AlwayzRight Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 Anyone done this just of the blue? If so what was thier response if you did get a response? Link to comment
nem69 Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 Not considered it. I leave initiating contact to her. Link to comment
stranded247 Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 It's only been a month since my break up so I think it's too early to ask him and I'm also still on NC 32 days as of today so I don't want to break that. But I think I wouldn't be able to ask him now because I couldn't stand the idea that he's really happy without me so I'd rather not know. I like to think that he doesn't realise it yet but he was much happier with me, when we were together he told me how much happier he was and how his family all commented on how happy he seemed and it was because of me. If that was the truth, which I think it was then he was a fool to let that go, or maybe I stopped making him happy. Probably that. But I could have made him happy again had he let me, but he's not worth that effort if he's willing to give up on me so fast. So yeah I don't want to know if he's happy. Because I know what I want to hear and often what I want to hear is very different from the truth sadly. Link to comment
Raistlin Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 I did ask her. She said yes. For a time. Then she asked me. And I said no. Link to comment
AlwayzRight Posted June 25, 2009 Author Share Posted June 25, 2009 I did ask her. She said yes. For a time. Then she asked me. And I said no. hmmm ...interesting....anymore communication after that? Link to comment
Raistlin Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 We talked for another few weeks, then decided it would be best not to talk anymore. Haven't heard from her since. She's in a relationship now. Good for her. She can ruin someone else's life. Link to comment
sfullerton Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 Anyone done this just of the blue? If so what was thier response if you did get a response? I recently asked that question! It has been 2.5 years since the break-up. He told me everything that I ever wanted to hear- it was a bad decision, he missed me, still loved me, etc. And I loved hearing it *but* it gave me the closure that I needed. It didnt make me miss him or wish I was back with him or anything. It just closed that chapter in my life. I am now way more confident in my current relationship and I know that I am a great person. So, if you are going for closure- it can be a great way of getting it! Sometimes though, I think that it can open old wounds so prepare yourself for either outcome. What are you trying to get out of it? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 nope. i've usually done the dumping, but if they left, obviously something wasn't good enough. Link to comment
Thornbirds18 Posted June 26, 2009 Share Posted June 26, 2009 As a dumpee I don't initiate the contact. If they contact me oftentimes I'm happily in another relationship. Link to comment
Brokenheart00 Posted June 27, 2009 Share Posted June 27, 2009 yes I asked my ex that and he said "he is better off without me and happier". Link to comment
Sadly Mistaken Posted June 28, 2009 Share Posted June 28, 2009 I would never ask because if i did and it was an answer i didn't want to hear like 'yeah i am' it would hurt incredibly. Link to comment
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