BronzedSkin123 Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 I noticed a pattern in this forum where there are a lot of guys in my age group making posts about how they want to date a teenager that is around 15/16/17..I thought it would be awhile before I noticed men in my age group dating younger women. These posts make men seem incredibly shallow like a girl in her 20s is probably too old for some of these young men out here Link to comment
lady00 Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 I noticed a pattern in this forum where there are a lot of guys in my age group making posts about how they want to date a teenager that is around 15/16/17..I thought it would be awhile before I noticed men in my age group dating younger women. These posts make men seem incredibly shallow like a girl in her 20s is probably too old for some of these young men out here I don't know any twenty something year olds (the age group that I spend most of my time with), men or women, who date or want to date teenagers. I guess there are people who post here saying that but I think they don't really realize what that entails. Link to comment
Tethys Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 Hm, I have a spider sense that this thread will be locked soon. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted November 1, 2008 Author Share Posted November 1, 2008 I don't know any twenty something year olds (the age group that I spend most of my time with), men or women, who date or want to date teenagers. I guess there are people who post here saying that but I think they don't really realize what that entails. In this forum there are a lot of posts by guys who are in their early to mid20s inquiring if it's all right for them to date a 15/16 year old. And I hear a lot of teen girls say how older men in their 20s beyond are chasing after them like crazy because they are so young. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 I noticed a pattern in this forum where there are a lot of guys in my age group making posts about how they want to date a teenager that is around 15/16/17..I thought it would be awhile before I noticed men in my age group dating younger women. These posts make men seem incredibly shallow like a girl in her 20s is probably too old for some of these young men out here Can you show me where just more than one of these are? I can't say i see that very often. Only a random and occasional thread but certainly not a trend. Link to comment
lady00 Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 Hi Bronzed, you posted on a similar issue before. If you don't mind my asking, why are you preoccupied with this general topic? Do you feel you are being passed over by guys because of age? I noticed that you are only 23, but still, wondering if you feel this way. Link to comment
coldplay. Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 Ive thought about it, not dating younger girls, but ive taken an objective look at young girls and realized im not very attracted to them. I mean sure there are exceptions, but +/- 3 years is the most i can say im attracted too. But i have deviated from my 3 year thing, though i didnt seek out those situations. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted November 1, 2008 Author Share Posted November 1, 2008 Can you show me where just more than one of these are? I can't say i see that very often. Only a random and occasional thread but certainly not a trend. Link to comment
Maelstrom X Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 The good news is you'll have alot of forty and fifty-somethings coming after you. Men, shallow? C'mon now, a hot chick is a hot chick no matter the age...jk... Link to comment
lady00 Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 It's kind of impossible to tell if that is really a trend. There are tons of posts on ENA of twenty somethings dating other twenty somethings or older people...hard to tell what's really the trend. I can only speak from my own life experience. What about your offline experience? Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted November 1, 2008 Author Share Posted November 1, 2008 Hi Bronzed, you posted on a similar issue before. If you don't mind my asking, why are you preoccupied with this general topic? Do you feel you are being passed over by guys because of age? I noticed that you are only 23, but still, wondering if you feel this way. Yes, I do worry about guys passing me over for teenagers who look more young and have that naive look. Especially as I get a bit older it stresses me out and I have yet to find a boyfriend. I wonder if it's because I look too old and don't have that 'naive' aura Link to comment
DN Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 Two swallows don't make a spring. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 Yes, I do worry about guys passing me over for teenagers who look more young and have that naive look. Especially as I get a bit older it stresses me out and I have yet to find a boyfriend. I wonder if it's because I look too old and don't have that 'naive' aura Geesh. Why would you WANT a guy who would pass you over for a teenager? Bronzed, guys like that are perpetual teenagers themselves. For God sakes don't cry an tears over there passing you up! Link to comment
lady00 Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 Geesh. Why would you WANT a guy who would pass you over for a teenager? Bronzed, guys like that are perpetual teenagers themselves. For God sakes don't cry an tears over there passing you up! I agree. And I guarantee you Bronzed, there are plenty of guys in our age range that do not want to date teens and that want to date adult women in this age range. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted November 1, 2008 Author Share Posted November 1, 2008 It's kind of impossible to tell if that is really a trend. There are tons of posts on ENA of twenty somethings dating other twenty somethings or older people...hard to tell what's really the trend. I can only speak from my own life experience. What about your offline experience? When I catch the bus from campus, I see a lot of young teen girls who looks about 15 catching the eye of guys my age & up. Of course they are dressed very provocative. I start to feel a bit insecure because of my physical maturity compared to them. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 YOu call this a trend? These sound like isolated cases where the guy fell for a 16 year old girl. I didn't read the entire thread but what I saw did not seem like these were guys who set out on purpose looking for someone that young and they both feel "odd" about the age gap. I think you are so super sensitive with your own looks and you have such low esteem that you get obsessive on things like this that are fruitless to worry about. TWo threads about two guys who fell for a younger girl is not a "trend". What do you say about the countless threads here about younger guys who have fallen for girls five years or more his senior? I probably see more of those, but I still wouldn't call it a "trend". Both situtaions occur at a similar rate. Link to comment
lady00 Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 When I catch the bus from campus, I see a lot of young teen girls who looks about 15 catching the eye of guys my age & up. Of course they are dressed very provocative. I start to feel a bit insecure because of my physical maturity compared to them. I can't help but doubt that a guy will not date you because you are 23 and not 15. I think there may be other reasons (can't really know because we can't read their minds of course) but I don't think this is a major reason that a man will pass up dating a woman. Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 To the OP once again you are focusing entirely on outer appearance...why? do you really want to be with a guy who only sees a girl for who she is on the outside? Why don't you spend some time working on your intelligence, your character, your sense of humour and your values so you can meet a man of substance who will stand by you through hard times and grow with you. The guys that are dazzled by shiny things have a short attention span and are materialistic and shallow...real men want substance... Link to comment
Jelina Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 I sort of agree with you, but not when it comes to this board. I do remember however when I was a freshmen in high school the same thing happening. Guys that had already graduated high school or dropped out, probably in their late teens 18,19, or older than 20 would come and park their cars or walk to our high school just so they can hit on the girls. It was pretty sad, they would all be there, right after school, just to pick up young girls....and no I don't mean picking up their sisters. I mean literally parking outside to get some 15 yr old girl's number. Link to comment
DN Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 How many men do you actually know in your age range who are dating teenagers several years younger than themselves? It isn't something I have noticed - there may be a year or two but not that sort of differential. Link to comment
Tethys Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 Argh... why am I posting? Why? I can't help myself....argh. Maybe I should outline the arguments that will come -- about seed spreading and youth and .. oh who cares. I have continually gotten flak personally because of this stance: that younger men can find older woman attractive, nay, even beautiful. Anytime this comes up, certain people come on to tell woman that they are useless after a certain age (this is my paraphrasing, mind you) and then the thread devolves and gets locked, with good reason. Sorry if I have contributed to the same controversy I am .. ah, nevermind. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 I can't help but doubt that a guy will not date you because you are 23 and not 15. I think there may be other reasons (can't really know because we can't read their minds of course) but I don't think this is a major reason that a man will pass up dating a woman. Yea and i really worry about the mental stability of someone who would freak out with worry over something like this. Bronzed, not calling you nuts but I am saying I think you are obsessive on negative things like this and I think you should see a counselor. You will never be happy like this. I can feel your unhappiness jumping out of the screen in your threads. Link to comment
BronzedSkin123 Posted November 1, 2008 Author Share Posted November 1, 2008 To the OP once again you are focusing entirely on outer appearance...why? do you really want to be with a guy who only sees a girl for who she is on the outside? Why don't you spend some time working on your intelligence, your character, your sense of humour and your values so you can meet a man of substance who will stand by you through hard times and grow with you. The guys that are dazzled by shiny things have a short attention span and are materialistic and shallow...real men want substance... Because men treat you a certain way depending on how you look..and I feel important when a guy finds me attractive Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted November 1, 2008 Share Posted November 1, 2008 I somehow don't think it is the norm for twentysomething guys to want to date 16 year olds. If you look on this forum alone you will see that most twentysomething guys are dating twentysomething women. True that many guys want to date younger women but 16 year olds...nah. Link to comment
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