suzsmith123

I wrote you a private message. Please check your mailbox. Things will get better with time - I"m 35, have had this happen to me many times....and I've learned - YOU CAN GET OVER ANYONE....and there are so many people out there who love you the way you deserve but you have to start with yourself. Love yourself enough to say - if someone is capable of leaving me then it is their loss. And believe it, because it is true.

I also like to say to myself: "the extent to which I care for this man is the extent to which I dislike myself"....and it is true. If someone doesn't treat you right, and you let it happen, what does that say about you?

It gets easier...nobody is worth this amount of pain. Take it back - make this about you and tell her/him to never speak to you again. It will turn the tables and make you feel powerful. Soon you will forget and before you know it - somebody new will come along - maybe that somebody is you!

Yes! I am right where you are...and I was feeling so bad for 18 months - trying to save a relationship - be everything to this guy. He knew I would NEVER leave him. Until the other day when I finally said ENOUGH. I do not want to be with someone who on December 29th said we were headed toward marriage and then dumped me 13 days later...so after several begging, crying phone calls and finally wrote this email to him don't know why I call you. I've looked to you for two years for support, love and acceptance and you have never been there for me. Never. "You came to NYC - I helped you build a life here, I was unconditionally supportive and caring even when you broke my heart and ripped it to shreds, were completely insensitive and actually helped fuel many of my insecurities....and I wonder - how could I put myself through this time and time again for you? What kind of an idiot am I? I am slowly coming to understand that you could never give me the things that I want.....you are completely emotionally dishonest but I so wanted to believe in you....and you strung me along for two years. Just like Nicki - just like I always knew deep down that you'd do to me. Chris, if I ever call again I want you to hang up the phone. I do not want to EVER speak or hear from you again. EVER. I cannot be a friend to someone who on December 29th told me that we had made progress toward marriage and then dumped me 13 days later. You have no idea the kind of hurt you dumped on me. If this is what love has to offer me - I'm better off alone You have given me one gift - I'll never let anyone unhinge me again. Now give me another - and never communicate with me again." And the bond was broken! I feel better than I have in so very long - I feel strong and in the middle of everything in my life falling apart - I am detaching and feeling SO great. I never want to see or hear from him again - something I thought would break me has turned me into a force to be reckoned with.... I'm 35 - hate my career - no man in sight and I want kids.....and all of that might not happen now...but you know what? I feel great - I've got a niece who is two - that I adore - friends who have been so supportive of me during this time (even though I practically abandoned them for the boyfriend) and a healthy family...and I'm damn cute (self esteem is coming back) and you know - life is too short. I just want to love myself and devote my time and effort to the people in the world who give a damn. What an amazing turn around from last week when I was crying my eyes out. Just wanted to share - the original poster made me feel pretty good..... Thank yoU!