Samatha

I ask if there's a difference if it's the first or second BU in the relationship.. like, are the chances of getting back together bigger if it's the first BU... if after this, and coming back together, there are other BU, are chances of getting back together lower? Just asking out of curiosity..

what do you think about 3rd chances? like BU, and getting back and then BU again? is there the % lower?

may I ask what plan can be created?? (if someone ignores you still after 2 months (2 months are a lot, aren't they?) and thinks still bad stuff of you?)

Hi everyone.. could really need your adivce.. I already posted my story out there... trying to be short in my total 6 years story: -I'm 25 he's 35 -he already left me once saying he didn't loved me, better out without me, blabla, we had though contact and after a year he came back... changed country for me and we were happy.. until a few months ago, I had a bad time, stressing, nagging, moody, sad, irritating... and he felt he couldn't handle me anymore, even said 'he now knows how I really am (-.- after so many years)', and again the words he already said once : we only hurt eachother, find yourself another guy blabla.. difference: this time he is doing NC. he really doesn't wants to know anything about me. -in these months, he never searched for me, just answered back when I wrote or when late mails arrived to him, and each time he answered, in the beginning he was polite, then he become more and more bitter and almost aggressive.. time did nothing but to grow those ugly emotions of him. -probably he already has another one.. I stalked in the beginning and he was a lot out, and he's someone who finds without problems new women so and doesn't love to be alone... so... -also I got to know, he told all my friend I presented to him, that they wouldn't probabily see him again since he broke up with me. He even told his parents, family etc they wouldn't neither see ME again since it's definitive... he's still got a few weeks to decide wether to stay here or go away (other city, other country..). He didn't come up with exchanging our stuff yet, he mostly said it hurt him to see me since he's remembered of 'the bad things' I did to him. That would mean, the only thing that would create a point to see us a last time, is that of giving us the stuff (if he gives it personally), since he said, that the only contact he wanted to have, was that to give me my things and then it would be over. I'm really losing all hope, really thinking it's over for sure.. I'm doing without problem NC because NOW I really FEAR his reactions. What I don't understand is, how he can instead of lower down, grow up so much hatred and bitterness towards me.. time should calm him down, instead it's only growing, I really don't get it! (I shall remember, I never cheated or betrayed or lied or anything, it was just a stressful moment..)... Also everyone here, sooner or lesser in 3 months each ex has searched for them or called or at least made a first attempt.. mine: NOTHING... it's absurd.. any advice, any comments about his 'change' is greatly welcomed.. I'm already giving slowly all my hopes up, on the other hand I'd like to maintain a bit of hope like 'fight for it if you really want it'.. I'd really want it, but how to fight against a wall?

day 42.. still miss him, but I don't feel thaaat down. I wished he would call me or feel interested. but he doesn't. whatever..

Hi everyone.. Can't post any links but my story is there on the thread called "He hates me, and I want him back, again! PLEASe help me " Last time seen him: 6 weeks ago(since brokeup) Last time chatted: 3 weeks ago NC sinde: 3 weeks.. I feel awful. Nightmares and without motivation to do anything. He hates me or I'm indifferent to him, he just contacted me for my birthday and after I clinged too much he told me he didn't wanted any contact with me at all. That's just awful.