You said it,
she has gotten over you, she is moving on, and it moves you
even stronger to hang on, to fight for that "love" you feel.
Now, keep the love for the children separate from the love for her.
Yes, you want to see the kids, and you should do your damnedest to
give them your all, your best, and remain their Dad. No matter when
and how, she is going to be there, all their lives, so deal with it and
learn to separate your feelings for them and her.
Many times we want something even MORE when we know we
can't have it. So when you go there to see the kids, why do you
think that she would have anything for you? Has she not shown
that her interests are not in you anymore?? So why punish
yourself. . . . . Why grasp for the crumbs, is that all you are worth?
NO>
Move on, find some peace in yourself, don't look to her or
anyone else for filling your heart and making you happy,
I'm not saying look to anyone else, that would just cover up
the real issue.
Which is that you were hurt, you were rejected and abandoned
as she has decided that you don't tickle her fancy anymore.
SUX. we know.
sooner you can leave the past right where it belongs, sooner
that you will again be able to sleep, laugh, hope and dream.
Best wishes for you,
Now, give them kids a big HUG and to Hell with her,
Dad