Rhiannon5258

Hi There! This is my opinion - relationships are sometimes really tough, and you have to work at them. I have never known anyone who has been in the "perfect" relationship. I have known of really really great relationships, but even these required work. Figuratively speaking, love is like a plant - it needs to be "watered", it needs sunlight to grow, and you have to take care of it. You just cant leave it sitting there, or it will wither and eventually die. Love takes 2 people to make it work as well. It sounds like you are the only one caring and "watering" this relationship. Also, is it really worth asking this guy constantly if he loves you constantly? I can imagine that can me mentally and physically exhausting to keep up on. You should be with someone who YOU know loves you...not with someone who makes you wonder "Does he really love me?" all the time. What is he doing to make you wonder if he loves you? I believe that you love him, so only you will know what to do in this situation. I can only wish you the best of luck, and tell you that you are worthy of unconditional love...everyone is, and I sincerely hope you find it. -Rhiannon

Wow- Where do I start? This is very complicated. I have been with my fiance for almost 5 years now. We live together and have a wonderful relationship. When I first saw him @ a coffee shop, I knew we were destined to be together. I also suspected that he was gay/bisexual then. As time went on, I inquired if he was gay/bisexual, and he denied it(I still suspected it though). I even told him I have had sexual thoughts, and even sexual encounters with other women. I am a VERY open individual. One day 2 years ago, I found some pictures in a computer file (there were nude male pics), and this confirmed my inquiries. We talked about it, and once again, he denied he was gay/bisexual, he was only confused and curious. Sigh. Well, sadly enough, I kind of swept if under the carpet. We had a decent sex life, and I loved him so very much. Last week, I was a bit nosey and logged into his email account. What I found scared the hell out of me. I found 3 letters to a man in his "SENT" mail folder where he basically admitted he was bisexual, and was interested in seeing this guys "privates". He did not refer to me as his fiance, but as his girlfriend (at least he was honest with this guy). I told him that I found these letters right away. We have talked baout this situation for a lonnnnnnnng time, for hours every day. He answered all of my questions, but I still have a hard time trusting him. At least I got him to admit he was bisexual. He told me he loves me very much and he started crying when he thought i was going to leave him (he even vomited). I believe he loves me. But I don't believe this will stop. In the last letter this man wrote to my fiance(that I read), he asked my fiance to send him money for a stomach sugery. Apparently this guy is from Romania, and from the letters I read "gets paid to show his penis". My fiance knows it was a scam. This is scaring me!!! I really need someone to talk to. My closest friend thinks this realtionship is doomed, so talking to her makes me upset. I need someone who is open. Thank you so much, Rhiannon