rjw524 Posted June 26, 2008 Share Posted June 26, 2008 Hello, My name is R.J. I'm a 33 years old male. I have visited this site often, but never as a member until now. I have literally been crushed by heartbreak in my life. I have read the stories of many people on this site who have been broken up with or "dumped", and I can totally relate. As a matter of fact, I can do more than relate. My reactions to being dumped or rejected by people with whom I was in love, have been even more distressing and emotionally upheaving than many of the stories I have a read here. Now, please understand, I am NOT trying to minimize anyone else's pain or heartbreak. Also, I'm not trying to "compare" depths of pain here. I am only attempting to demonstrate that I have been to "rock bottom" and I learned how to break it's oppressive and destructive hold. I have been there... 1) Depression 2) Not wanting to live anymore 3) Staying in bed 4) Not eating 5) Being "obsessed" (I prefer to call it "fixated" on a certain person) 6) Not believing I could live or be happy with them 7) Feeling worthless, hopeless & unloveable 8) Wondering non-stop what I did wrong or how could "she" leave me so easily. 9) Giving away my dignity with repeated attempts to get the person back 10) Scheming and plotting 11) Losing my job on a couple of occasions due to an inability to concentrate on anything else other than the relationship. 12) Complete loss of self-esteem 13) Wondering if I was going crazy or losing my mind. 14) Not believing that I would find anyone else. 15) Feeling insecure, jealous, and wondering if she would ever call me or contact me again. And more...lol MY DISCLAIMER I am NOT a psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist of any kind. I have simply been where many of you are currently. AND I MADE IT OUT! I will also say that I never, EVER did anything remotely violent, or dangerous to any of the women I was involved with. I never resorted to stalking, threatening, or violence with anyone I dealt with. So, if you are experiencing these types of feelings or engaging in these kinds of behaviors I would seriously suggest that you see a professional. Ok...now that we've gotten that out of the way, let's get to the good stuff! (it starts with the next post...) Link to comment
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