jakob

Considering your delemma with your X (your post on another forum from about 10 DAYS AGO) I would say you might want to become a little more honest with yourself and with others around you.

It's illegal where I live. If her parents are against it they can and will press charges, for good reason. There is a biological "puberty"/"adolescence" maturity gap. It is not just 4 years, it is 4 years that represent a milestone in personal growth. During that growth young adults learn by trial and error, sometimes with disasterous results. Don't take advantage of that naivete, that curious and fragile innocence. Be a man and understand the consequences of your actions, it may just save the two of you some serious pain.

Were you in the relationship for what it was or what you wanted it to be? When things are going up it's great. But it soon peaks...on the way down you remember that they were once good and perhaps will be so again, so you wait. It hits bottom and your patience pays off, the relationship takes a turn upward. Yipee!! After this happens once a cycle will inevitably creep into your life. The longer you stay on that rollercoaster the more investment you have in the relationship and the less likely you are to end things on the down swing (which pretty much means you never will...heck, you didn't end it in the beginning with the smaller investment why would you now?). After this anything can happen, abuse may occur because of the lack of consequences, fights may break out due to expectations involved in the (dysfunctional) relationship, it all depends on the people involved and their personalities. The cycle can be exteremely reinforced. The bad slumps of the relationship are encouraged in anticipation of the highlights. It can be quite an emotional endevor and mark anotherwise lacking relationship with a bizarre passion and intesity. This may have absolutley no relevance to your situation but I have seen it happen a few times... I wish you all of the best in your choice...be positive and stand on your own two feet, hold your chin up, and walk tall with confidence. Even if you have to fake it for a while keep it up...it may just take. Once you got that down you may be able to end the "break" and redefine your relationship with everyones best interests in mind.

Guys just like porn. It is the fantasy of being with a large volume of women, and the internet makes that number of women infinite. Think about it, I betcha he doesn't look at the same set of pictures (especially pictures of the same woman) over and over again. It is a fast paced montage. It has nothing to do with you it is just how guys are wired. Maybe try things to feed that primal need. Do you use roleplaying in your sex life? Wear a wig, have him pick you up at a bar, try costumes (you can get them at any fun shop)...(I know its sounds cliched and trite, but it is so for a reason!) Say things that are completely out of character...they will be convincing because of the new visual cues (and gain confidence in the understanding that you are in "character", so let loose!). He knows your personality...flip his lid with dialogue and action. You have a great opportunity to explore each others sexuality...the differences between male/female sexuality runs a bit deeper than just a few different body parts. It can be intense but try to remove all social conventions and have fun! Try to remove all barriers and see this as an opportunity!