Caterina Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 I don't know why, but when a guy is interested in me, I'm not interested. There is this guy who was like that and I wasn't sure if I liked him. Well, now he doesn't seem interested and all of a sudden I'm taking it personal and it also somehow makes him more intriguing! What is wrong with me? Why are people like this? Link to comment
eurocar Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 It's completely human. When something (or someone) is elusive and hard(er) to get, we want it much more. There are so many cliches and truisms based solely around this concept; I'm sure you're familiar with at least a few. This is why a lot of people play hard to get, because it motivates and interests the other person (or, at least, that is the hope/intention!). Link to comment
jettison Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 I don't know why, but when a guy is interested in me, I'm not interested. There is this guy who was like that and I wasn't sure if I liked him. Well, now he doesn't seem interested and all of a sudden I'm taking it personal and it also somehow makes him more intriguing! What is wrong with me? Why are people like this? Almost all of us are like this!!! I think that very few people are immune. Link to comment
Caterina Posted March 14, 2008 Author Share Posted March 14, 2008 Almost all of us are like this!!! I think that very few people are immune. But WHY? I know a lot of people are, but why? Also, I've used this principle to manipulate my circumstances a lot and it works every time...but isn't that horrible? Shouldn't we like someone for who they are not the challange they bring? Link to comment
jettison Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 But WHY? I know a lot of people are, but why? Also, I've used this principle to manipulate my circumstances a lot and it works every time...but isn't that horrible? Shouldn't we like someone for who they are not the challange they bring? We like all kinds of people for who they are. Actually, we love them for it. However, it doesn't necessarily mean we want to ram them with our love wand or be taken by them like a rabid animal stalking a rag doll in heat. Sexuality doesn't make sense like that all the time. Link to comment
PocoDiablo Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Ah you're perfectly normal. I talk about this all the time. It's simple: Supply and demand. Which would you prefer: A free used Ford Taurus station wagon, or a brand new convertible Mini Cooper, with racing stripes that cost $45,000? Most of us want what we cannot have. In relationships, it's called being attracted to challenge. You want something that is exciting, fun, and in high demand. This is why we all want to have a partner that is mysterious, flirtatious, sexy, all that stuff. It's FUN. People who are boring and predictable (albeit stable) get tiresome over time. No one wants to be with (what I call) a "spoiler" - like someone who tells you the ending to the book or movie before you've found out for yourself. Human nature says "Excitement rules." Enjoy, and welcome to the human race! Link to comment
Caterina Posted March 14, 2008 Author Share Posted March 14, 2008 There is this guy that always has flem in his throat. I hate his presense. God, he disgusts me! I don't say this about many people, but he also has this aggressive way about him that makes his voice even worse. Link to comment
jettison Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 There is this guy that always has flem in his throat. I hate his presense. God, he disgusts me! I don't say this about many people, but he also has this aggressive way about him that makes his voice even worse. Huh? Link to comment
Diggitydave Posted March 14, 2008 Share Posted March 14, 2008 Like Poco said, supply and demand. Don't play the odds and try to manipulate circumstances in your favor, just relax and let what happens happen. Link to comment
Raize Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 I don't know why, but when a guy is interested in me, I'm not interested. I have sometimes had similar situations. I have had a few girls interested in me over the years but most of them I decided at the time I wasn't interested in return. Usually because my heart was set on someone else at the time. Now, I am kicking myself for not taking the oppurtunity, because thinking back to them, a couple in particular, they were actually quite alright. I just decided otherwise at the time. Link to comment
snake_eater Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 Not everyone's like thuis but yer I know people who act like that lol it's the childish possesiveness coming out I think... Link to comment
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