bel___69

its been 4 months not 1, its long distance.

4 months ago, me and x split, and i was begging him to take me back, needless to say it was pushing him away firther, and yet i persisted 2 nag him about how he felt about me etc.... he always gave the same answer, he still likes me and maybe well get back. He never once said no, but because i nagged him so much to answer, he finally said no, but i no he wasnt over me and he didnt even want to answer, he wasnt even ready, and nether was i. Im seeing him in a month because its a long distance thing, and for a month ive decided to not speak to him, well only when he speak, but its proving so hard, im scared hell start to hate me and well drift apart even though he said he wants to be mates. He hasnt spoke to me once for a week, except to wish me happy birthday. I dont know how to deal with this, i want him back so much but i need to no how he feels and if i ask him its nagging him, so i cant. im not sure what im asking, mainly how do i hadle things? thanx.

Hiya, ive been in the same situation as you, and i did get depresed over it, i dont think you are depresed at the moment. But im not sure of all your syptoms except crying when he comes online, which is a normal thin to do because it so hard, its the hardest thing anyone can ever go through. If you feel you are, these are comon symptoms: Cant sleep sleep to much dont eat always crying tired distanced from people cant be botherd to do normal actvities Not being able to concentraite and thought of suiside Now if you thin you are go to the doctors to discuss any medication, but im not sure that you are at the moment, and dont let it get to that point where you do have to go on the drugs, try and get youself out of it. I think this is just a normal part of breaking up, some people let it get the better of them, dont let it get the better of you.

thanx, I think i did push him to much, even nag, but im very impatient. You think maybe if i left it and didnt mention it to him again then maybe there would be a chance, well thats the only way, and he even said we needed space for a bit so i dont no.

Me and my ex broke up at the beggining of june, and because i still liked him and didnt believe we had finished everything we needed to do in a relationship, i told him i wanted him back and that i regreted breaking up with him. He said he still liked me and that maybe we would get back and that we need some time apart, thing is he never once said that we would never get back together. Yesterday we decided to sort things out, and he totaly chikend out and kept saying he didnt know, and then finally he said no we would never get back and that he doesnt like me andymore. This hit me like a ton of bricks, and i didnt know what to do, i cried consistently for 3 hours which really sucks, though i did cry befor for ages when we 1st broke up, this time it was dioferent, because i knew that we will never get back and that ill never touch him again. I know ive got to keep myself busy and stuff, like that, but it really hurts and i thought he was the one, but everything he said was a lie. I dont understand how someone can do that to a person its so cruel, i waited and actualy thought we were going to get back even his mates said we had a chance. Im not sure what im asking, mainly its, at the end of october he is comeing down to visit his brother for a week, bearing in mind this is only a month away and he still want to be friends really bad, im scared how i will react, and need to know what would be the best thing to do when around him. Maybe i can be friends with him, but its hard because i still love him and hes evil and i hate him, strange i no. basically, sorry how long this is, i could have written more but as im not sure what im asking because im a bit mixed up at the moment and in a lot of pain that i didnt know exsisted. Anyway, i will aprishate any help, thankyou, i know i babbled a bit. sorry. O and its my b'day on thursday, which really sucks because of this.