dsikkema

As a female, I always want the guy to be the initiator of getting together. If you're interested in this girl, ask her to go out for a coffee. Coffee is casual enough that you wont scare her away. While you're out with her, you'll be able to tell if she's really interested. She will laugh a lot, smile, flirt, and most likely will say "yes" to another date. If this girl says "no" to you asking her out to coffee, then find out if another day would work. If she still isn't interested, then you have your answer. It sucks to get rejected, but it's better to take a chance than to leave it up to some other guy to snatch her away!

My best friend was dating a guy who I didn't like the first time I met him. After dating my friend for a week, he was jealous of other guys, including my friend's husband (she was separated at the time). I kind of "put him in his place" the first night we met each other by reminding him that he had no right to be upset, but this started a fight. He got really angry at me, and since then things have never been good between us. I tried reconciling with him, but he refused. I haven't seen him in about 6 months, but he still has a huge grudge against me. About a month ago, my friend broke up with him because he was so jealous and got mad over stupid things (like he did when I first met him). When they were fighting during their breakup, her boyfriend brought me up as an issue...after all this time!!!! It has now been over a year since our initial meeting. Unfortunately, my friend got back together with her boyfriend, and he said the only way it will work is if she lives a separate life with each of us (he and I). I agreed to "work things out" with him, but he refused. When she told her boyfriend that she mentioned to me that he wasn't interested in reconciling with me, he flipped on her. He expected her to lie about it and to pretend that he was busy and not that he really didn't want to reconcile with me. To make matters worse, now he is saying that a psychic said I am bad news and that I'm only out to "get" my friend. He keeps telling my friend to "watch her back" with me. He doesn't even know me! I don't know what to do anymore. My friend's boyfriend has some abusive tendencies in that he gets angry over stupid things, and he sees me (her only good friend) as a threat, which is why he hates me. He also yells at her all the time for these stupid things, and my friend backs down to him. That is not like her...she is normally a very strong woman. She knows where I stand, but I just can't support their relationship when he treats her and me like that. What should I do?