--developed feelings for someone who wound up just using me in the end. Happens every day. Not something I have to worry about anymore, thankfully. Link to comment
mike2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Share Posted July 22, 2009 Well...posting here is not going to help you if you're not going to take seriously what people are staying. Stop with the silly comments and the playing stupid. You know what we're saying. i love you too we should go out sometime Link to comment
hers Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 Woah dude, I'm guessing you've never been raped. In my honest estimation that would be kind of dumb. I'm no player, nor am privy to the minds of most males or females, but when you are doing it a couple of hours after the first meeting, then I would think that the nature of the relationship is understood. Unless you just had some kind of otherworldly connection with that person. well i don't think it's logical that they do that either but sex=emotions for many many girls. it's how we're wired. especially young college girls, they sometimes dont' know how to separate emotion from sex. when i was that age, I took any attention from a guy as "oh he likes me! he thinks i'm pretty! we'll make babies one day!" even aftre a couple hours of meeting while hooking up. now i know better. sex is sex. but many girls don't realize that. Link to comment
mike2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Share Posted July 22, 2009 You're not going to be laughing when you get an STD or a girl pregnant. i been wearing condoms since 13 and i checked myself free in school for fur and the free stuff lol Link to comment
Laura11111 Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 i love you too we should go out sometime Haha...I'm so flattered. Can we have a long-term relationship? Link to comment
ProtestTheHero Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 A lot of girls try to think they are okay with casual sex and still wind up being hurt. I didn't live on campus (thank God), but made plenty of girl friends. One friend in particular would say (on several occasions), "So I slept with _____ last night," very casually, then a few days later would be upset that she hadn't heard from him. This happens A LOT. You're not a girl, so you don't hear that side of the story. I'm not a casual sex kind of girl and even I have been used a couple of times--developed feelings for someone who wound up just using me in the end. Happens every day. Not something I have to worry about in more, thankfully. I'm not saying that this doesn't happen, but the guy is not to blame in this scenario. Every individual needs to know what they are and aren't ok with, and if they try to fool themselves and end up getting hurt, they have no one to blame but themselves. It's an accountability thing. Link to comment
DunwichChild Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 A lot of girls try to think they are okay with casual sex and still wind up being hurt. I didn't live on campus (thank God), but made plenty of girl friends. One friend in particular would say (on several occasions), "So I slept with _____ last night," very casually, then a few days later would be upset that she hadn't heard from him. This happens A LOT. You're not a girl, so you don't hear that side of the story. I'm not a casual sex kind of girl and even I have been used a couple of times--developed feelings for someone who wound up just using me in the end. Happens every day. Not something I have to worry about in more, thankfully. How is that the guy's fault though?, how can he be responsible for something a woman thought she could take. That's like that scene from Raging Bull, you know, if De Niro would have gotten mad at Pesci because he hit him too hard. Link to comment
mike2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Share Posted July 22, 2009 yeah, actually. i've stopped guys and said that before. guys have stopped me and said it before. it's awkward for a sec but if she's cool with it then she'll continue. all you have to do is stop kissing and be like "before we go any further, i just want to let you know that i'm not looking for anything serious." awkward yes but honest too. thats lame though i did it before and she just said your stupid and we continued lol Link to comment
hers Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 I'm not saying that this doesn't happen, but the guy is not to blame in this scenario. Every individual needs to know what they are and aren't ok with, and if they try to fool themselves and end up getting hurt, they have no one to blame but themselves. It's an accountability thing. i agree with this, but the OP should still keep his side of the street clean. He should be accountable for his actions. His posts on this thread seem to say that he wants them to read his mind, that he assumes they woudl just know. But he can't do that. So unless he doesn't have a conscience, he should at least try to be honest to spare others' feelings. Link to comment
Laura11111 Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 i been wearing condoms since 13 and i checked myself free in school for fur and the free stuff lol Oooo...you've been having sex since you were 13. What a stud you are. Link to comment
mike2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Share Posted July 22, 2009 well i don't think it's logical that they do that either but sex=emotions for many many girls. it's how we're wired. especially young college girls, they sometimes dont' know how to separate emotion from sex. when i was that age, I took any attention from a guy as "oh he likes me! he thinks i'm pretty! we'll make babies one day!" even aftre a couple hours of meeting while hooking up. now i know better. sex is sex. but many girls don't realize that. hence not my fault i dont have time to explain life to them right? Link to comment
DunwichChild Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 thats lame though i did it before and she just said your stupid and we continued lol I assume you got your poontang still? Link to comment
mike2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Share Posted July 22, 2009 Haha...I'm so flattered. Can we have a long-term relationship?[/QUO sure baby whatever makes you happy girl Link to comment
hers Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 hence not my fault i dont have time to explain life to them right? you're not explaining life to them. you're keeping yourself accountable and being honest. what's wrong with being honest? Link to comment
mike2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Share Posted July 22, 2009 I'm not saying that this doesn't happen, but the guy is not to blame in this scenario. Every individual needs to know what they are and aren't ok with, and if they try to fool themselves and end up getting hurt, they have no one to blame but themselves. It's an accountability thing. I like his comments lol he feels my pain Link to comment
ProtestTheHero Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 Everyone should be operating under the "not-exclusive-till-we-talk-about-it" rule by default, anyways. Link to comment
DunwichChild Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 you're not explaining life to them. you're keeping yourself accountable and being honest. what's wrong with being honest? It might interfere with his sex quest. Link to comment
Laura11111 Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 Haha...I'm so flattered. Can we have a long-term relationship?[/QUO sure baby whatever makes you happy girl Hahahaha. Good stuff, Mike. Good stuff. Link to comment
mike2009 Posted July 22, 2009 Author Share Posted July 22, 2009 i agree with this, but the OP should still keep his side of the street clean. He should be accountable for his actions. His posts on this thread seem to say that he wants them to read his mind, that he assumes they woudl just know. But he can't do that. So unless he doesn't have a conscience, he should at least try to be honest to spare others' feelings. but if it never comes up and we just have fun which leads to sex how is it my fault? Link to comment
hers Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 It might interfere with his sex quest. then that's where it becomes wrong. instead of having even a hint of morals, he's going after sex and not worrying about anyone else but himself. it's fine that he wants sex, but i'm trying to explain to him that he's gong to end up hurting some girls. sure, it's not necessarily going to be his fault b/c the girls shoudl know what they're getting themselves into if they have sex with a guy theyve known for a short time, but this isn't a perfect world. he should keep his side of the street clean to keep him free of hurting others. Link to comment
knightingale Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 I'm not saying that this doesn't happen, but the guy is not to blame in this scenario. Every individual needs to know what they are and aren't ok with, and if they try to fool themselves and end up getting hurt, they have no one to blame but themselves. It's an accountability thing. How is the guy not to blame? He makes her think he likes her, as in not just in it for sex, and then it's wam bam thank you mam, and the girls is supposed to say to herself, "I should have known..." Guys aren't as overt to their intentions as they think they are, and that is entirely their fault. It is much less awkward for a guy to briefly say, "I don't want a relationship" before doing the deed than a girl to say, "So if we have sex, does that mean you like me-like me and we can be boyfriend/girlfriend some day?" I mean, yeah, if you meet a girl in the bar, it's kind of obvious it's casual. But when you're inviting classmates over to "study" and you have spent time with them regularly, it's a little harder to decipher. And, mike, you're having sex with girls who are relationships? If the shoe fits, wear it... Link to comment
hers Posted July 22, 2009 Share Posted July 22, 2009 but if it never comes up and we just have fun which leads to sex how is it my fault? i'm saying BRING IT UP. Link to comment
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