Interrogation

[KilledByLove]

hi everyone

 

i would like some advice for a problem that i encounter alot. i was told by a girls best friend, who is also my friend, that her friend (lets call her Kathy) had the hots for me. i had the hots for her a while back, but she just wanted to be friends, and thats what we've done. i've had a girlfriend since then, she's had a boyfriend since then (both our firsts), but she told me she didnt really like her boyfriend and my girlfriend moved away, so we're both single again. now, i asked her out, and she said she'd think about it, and then she didnt answer so we just forgot about it, but that same friend told me that kathy told her that she doesnt want a boyfriend, and that i can wait til she does if i want to. nowadays, when i hang out with kathy after school, sometimes she asks me who i have the hots for, and constantly nags me. i've given her the hints that she's our age and that she goes to our school. i'd just like some general advice on what to do in these situations. thanks

[littlestar]

Sounds to me like she is playing games and its not very nice of her to suggest to for you to wait until she is ready to have someone in her life.

You should never have to put your life on hold and wait for no one.

[amure]

dont keep yourself waiting lol.

 

make it hard for her to stay away ;-)

maybe even make her jelious

 

good luck

[KilledByLove]

thanks for all your support, but i'd like some ways to get through the interrogations thanks. and i dont wanna be a bastard or anything and i kinda have the hots for the kathy girl but i dont wanna ruin the friendship. thanks

[Dragunov-21]

Just tell her you like her. If she's interested, she'll go for it, if not, you can move on and stay just friends, and she'll stop nagging (with any luck).

[ghost69]

tell her 'why does it matter to you so much?' she will feel alienated when you say that. it should keep her quiet and tell her that you are moving on. ... which you should be doing.

[KilledByLove]

usually some more of our mates are there (girl mates)...how do you suggest i go about telling her with them there? how do i tell her? will it ruin the friendship? thanks

(sorry for asking so many questions)

[ghost69]

why does her friends being around matter?

[Dating Coach]

Actions speak louder than words. If she really did have the hots for you she wouldnt need to "think about it"... and even if by some odd circumstance she did... you deserve more than to sit around and wait for her to decide. You should be with someone who DOESN'T need to think about whether or not they want to go on a date with you.