Jimbly

I know I'm going to break it in 3 weeks, but.....5 days!

....and back to Day 0. She texted me back a response to the text I sent when I last broke NC to see if she wanted to catch up. I didn't expect her to respond and say she'd like to meet up for lunch sometime! I'm not ready to be in contact with her. Anyway, I am dating somebody new who is better for me. I accidentally sent her a text intended for my buddy saying "I meant we could catch up on the phone or by IM. I didn't mention meeting up". I think that was a good mistake to make. I need to stick with NC.

Day 1 Went super-smooth after the blip of ending 45 days NC on Friday. I met my new GFs entire family in one fell swoop. They are all awesome in every way. Amazing family dynamic, warped sense of humour, great communication between them all. I still miss my ex, but there was no annoying show-off sister, no introverted awkward but sometimes amusing little brother, no passive mother, and no biploar dad, who was the best of the bunch, although he lives in another state. No sign of a crazy Aunt either, or the ex-husband of my ex GF who is still included as a member of the family (despite no kids). I had a blast today. Still having doubts about this new girl long term, but today was one of the most fun days I've had in months.

Day 0 I'd made it to day 45. I knew I was going to reach out eventually, but thought I could hold off for another few weeks. Our last dialogue 45 days ago involved me telling her off and wishing her a happy life. I've regretted not leaving the door open for any communication ever since. I originally planned to send a couple of lines by email. But, I felt the reason for texting her today was reasonable. She works on Fridays at the VA hospital that is part of the campus I am on. They had a lockdown this afternoon because there was a gunman loose. I send a text to check she was safe and to take care. I was surprised she responded so quickly with a friendly text. She had finished her shift and left just minutes before the lockdown (her shift used to end 4 hours later, I guess she changed it). At least she didn't ask me any questions and just ended with "Hope you're well They got the gunman pretty fast with no shooting

Day 40. Why has it got harder, not easier the past 10 days? I think it's the gorgeous weather bringing back memories of all the fun times we had camping and hiking, walking her dogs, and hanging out on the swings at the local playground. Hopefully a small bump as I move to the future without her.

70 days since BU followed by 4 weeks of an agreed fixed-term NC, then I went full NC 31 days ago. This week was really tough for the most irrational reason! I've been dating somebody new for 4 weeks who is really great, so much better for me than my ex, but she lives an hour away. We only see each other a couple of times a week, and this really made me start missing my ex, who I used to work with and saw several times a week besides at work. It's not so much my ex I miss (I re-read my list of negative things about our relationship which always helps), but the idea of being able to see my new girl more. Though I do miss my ex's company a lot. I am reminded of all the great times we had and then more comparisons follow (new girl wins). I've been tempted to break contact even though it makes no sense. Even spending time with the new girl last night didn't help. It's so darn annoying!!!

2 months post BU. One month mutual NC, for me to "work on myself", for her to "separate emotionally" - I wish she had told me that at the start and I would have gone permanent NC from the start instead of spending a month in painful limbo....Now 2 weeks into permanent NC after the phone call that made me realize how self-absorbed and emotionally insensitive she is. After dropping off a box of her stuff on her doorstep it still took a few texts for her to get the message that I was done. It was her birthday on Sunday which was easier to cope with than expected, despite a slight setback from looking at Public profile pics on Facebook. 10 days ago I started dating somebody who everybody says is way better for me than she ever was. I still miss her and what could have been, but want her less as time goes by. Now her birthday has passed it should get easier. For 2 years, it was so easy to be with her and we were extremely happy, but we didn't communicate our feelings and it was shallow and superficial. She said things were going so great, but she didn't want to commit to more and suddenly broke up. My new lady is hard work (or maybe a normal level of work), but I know her better in 2 weeks than I knew my ex in 2 years. and she tells me exactly how she feels and what she wants. Prettier, funnier, more talented, more expressive, crazier in bed...all awesome, but I still miss my easy, shallow princess....if she contacted me I would struggle to resist. Yes, I'm a masochist.

I have a few.... A friend wasn't ready to marry even after living together for a year or so, so broke up mutually with his GF. He moved a few hours drive away to start Med school. After a month of NC and dating others he reached out. They slowly got back together and have been married for 4 years now. Work colleague broke up with her high school sweetheart after 8 years due to too much fighting. She started dating somebody else then realized she missed her ex. They've been married over 30 years. My Dad and Stepmum....this one is a bit crazy. My Dad cheated on my Stepmum after 15 years of marriage. He was 64 and the woman was 25 (go Dad lol)!!! He and my Stepmum divorced. 3 years later they remarried and were together 3 more years until he passed away. You never know what is going to happen in life, and while these stories give me hope for my own situation, it is always best to work on being the best YOU.