ConfusedDater Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 This girl is coming to see me from out of town and it happens to be on my birthday weekend and I just feel strange FOOTING the bill on my birthday. I mean I know men are expected to pay but don;t you kind of get away from that stuff on your birthday? So i was thinking about postponing the day what do u guys think? Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Do you have anything else to do on your birthday? Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 why did your originally agree on this day? Link to comment
Caterina Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Why did you plan it on your brithday? Call her back and ask for a different day, no biggie. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted June 5, 2008 Author Share Posted June 5, 2008 Do you have anything else to do on your birthday? I will but spending money on someone would be kind of ODD on your birthday don;t you agree?? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 This girl is coming to see me from out of town and it happens to be on my birthday weekend and I just feel strange FOOTING the bill on my birthday. I mean I know men are expected to pay but don;t you kind of get away from that stuff on your birthday? So i was thinking about postponing the day what do u guys think? What's the big deal..so you have a date on your birthday...that could be kind of nice actually. If she is coming from out of town then I wouldn't re-schedule...just enjoy the outing. You don't have to do anything expensive.....what is the big deal if you have to pay for her on your birthday...a date is supposed to be a nice thing so enjoy the date and don't get so bent out of shape just because you have to pay on your birthday. Why not tell her it is your birthday..this could actually make the date even more special...and maybe she would even do something sweet for you to celebrate your birthday. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted June 5, 2008 Author Share Posted June 5, 2008 why did your originally agree on this day? I wasn't thinking about at the time and then realized-"i'm not buying anyone dinner on my birthday". Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted June 5, 2008 Author Share Posted June 5, 2008 What's the big deal..so you have a date on your birthday...that could be kind of nice actually. If she is coming from out of town then I wouldn't re-schedule...just enjoy the outing. You don't have to do anything expensive.....what is the big deal if you have to pay for her on your birthday...a date is supposed to be a nice thing so enjoy the date and don't get so bent out of shape just because you have to pay on your birthday. Why not tell her it is your birthday..this could actually make the date even more special...and maybe she would even do something sweet for you to celebrate your birthday. but i like having FUN on my birthday and me you are both old enough to know that there is nothing FUN about a first date Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 This girl is coming to see me from out of town and it happens to be on my birthday weekend and I just feel strange FOOTING the bill on my birthday. I mean I know men are expected to pay but don;t you kind of get away from that stuff on your birthday? So i was thinking about postponing the day what do u guys think? you only get free stuff on your birthday under the age of 12 at Chuckee Cheeses...after that we man up and pay Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 I wasn't thinking about at the time and then realized-"i'm not buying anyone dinner on my birthday". well, you can either suck it up, or you can cancel on her. i know what i would do. and if she knows its your bday, or finds out it is...she's likely to offer something. Link to comment
LanceVanceDance Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 First dates can most definitely be fun. Why not? But the question is, were you going to do anything else if you didn't have this date? If so, then "it's my birthday and I have (so and so) planned" is a pretty good excuse to get out of a date (as long as you only use it once a year ), it shouldn't be a problem for her to understand. But if you have nothing else planned on that day, seriously, who cares if you have to pay dinner? It would be OK for you to pay on the day before and on the day after, but not on that specific day? I'm guessing you're too old for this kind of attitude. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 I will but spending money on someone would be kind of ODD on your birthday don;t you agree?? I don't agree. It is nice to be treated on your birthday sure. But - she'd be coming out of town to visit you - that should be birthday treat enough, eh? but i like having FUN on my birthday and me you are both old enough to know that there is nothing FUN about a first date This is something that crossed my mind. Your birthday should be a fun and relaxing day. Not a day to stress like crazy. So maybe it would be better to reschedule on that note. Unless you can find a way to relax about it. I am telling you - we're gonna get a team of ENA'ers together and come your way to get you to relax about this dating thing! (amrt, ghost, anyone?) You put so much weight on dates. You should have the a different thought process like "I am going on a date. Just a date - an evening of fun and we'll go from there." Rather than the "Is this the person I am going to marry" thought process that gets you frazzled... You know? Link to comment
hers Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 There's no law that says you shouldn't pay on your birthday. If she's coming from out of town, then I think you are both doing your part. Relax and have a good time. And stop being cheap. Dates cost money. You have this goal to go on a lot of dates, so pay for them and stop griping about it. Look at it this way--you coudl be sitting at home in your underwear and writing crap on ENA on your birthday. Which do you choose? Link to comment
cfcommunist Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Dude I feel your pain, but Uhh.. like most have said, Its time to man Up. Wait until you're married and have a child/children... you don't get a break, even if you call off work. On my last birthday I ended up driving 6 1/2 Hours each way to pick my wife up from her sister's place thats just over the state line... I ended up stopping on the way home to grab dinner and we had a nice evening, but i payed for it, over $120! But yanno what, I had a nice evening with someone I loved and that was worth it, so my advice is grow up and have a nice evening!. Link to comment
Gratsy Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 I still dont' see the problem with just telling her that another day is better. Especially b/c now you're going to resent this poor woman before you even see her just because the day happens to be your birthday. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Cancelled first dates.... He'd be so upset if someone cancelled a first date on him. Many people would. On that note - - - Are you thinking about cancelling because you're worried that she may cancel and that would ruin your birthday cd? Link to comment
hers Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Does she know it's your birthday? Maybe if you go out, you can mention playfully that it's your birthday and she may end up paying for you, so you don't have to worry about paying, whooptido. Link to comment
FreeFalling Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 This girl is coming to see me from out of town and it happens to be on my birthday weekend and I just feel strange FOOTING the bill on my birthday. I mean Most of us look at dating as a means to a wonderful, committed relationship - or at the very least, a night of fun ( ) - I think both of those ends far outweigh this strange phobia of 'footing the bill' on your birthday. Suck it up man, it's no big deal... just have your 'birthday/rest' time the next day. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 There's no law that says you shouldn't pay on your birthday. If she's coming from out of town, then I think you are both doing your part. Relax and have a good time. And stop being cheap. Dates cost money. You have this goal to go on a lot of dates, so pay for them and stop griping about it. Look at it this way--you coudl be sitting at home in your underwear and writing crap on ENA on your birthday. Which do you choose? well spotted.... Link to comment
Gratsy Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Cancelled first dates.... He'd be so upset if someone cancelled a first date on him. Many people would. On that note - - - Are you thinking about cancelling because you're worried that she may cancel and that would ruin your birthday cd? Its not cancelled, its just planned for a different day...maybe even the next day. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Its not cancelled, its just planned for a different day...maybe even the next day. True~ Link to comment
hers Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Regardless, what else is he going to do on his birthday? Either way he'll be paying, evn if it's the next day. Money doesn't change b/c you had a birthday. I agree he shouldn't have planned a date for his bday if it would be such a big deal, but he's hellbent on dating right now, so he shoudl definitely suck it up and just go on it, birthday or not. Link to comment
Caterina Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Regardless, what else is he going to do on his birthday? Either way he'll be paying, evn if it's the next day. Money doesn't change b/c you had a birthday. I agree he shouldn't have planned a date for his bday if it would be such a big deal, but he's hellbent on dating right now, so he shoudl definitely suck it up and just go on it, birthday or not. But the issue for him is that he doesn't want to pay on specifically his birthday. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted June 5, 2008 Author Share Posted June 5, 2008 it's not really about the money, we all know that first dates can be unpredictable and not go well so why go through that on your birthday when you can deal with that the other days of the year? Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 I think not wanting to pay on your birthday is childish. You're not a kid anymore. Birthdays aren't that big of a deal when you get a bit older. If you don't want to pay than don't go...i don't think its a complex puzzle or problem. You just need to make a decision and either suck it up and pay on your birthday or not go out with her. Link to comment
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