What are the odds that I'm pregnant?

[RNB2B]

My boyfriend and I had sex yesterday for the first time. It was during the last day of my period and he pulled out before he ejaculated. I understand the risk of pre-cum and pulling out. How strong are the chances that I could be pregnant? An online ovulation calculator said that I shouldn't be ovulating for another 9 days or so. Am I just being paranoid about all of this? It seems like the chances are so slim that I could become pregnant. What do you think?

[Tinkerbell]

Was pulling out your only method of "protection?" If it was, I suggest you go get the morning after pill as soon as possible.

It's better to be safe than sorry.

[DealingWithIt]

not sure but make sure you get the facts right. having sex without using any protection is DUMB and here you are worrying about being pregnant and all...how about STDs? sorry if i sound harsh, but BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY

[RNB2B]

You're right, but I think calling what we did "DUMB" was a little heartless. I appreciate what you are saying, but let me explain a few things. We were both virgins. STD's are not a concern. We've been dating for 7 years (we were freshmen in high school) and made the decision to save ourselves until marriage. Last night was a mistake because we got caught up in the moment and things went too far and that is why he pulled out and we stopped. We are engaged to be married in 5 months so it was an act of love not stupidity. However, there is a risk involved in what we did and I was hoping to get some valid opinions about the subject. Maybe I should have clarified to avoid people jumping to some conclusions. I looked into the morning after pill, but to me that is a form of abortion and I don't believe in abortion. So I guess I'm just going to conclude that if I am pregnant this it was meant to be and it was a gift from God. The guilt we both feel about last night is only because we know that we went against what we believe in, but if a child results in all of this then at least I know it will have a home where it is loved.

[VickiRose]

Hey RNB2B,

The chances of the withdrawl method are 81-96% effective...

If you would like to to this link, for more information...

[The Morrigan]

The odds are you won't be pregnant this time - though the average "most fertile" days tend to be between day 11 and 15 of your cycle, or about 4 days to a week following the end of your period.

 

If you plan on using this or the rhythm method after you're married - I'd suggest getting an ovulation thermometer and chart and get a good idea of what your cycle is now so you'll have a few months pattern and some practice, as it'll also help if you decide there's a time you most want to get pregnant, as well as avoid your most fertile days or take extra precautions when you'd rather wait. Even done right, it's only about 85% effective, since sperm can be hardy little suckers and survive a few days, but if you really want to stick to strictly natural control, start getting informed about the cycle your body runs now, and comfortable with keeping track, since everyone is a little different.

[SunnyScott]

just be careful. i got pregnant the same way about 3 months ago. i missed my period for the first 2 months, which was quite common with my cycle, it was usually off, plus i started using the pill, which was not effective during that time i guess, and now i am into my first trimester.

 

i have read about incidents about those who break up and find out that they are pregnant. i guess i'm lucky b/c me and my fiance just recently got engaged and found out about my pregnancy recently too. Luckily i have good christian man who loves me, and won't leave me.

 

so be careful. i'm no expert about the pre-cum thing, but wear a condom to be safe.

[RNB2B]

Thanks to those of you who have replied. I posted almost two weeks ago about this and it's still too early to take a pregnancy test. I am really hoping that I have nothing to worry about, but I realize there is still a chance. I do have a question for SunnyScott...You got pregnant the same way, but was it near the end or during your period? Or was it during your ovulation period? I"m trying to weigh my odds because I'm still a little worried about being pregnant. I guess I would really like someone to just tell me that there's no way Im pregnant, but I know that is not going to happen. I'm rambling, but I'm trying to make myself feel better. My fiance is totally supportive of whatever the outcome. I am so fortunate to have such a wonderful Christian man who loves me unconditionally. But anyway, thank you all! I really appreciate it.