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    Great work Mac and all the best. Will be a shame to not see you on ENA so often as you add some really good posts. So pop by from time to time if you can. Take Care mate.
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    Not sure what day it is in terms of my NC, about 3 weeks. Had a good couple of first weeks and then wham.. she is back in my thoughts! Kinda weird eh, well I guess you have your good days and bad days and your good weeks and bad weeks and this is one for me.. Well lost a bit of weight and looking quite good if I do say so myself all that hardwork at the gym is starting to pay off! Enjoying the gym too, I am away on a course next week so will miss it but at least the course will give me something else to concentrate on...!
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    Geez Rosie, 71 hours work..! I put the hours in myself now and again so I know where your coming from though.. Sounds like your work is helping you get through this. I work on managing projects too.. Congrats on day 2 lonely doll.. Day 16 or 17 for me and been hard to stop the urge to contact my ex but stayed strong and managed to get through the urges!
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    Well I guess it is Day 16 as I said 15 yesterday..! I don't know why as been feeling pretty good of late but feel really fed up today. She's been on my mind alot today, even jumped in the car and went for a drive to the shops just to go and get some new headphones for me Ipod! Just something to do and to take my mind off things I guess..Great headphones though!! lol Well I will have to contact her at some point anyhow as my mobile phone (cell phone for you guys from the US) contract is in her name but comes out of my bank account kinda thing(she offered last year to put in her name as my credit rating sucks!).. I'm surprised she has not mentioned it to be honest as she gets the bills at her address. Just kinda left it though as don't see it as being that important to break NC for that as I need more me time..
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    Day 15 for me I think.. Was feeling pretty good about things but then went out 2 nights ago with a former female work colleague I had not seen in 5 years.. Well had a nice time and do plan to see her again soon. It was just weird as the next day I felt lousy and could not stop thinking about my ex.. maybe a little bit of guilt as seeing someone a few months after I split with my ex gf even though it was her who dumped me! I think mostly it was because my feelings for her are still so strong and maybe I didnt realise.. Anyway any thoughts on this.. I do plan to see this girl again as I do like her but maybe I need to be honest with her that just ready for friends right now as would still go back with my ex if she gave me the opportunity.. What do you think??
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    Stay strong 1+1, I know it's easier said than done. If I have one of those can't get them off my mind moments, I force myself to do something that occupies my mind no matter how odd a task. It could be putting your CD's or books in alphabetical order or something at least it keeps you busy and your mind is on other things.
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    Hi SC I know how you feel as sometimes have the occasional day like that, try to stay strong. Some days are weird every name you hear on the tv is theirs, the radio seems to play songs that remind you of them. Someone who you have not seen you in a while says hows so and so (the ex) then you have to say OH, we're not together anymore and so on.. Had a good few of those days and still get glimpses of them even now but not as much so. I hope you get stronger and find each day easier. It helps to come on here and vent or let everyone know how you feel. We are all in the same boat kinda thing.. Take Care Andy
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    quick update from me.. Well it's day 12. Yeah thought about my ex today as like most days but in a nice way.. Had a great time at the gym earlier and even had a reasonable day at work!!
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    Thanks for your comments puckdog, well each day seems to be a bit easier so i'm getting there. Hey Mac Sorry to hear you have been feeling low over the weekend, great news about the interviews so best of luck with those and try not to keep analysing everything I know it's easier said than done. Once I moved from that stage things start to become easier. Whats happened has happened you cant change it so concentrate on now and the future and heal and you will get there my friend.
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    Day 11 (had to count the days then to work it out) feeling okish today. The weekend has been a bit naff. Did not get upto much so when your sitting around you start to wonder what she's upto etc. Anyway feeling better today and went to gym earlier so that gave me a boost. Not sure my ex is going for the grass is greener as I don't believe she is seeing someone else but I may be wrong. So if she is I hope a truly huge out of this world sized monster dog **** is on the supposedly greener side!
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    Stick with it Mac.. Day 9 for me, some soppy film on earlier so that made me think of her more than I have done the last few days.. Still on the mend. A colleague of mine at work his girlfriend works at another place with my ex. So at moment just trying to remember not to say too much to him too as think it has been getting back to her and only thought about it the other day! So need to make sure I keep my gob shut!!
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    Day 8 (i think) seem to have lost count already! Feeling pretty good, thoughts of her still pop in my head here and there but nice thoughts and then just get on with things.. No longer feeling so down just focussing on me and my future if she appears in it then that's fine if not then I feel i have come to terms with that or are getting there.. So stick with it guys it gets easier..
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    Day 6, feel ok today just had that numb none feeling kinda thing going on the last few days not sure if thats a good thing or a bad thing really!! Sticking with NC as starting to feel a bit better and stronger as every day comes and goes well at the moment (don't want to speak to soon!). Mac - Sorry to hear about the email following your return of stuff to your ex's parents. I would respect her wishes as i'm sure you will but take anything else with a pinch of salt as it's just guilt talking on her part I would imagine mate.
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    Hi Lady00 I know how you feel just a few weeks ago a friend invited me to go for a meal and everyone else was all coupled up apart from me. I got through it but afterwards I felt lousy.. It does get better Lady00 so keep focussing on YOU as it's you that counts the most! Take Care..
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    Stick with it Supercali.. Update from me, after my 18 month relationship which ended officially end of Jan been in contact(from me) the last couple of weeks. Well full no contact since Friday last week so today is day 5.. Feeling ok today and not too bad the last few days surprisingly and catching up with a former female work colleague next week..! Not seen her in 5 years but kept in touch via the occasional email over the years! So look forward to it and something to focus on. Wish me luck for when we meet wednesday next week!
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    Thanks honeyspur, yeah time to go and enjoy myself! She's a nice girl, we got on great many years ago so looking forward to meeting up. I could do with some good company right now and feeling a bit better about myself.. All good things come to those who wait is my current motto!
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    That's fine Kate at least you were honest and up front with this guy.. Well update from me had a lousy week last week as didnt get a job I went for so a moment of weakness sent her a text and she replied politely. That was Thursday so back to the NC.. Been in touch with a female friend who I used to work with 5 years or so back via email on and off over the years and she emailed out of the blue.. how weird!! Anyway agreed to catch up in a couple of weeks so looking forward to that.. Hopefully a good idea, what you think everyone?
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    Great Post John, some really good thoughts on how to deal with a break up and the plan to sort things out, will be taking your advice and best of luck to you to. Cheers Andy
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    Right I'm in, Keep doing NC half heartedly and then regret it when I email or something a week or so after doing so well. So as from Today Sat 24th March im on NC and it's now in her hands if she wants to get in touch..
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    This is such a great thread.. I myself are going through the early stages of NC and it is so hard! Some days being easier than others and so on. I wish I had came accross this site and this thread earlier before I did all the needy things!! You just go through that WHAT IF stage and then the over analysing everything but as mentioned sometimes it's best just to go NC sort yourself out and make yourself a better and stronger person. If they then come knocking then great and if they dont well you have learnt from it and are a better person and ready to move forward.. Come to realise life is too short, you have to make the most of it while you can..
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    Hi Everyone and Superdave.. Been reading the posts with interest.. Well been officially split from my ex since end of Jan**addition - were together for 18 months** . We had a months break before that which she asked for, I kinda left her alone during the break apart from the occasional text and email etc. Anyway she finally told me that she didnt want to continue with the relationship. At that point I went through a needy patch could not get her off my mind sent her flowers lots of times at work and at home then about a week later I just had to see her so popped round her house.. I can't even remember what I said now as was in a real state crying etc and asking to give it another go. She asked for sometime to think about it and then she called me a week later to tell me she didnt want to try again. Agreed to be friends though and upto recently have emailed her here and there and asked her in one email about a month ago if she fancied catching up as friends and she told me she was thinking a few months away as she felt i couldnt handle it at the moment but then said will probably see you at a friends party if I was going. Was driving me crazy about this party and limited my contact up to then but decided to go to the party anyway. The party was only last friday, i chatted to her for about 30 mins and was quite upbeat and then she left to take a friend home. She said nice to see you and offered a cheek so I kissed her.. Just want to know what to do now as not contacted her since then and staying strong at the moment.. Would love your advice and thoughts.. Andy
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