2 months post BU. One month mutual NC, for me to "work on myself", for her to "separate emotionally" - I wish she had told me that at the start and I would have gone permanent NC from the start instead of spending a month in painful limbo....Now 2 weeks into permanent NC after the phone call that made me realize how self-absorbed and emotionally insensitive she is. After dropping off a box of her stuff on her doorstep it still took a few texts for her to get the message that I was done.
It was her birthday on Sunday which was easier to cope with than expected, despite a slight setback from looking at Public profile pics on Facebook. 10 days ago I started dating somebody who everybody says is way better for me than she ever was. I still miss her and what could have been, but want her less as time goes by. Now her birthday has passed it should get easier.
For 2 years, it was so easy to be with her and we were extremely happy, but we didn't communicate our feelings and it was shallow and superficial. She said things were going so great, but she didn't want to commit to more and suddenly broke up. My new lady is hard work (or maybe a normal level of work), but I know her better in 2 weeks than I knew my ex in 2 years. and she tells me exactly how she feels and what she wants. Prettier, funnier, more talented, more expressive, crazier in bed...all awesome, but I still miss my easy, shallow princess....if she contacted me I would struggle to resist. Yes, I'm a masochist.