After 20 years of marriage....I'm lost

[Rangoo]

I have been married for over 20 years and deeply love my wife. I problem I suspect is that she does not love me. The last few years she has really verbally picked on me in front of my kids. She finds reasons to get mad at me, over some of the sillest stuff. We of course sleep in different parts of the house, and they are no late night visits allowed.

 

I don't gamble, drink to excess, cheat, go to bars, I have a great job, we have no debt, we have money in the bank, large home....a great kids.

 

What have I done wrong, whenever I bring up late night visits she states that she can't because she doesnt feel imtimate with me, I respond well how can you when we don't sleep together.....

 

I decided to stay with her until my kids were older, now they are in high school and college, I am thinking of leaving, but I still love her....What the heck do I do?

 

We have trying counseling, she gave up saying that she didnt need it, I stayed and I'm sure my therapist had fits with me.....

[Celadon]

Rangoo -- sorry to hear about your situation. So why is there this Grand Canyon of emotional distance between you and your wife? Lack of intimacy generally means her emotional needs haven't and aren't being met. She feels completely neglected and abandoned. Does this sound about right?