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[donescobar2000]

I went on an out with my family to some casinos. I was upset and feeling down all day because I had not heard from her since Valentine's Morning.

 

I finally get an IM on my cellphone from her saying Hi. So I replied. I said hey. At the time I was upset. So I said hey how are you? She says fine. I go on to ask when am I going to hear your voice? She says maybe when I get finished with my paper. So I go on bickering at her once again. I said. Maybe huh? Then I go on to say. Can't you what I am offering to you? Do you not want happiness? So she answers by saying, "I am getting offline I am upset." She got offline. As soon as she got offline I called her.

 

We argued again about what we argue about everyday. Me and her getting back together. The same issue, in which I bring up the same questions. I ask what do you honestly want from me? Are you playing games? Do you want what I am offering. Everyday that I ask those questions, She gives me the same answers. she says yes I want to get back with you but not at the moment. She says I know what I want, I am not wasting my time. She say yes I want what you offering me.

 

So after a while of argueing, I give her ultimatim. I said, "Crystal if you tell me now to get out of your face right now, I will suck it up like a man and be on my way." "I'm sure you will finde happiness elsewhere, and I wish you goodluck." I also said, "You need to decide now, Take me back now or let me go. She said goodbye. So then she calls me back. We talk like humans again and tells me that she wants everything I am offering. She did not say that she wanted to get back together. But I asked if I could date her at least. She said yes. Before she said yes she said, give me reason why I should. So said everything I have done should show you. I believe she is being hard because I was controlive when I was with her. She feels she wants to be in control now. Please suggest something. I know I left deatail out so ask me please. Ask me what reactions she had. Maybe that can clear things up a little on her true feelings. Feel free to look at my other post t!

hanks.

[SwingFox]

Hi donescobar,

 

I am sorry to hear what you have gone through. This message has been posted quite a while ago and I hope that you're doing and feeling better now.

 

As for my suggestion: unfortunately you cannot force someone in loving you. It looks like that this young woman has a few things going on in her life that she needs to sort out first, before she wants to get back to you again. That takes a little time.

 

The truth is though that I live by a rule in life, that says: "The only obligation YOU have in life, is the obligation for YOU to be happy. If YOU are not happy, YOU cannot make someone else happy." I would recommend you to focus on yourself. What do you need in life/relationships and set some boundaries. What is acceptable for you. You tried to do the right thing by setting her an ultimatum, because you feel ignored and neglected. I am not saying that you shouldn't wait for her, but my question would be: how long are you still gonna wait for her? Another month? Half a year? A year?

 

I hope that this helped you on your way and I wish you good luck in making the right decisions that work for you.

 

~ SwingFox ~