oh my god... ho Posted August 27, 2008 Share Posted August 27, 2008 I broke up recently w/ a guy because of religious differences. He is extremely Christian and can't accept that I do not share all the same beliefs that he does. When we first starting dating, I told him I had an interest in going to church, which is true. But how can he expect me to be 100% a believer? Growing up, I did not go to church. Now, I believe in God, but I am very open minded. I would never tell someone else that their religion is wrong--his response to that was, "I would." That right there turned me off. He said to be a good Christian he has to believe that he is right, and other religions are wrong. Also, if you are not a Christian, then basically that means you're going to hell. I have no concept of that. I would never want to believe in a religion where all non-believers go to hell, regardless of how good of a person they are. His belief is so strong that even though I would raise my children to go to a Christian church, that's not good enough. He said his spirituality is how he lives his everyday life and that God is the most important thing to him (it even supersedes relationships). He doesn't want my beliefs to influence our potential kids because that would confuse them, plus he doesn't want them to believe what I believe (mainly that everyone who is good will go to Heaven regardless of religion). Did I mention they speak tongues at his church??? I feel like his religious beliefs are pretty extreme. When I asked why he didn't just date someone in his church he said he'd tried that but they didn't like his drinking, smoking, and partying. Doesn't that go against Christian beliefs anyway?! I have accepted him for all that he is, yet he cannot accept me for my beliefs, or at least not in terms of ever starting a family together. I have never felt discriminated in this way before, and it makes me a little sad that this is why a relationship has to end. He hasn't even had a gf in 7 years, and I've met his friends & family--everyone loves me but still apparently I'm not good enough. I guess I'm just looking for people's thoughts on this. Link to comment
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