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One of the truths of gay life, and it's a result of having to be so "closeted" because of social pressures, but it leads us to love the danger of the situation. Don't let that lie to you, especially if Cypress is that closeted. Isn't Cypress mostly Muslim???? Caution! First things first, as deeply closeted people have issues that can cause them to betray others. Conversation first, a friendly hand on their shoulder for a moment, maybe a smile and a wink. One must approach the situation with guarded caution, but with confidence that they have nothing to hide too. Things will then take a natural course, or end right there, whichever is best. Good luck.

Go read the scads of scientific evidence. Why are there gay mice, gay dogs and cats, gay zebra's, gay cheeta's and gay crocodiles? Oh, because there's no "gay gene"? Right, it exists in every life form, and has been in humanity from the beginning of time and history, but there's not a gene? Funny, then why does it seem to run in families, and why do they find a different hypothalmus in gay men and women than in their straight counterparts? Why, because you know better!

Hey there young man, Take it from me, and I've been gay for a long time, the gaydar radar will develop and you will soon enough learn to tell from a moment's glance. In the meantime, don't be rushing into anything. Trust me, the longer you wait, the more you mature, and then the more fun you will have when it's really time. And you will really know when it is really time, you won't have ANY questions.

I think the guy has some really big nerve saying he "needs" it. Every guy needs it, or so they think. How dare he? And what about your needs? Did he stop to think of them? What he is is called HORNY Don't you be what they call STUPID or EASY And don't even think of putting it in your mouth and allowing even pre-cum to get in there. CONDOMS before oral sex, and maybe since you can't figure out what he is really saying and why, perhaps you should consider that it's a bit too early for you to have any kind of sex until you understand better how to cope with unreasonable and demanding statements like his. Sex isn't casual, even if you think it is, it is NOT. Too many people are dead and buried from treating sex as casual. Hope this helps you to put your head on straight.

So, we've had a tremendous fight. It isn't easy living together and being in 2 businesses together, but we've been so admired for our ability to coexist and work that they wrote a book about us. But today, after being out for a few days, we got to work (in separate cars) and had a major blowout argument. We shouted and ranted and I left and came home. He doesn't seem to be able to accept responsibility for things he does. When I place the ball in his lap and point out something that maybe he shouldn't have taken for granted or even did wrong, instead of accepting responsibilty and getting on to the next point, such as how to avoid these pitfalls in the future, he just puts the responsibility back on me as if I did something wrong. Last week I went to work with a blown disc, came down with the flu and with 5 different meds, I finally stayed home in bed. I did participate in Thanksgiving and did some of the cooking and entertaining, but spent the next day in bed again. So today was the day of the fight. We patched it up, so to speak, but I can't get away from the feelings that I've been let down, disappointed in a trait that I have tried to point out and motivate to change for 31 years, and I've just had enough! I am working 7 days a week at tremendous expense to my health and well being, and for what? Someone who can't accept responsibility for making a mistake, no matter how menial or sever it may be? Important point to understand. I'm not one who holds a grudge and I don't ever allow him to feel like a failure in the end, so he has NO real reason not to trust me. He just doesn't allow us to get to the point where I can make him feel like a real success. It's a terrible trait in a really great person. Help with some kind of a perspective!!!! Lost in the hurt