help i wanna ask this girl out but...

[ineedhelpplease]

hello all.. im not one normally to ask for help but im prtty stuck and i would need advice.

 

heres how it is...

for about a year now ive liked this girl at school.... shes really pritty in my eyes but yet non of the other lads in my year seam to like her in the same way..... she is a shy girl and is the smartist girl in our year... (year 11 in egland thats 15/16 year olds)...

 

last november i managed to pull up enough courage to go round to her house and tell her how i felt about her... but i couldnt ask her out... i just said to her "i like you alot..." and she asked "what are you trying to say?" and i repeted myself.... "im trying to say that i like you... alot..." i couldnt say it... but she said that she didnt know me.... i went home and i had an idea id phone her and ask her to go as friends out to see this film in town... she said "no im sorry, but id rather us be just friends for now in school..."

 

then someone found out that i liked her and spreaded it all arround school and i found out from her friends that she was "freaking out" about me liking her... :S.

 

i cant even speak to her...i say to myself "right im gogin to go and say hello and have a conversatio nwith her". i see her and i cant say it and i bail out...

2 weeks ago in chemestry i managed to say "hello" in a jittery nervous voice... she didnt answer me.. its possable that she didnt hear me thou...

 

4 days ago it was her 16th b-day... i couldnt even say happy b day to her. i was goner get her a card and stuff but i thought it may cause her to "freak out" more.. :S

the day after her b-day i managed to say "hi im sorry i didnt say happy birthday to you yestoday i didnt have an opputunity to do so... so happy birthday" and she said "thanks" in her nice shy voice...

 

i find myself thinking about her non stop, and id really like to go out with her... im not like all the other guys at my school (ie sex happy) but i find myself pritty ugly even thou some people say im not...

 

i had a bad reputation thou where half the people in the school seam to have somethign agenst me even thou i dont do anythign wrong... which im sure isnt helping...

 

i just need advice... in 10 weeks its our exams and after the exams i leave school and will prob never see her again unless i do somethign...

 

i dont know what to do... ill take any advice u can give me...

 

 

i like her alot but i dunno wat to do... i think one of her best m8s dosnt like me that much allthough talks to me i dont htink she likes me... and the girl i like is never allown in school only allown on a night when shes at home sometimes...

 

please i ask of your guidence :S....

 

 

 

oh and...

oh and i did talk to her a bit.. last year i used to sit next to her in maths and i talked to her a bit then... much harder now for me to.... much much harder.

 

i was at my friends house and online he was tlaking to her best m8 (the one that dont like me that much i dont think.) and he asked her if the girl i liked likes anyoen at school..

she said that the girl i like dosnt want a bf right now...

 

 

when i was talking to her that night in november when i showed up she was a little surprised hwen i told her i liked her she was clearly shocked and held her hand on her chest when i said it... if its relevent...

 

anyways...

 

please help.

[ilinara]

It doesn't sound as if she is interested. I would not do more than asking her friend again.

[ineedhelpplease]

just wat i dint wanna hear

[ineedhelpplease]

im thiking of getting her a valentines card,... insiade putting that i still really like her...

 

wat u think

 

also wat else should i put in the card? im not good at that sort of stuff.

[ineedhelpplease]

something new happened:

i talked to her!

 

i talked to her on tues in school.. i asked her if she hated me and she said that she didnt h8 me. (woot).

 

she had a cold so i wished her ot get well soon.. and i talked to her a bit.

her friend in frount of her gave me her email address also... and when her friend turned back to her and said that i now had her address she said "what?" and became a little more embarased.

 

she actes more embarased arround me then others, she shoulnds much more shy when speaking to me then when shes speaking to her friends or other people.

 

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tonight i was speaking to the person which gave me her email online, i asked her if she thought i had a chance with her. she said "honistly, no, because she is not interested in boys."

 

is this uncommon.. a 16 year old girl not interested in boys.. or is htis a lie or is this a lie from her to cover up who she really likes?

 

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i like this girl alot, she means alot to me i cant sotp thinking about her every min of everyday. and im crazy about her. and i admit to it, she knows i like her but idont know what to do.

10 weeks until ill never see her again unless i do something. i need advice. Because i care about her. Im going to get her a valentines card but im also thinking "should i sign it?" my friends think i should but some people say u never sign a valentines card...

 

my best friend thinks im weird for chooseing the girl i did as the girl i love, but i dont care what he thinks. he only thinks that because no one else in the school fanceys her (or admits it, there all agesnt me secretly loveing her...) . But if theres even a slight chance she likes me id like to take it. ive liked her for over a year now and all id love is a hug off her to be honist and it would make all the itme ive had in school worth while... but i dunno what to do.

 

does she like me?

do i have a chance?

even if its a slight one?

what should i do?

 

 

help me please. thank you.

[biggyg43]

hey what you said reminds me of somthing that's happened to me before, some stuff like that. however, i know that you don't want to hear that she doesn't seem interested, but truly thats what it sounds like. yeah it hurts, but you can't try to make her like you. i think that if you make her that valentines card it will just make her think worse of you. i think you should just try to be her friend if you actually care about her, because she doesnt seem interested in you. sorry

[ineedhelpplease]

that brings me onot my next point...

 

how to get over this... help!... coz when this sinks in in hte morning ?(very tied atm) ill be very upset.

[biggyg43]

well i'm never been really good at geting over girls, usually i just start liking a diferent girl. like all year i've really liked this girl, but then i was too afraid to ask her for her number and now i'm never gonna see her again, i think that was a dumb mistake on my part, but now somehow i'm over it. it just happens i guess, if u think about trying to get over her, then u wont...but just try to carry on with your life. like okay you are graduating school soon, so you have more in life to care about then this girl. in a couple of months ull look down on this as somthing funny that happened in your life. so you should just try to have a good time while ur still in school.

[TurboRB]

Dude, if she's that hard to get she isn't worth it. Trust me.

 

If she knows you are interested in her, she should show interest in you if she wants you. If not, then it's not your job to pry it out of her.

 

There are MANY MANY others in the world, don't waste time thinking about this one if she doesn't show any sign of wanting a relationship.

 

This may be some kind of game for her, if you feel that it is, then simply ask her "Am I someone you'd EVER be interested in? Because I really like you and I want to get to know you."

 

If you don't get a satistfactory answer from her, then say "alright then" and walk away.

 

I'm not trying to act as if I know what's best for you, I too have my problems with girls. I'm somewhat shy around them sometimes. But I do know that if a girl likes you, then she would show you or give you better responses when you tell her "I like you alot".

 

Good luck man. Let us know what happens.

[ineedhelpplease]

ok heres wats happened today... chemestry today.. coursework lession i sit infrount of the girl i like... i just said hi to her nothign else i nhtis lession... me and my m8s were messin with calculators writeing stuff on it... and i managed to write 4 4 eva! on it

 

then she walked past me and i oh crap and covered up the screen... i didnt think she saw it.

 

then this afternoon in geog i said hi to her again in geography.. then after geog i was talking to her when gogin to science. Just talking about stuff.. where shes heading next which lession and i asked her if her cold was better and she said yer its much better and i said thats good then... then i asked her for directions to a rom and i was given em from her which was nice...

 

so nowt much happened today... but i dont wanna leave it.... shes a perfect girl...................................................................................................................... oh well ill keep u upto date on thigns.

[Silversun]

then someone found out that i liked her and spreaded it all arround school and i found out from her friends that she was "freaking out" about me liking her... :S.

 

I have had similar problems recently, the girl I like has only been giving me one word answers.... However, I do see potential...

 

I think that girls tend to be fairly quiet and shy around people they don't know. More so If they like you, I think you just need to get to know this girl well, either through friends or whatever. First find out from friends if she likes you.

 

You could even go with her mates to clubs, etc.

 

I hope I've helped. Take it easy... and Good Luck!

[ineedhelpplease]

i tryed finding out from her best m8 if she likes me.

she said shes not intrested in boys atm... ???? lie or truth u think for a 16 year old girl which is very smart and shy and perfect

[ineedhelpplease]

i need advice.. but i dont wanna leave it, its been 2 long for me to leave it with her goign soon. all advice is welcome thou...

(god knows how many times i check this for replys )

[TheBigBalbowski]

i need advice.. but i dont wanna leave it, its been 2 long for me to leave it with her goign soon. all advice is welcome thou...

(god knows how many times i check this for replys )

 

I feel very sorry for you friend. I joined because I want to tell you to keep your spirits up. Just because she doesn't like you doesn't mean there won't be other girls who will find your affection and loyalty most attractive. Make sure to not become too obsessed with this girl though as in don't type in her name on search engines just to see what she's doing and stuff like that. When she leaves let her go. Make sure she has your phone # so if she decides she wants to talk to you she will be able to. Just make sure to not obsess, you need to find an activity to do every time you think about her as soon as she leaves. Take a jog or go workout.

 

I say this to you because I have an ex who cannot get over me (not sounding arrogant). She calls and wants to get back together but it pushes me away from her. She just seems crazy when she does things like this. I take it this is your first serious crush like this and I hope you will find someone else to move onto very soon because that will be for the best. Good luck friend.