dcgirl Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 This guy just got out of a relationship. Guaranteed. Link to comment
l9grl Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 I can smell his desperation from here. Stalk much? It's creepy - block him and move on. Link to comment
COtuner Posted June 12, 2009 Share Posted June 12, 2009 I'd run for the hills - does he know where you live or anything personal like that? Link to comment
servedcold Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 Meet him and judge from that. Texts, even 15 of em, are so indefinite. He could have just been really excited to finally get a chance with you and could have been thinking of you since school and got a bit overeager. I can think of a couple of women from college whom I considered as missed opportunities, kicked myself for eons, and if we reconnected years later, I might have gotten a bit kooky. Admittedly his execution is flawed, but you knew him in school and he wasn't strange, would cut him a little bit of slack. If genders were reversed here, this person wouldn't be getting all this stalker/danger heat, betcha. The responses would be "wow that's weird but sounds like she really digs you!" and not "head for the hills!"Judge by how he acts around you. Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 13, 2009 Share Posted June 13, 2009 i agree with SC - since you knew him in college for years, and he was cool, i would just see where things go. Link to comment
Maya_A Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 well, people do change. maybe now he's completely psycho. ^^^ LOL! Even though it doesn't look promising after those texts, I am in the "meet up with him once" at least camp. Yes, I think it was a bit odd for sure. It would turn me off in a romantic sense but it seemed you'd had better conversations with him prior that seemed "normal" and that you enjoyed enough to want to flirt back. I'd meet in a public place of course, during the day or very early eve.(when it is light out) & I wouldn't share any personal information with him if you haven't already. Things such as exactly where you work, live, etc... Even if you feel it was a colossal disaster after you meet, at least you will know for sure & won't be 2nd guessing whether you should have met up or not. Link to comment
Lights Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 even if he WAS drunk - i'd run. lol i don't like people who can't control their behavior to SOME extent when they're intoxicated. Link to comment
littlestar Posted June 14, 2009 Share Posted June 14, 2009 A little creepy but shouldnt be enough to put you off not seeing him. Give him a chance and see how things go and if he does other things to creep you out then call it quits. Link to comment
Delusional Kisses Posted June 18, 2009 Author Share Posted June 18, 2009 **Update** He keeps calling me in the early morning hours now....3:30, 5:30, 6:00. I haven't answered any of those calls as I am NOT "drunk dial" girl. On Sunday morning, I learned of a friends death. She was someone I had gone to high school with and that evening, I was on facebook talking to some friends about her when I got an IM from this guy. He asked why I was sad and I told him about my friend's passing. He said "I guess its not a good time to ask you to come over then?" Clearly this dude has no sense. Thinking back on it, I don't remember him being a very kind or caring person in college either. So, with that, I decided to go ahead and close this chapter. Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 good call. hey, at least you gave him a chance, and now you know. you don't have to look back and wonder, 'what if i gave him a chance....?' he's selfish. blah. forget it. sorry to hear about your friend. Link to comment
iLiveWithMyMom Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Don't you mean "Red Flag" OR "Red Alert". I don't think it can be both I agreeingly acquiesce. Also, to the OP, good riddance I say. I think women should listen more to guys when they tell you another guy is a d00shbag. We all share the same brain, so we all know what other dudes are thinking. Link to comment
jrabach Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 To the OP... give the dude a 2nd chance sure he started to become obsessive towards you but you can always take the lead and slow things down. You have the Vag so the card still is in your hands if things start to crumble. Link to comment
coyote1980 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 I wouldn't give a 2nd chance to someone who has no courtesy..... calling someone at 3:30am? I wouldn't even do that to my family. Good call, move on... Link to comment
servedcold Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Agree, late night calls, other than real emergencies, aren't even acceptable from someone one is dating, for most folks, really thoughtless. Link to comment
Maya_A Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 In light of your update - quadruple "yes" to closing the chapter... He does not seem a person with it "all together" in several ways, to put it nicely. And I'm sorry to hear about your friend... Link to comment
JusticeLaw9 Posted June 19, 2009 Share Posted June 19, 2009 Whoa, slam on brakes! 15 text messages? I would definitely be creeped out. Link to comment
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