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About 6 weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend, we have very different backgrounds. He spent his younger years using drugs and I got an education. When we met there were sparks and we ended up moving in together rather quickly a month after dating rather seriously. He had been living at home with his parents (by the way he is 27 and I am 26), and I had an duplex. I went into the relationship thinking this is fun I hadnt dated for a while but with the background differences I thought that was all it could ever be. I fell in love with him, but I have convinced myself now that maybe it was just attachment. Anyway, I now feel like he never really loved me though he said it often and that what he did like was what I could do for him. I have to tell you I am a very giving person and it made me feel great to help him in a way learn how to live. I have gotten over him though of course there are still strong feelings of attachment. Differences in morals is something I cant live with it makes it easier to let go. However, he called today and is having trouble keeping himself sober he feels lost without my guidance so to speak and has lost all the motivation he had been working so hard for. I want to help him to be his friend but I dont know if I am just setting myself up for heart break. I dont know if I will fall back into trying to make something work that I know cant work. I know that you cant make anyone change but everyone needs a friend and I want to be that for him. I think he knows we can only be friends right now and feels the same way. I would appreciate any advice or opinions of question on the situations.

I have been struggling with the question of monogamy. Is there really such a thing as a completely monogamous relationship out there? Its hard to believe i could ever find one when the statistics say 50% of male and 30% and rising female cheat on their partners. It has made me give serious thought to alternative lifestyles. Not free sex! But understanding, honesty and acceptance between partners to fool around. Gosh, that sounds awful, that is what my morals tell me. I guess I would like to hear peoples views on monogamy and non-monogamy in relationships.

I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago we had been living together for almost a year. I found an ad on an internet dating site basically looking for sex partners. I felt betrayed and I have always been very jealous in the relationship so I freak and kicked him out. The ad on the internet was not really the problem. The problem was my jealousy. I was always suspicious and looking for signs of cheating. I believe he was fateful to me and the internet dating ad was something he threw up when he was bored at work to see if he would get any responses. The reasons I think this is that he never plays on the internet at home. We are together almost all the time I really dont know when he would have found the time. And he gave me his password to his email which is how I found out he had put out a profile. My biggest concern is how can I get over the suspision and jealousy so I can get him back. I dont know for sure that he is not just playing me which drives me crazy but I am almost positive that he did not cheat on me. Is there a way to get over the suspicion and jealousy? How can you find trust?