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    Hi Stars Well if your comfortable with the contact then carry on and go into LC.. It's really about what is best for you. I would just let him initiate the contact and then return it if you wish too.. Andy
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    Well I know exactly how you feel hun.. You are not restricting been so clear as to what you want. Just being honest with yourself and thats a good thing.. Keep going and with you all the way... Andy
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    Hi All Well my no contact continues.. been 3 months now..! First month was tough so those of you in your first 30 days stick with it, it does get easier.. You have your off times even months down the road.. kinda had an off week this week.. agree with Starscollide here a bit that hearing that others are having a good relationship has been getting to me a bit.. especially knowing of these 2 relationships I hear about they got a second chance to make it work too and I didn't!! Never mind eh! On the plus side I have met some nice new people along the way, I would say just not met the right one yet.. I would say this week that has been getting me down a bit too feeling like am I ever going to meet someone I really want to be with.. Well of course I will, it's just a matter of time.. So anyway.. stick with it everyone.. I know how you feel and with you on your journey.. Andy
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    Hey Hun Yeah about 2 months now.. Me other medal should be on it's way!!! LOL Still think about her, less frequent and intense.. Had urges to contact again lately but hey it's a rollercoater ride you got to ride it out.. Otherwise I am good thanks.. Stay positive, you will get there.. Your doing really well, it's an achievement to do 30 days NC so pat yourself on the back you deserve it.. how was the vacation? Where you go nice? Andy
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    So KGirl, did you send that reply or just think it? I guess think it being in NC, would of been good to send it though eh!! LOL Hope your doing ok.. Andy
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    CONGRATS.. and welcome to the "I have completed my 30 day NC Challenge Club" T-Shirt and Medal in the post..! Keep up the good work, Andy
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    Not sure of the day it's about 2 months.. Just fancied posting as I feel Bloomin Fantastic today!! It still has it's ups and downs folks even this far down the road, so its still a struggle. Had thoughts of my ex recently and still wanted to contact but using my head far easier and it passes alot quicker.. So to all the NCers, keep at it.. it will make you feel better.. Take Care Andy
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    Enjoy your 30 day challenge.. if you have technically done 10 days already you are doing well. It will be a rollercoaster ride so hold on tight!!
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    Hi Again Mate Well done for giving this is bash. It will really help. So give it your all.. Andy
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    You found a pic!! LMAO.. OMG look at that dodgy outfit he's wearing!!! LOL
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    Fantastic News...!!!!! Welcome to the I have completed the 30 day NC Challenge Club!! T-Shirt and medal in the post..LOL You are doing great 1guygirl.. well done aswell on all the things you have been upto that sounds great and you have been busy.. Crush a Grape!! LOL. Yeah I remember that.. I remember when I did my 30 days and I had a grin on my face... Such an empowering feeling to know you have done the challenge and come through the other end. It does not mean the journey is over but that you have come through most likely the worst bit of it.. So well done from me, pat yourself on the back.. Keep exercising them thighs... Take Care Hun.. You have done really well and I am well proud of you.. Andy
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    I would defintely leave contact from you now mate. I know you are doing more LC but let her now take the lead on things.. It's hard to stop the urge to make contact I know as been there but it gets easier and then you have your ups and downs even way down the line. I am approaching 6 weeks now but still have the odd off day but not very often. So stick with it. Your right keep the conversations if you do choose to speak with her light and upbeat and stay a bit aloof. Don't have any expectations thats the key. Andy
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    Hi Fineberg So of the 6 days of no contact, how many of those days have you spoken or been in contact with your ex mate? Andy
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    Great Kgirl.. Good for you.. That's the spirit! LOL If he wants you back, he needs to try alot harder than that.. If he is not prepared to do that NC continues!.. Take Care, Andy
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    I get ya fineberg.. Good luck sillygoose... Andy
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    You first slip up mate will be accepting contact from her! Clues in the title here NO CONTACT.. 100 days of nothing.. not answering calls, not responding to texts and so on.. Thats NC..
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    That's great.. Welcome to the I have completed my 30 day NC Challenge club.. Collect your T-Shirt later mate! LOL.. Keep it up.. NC all the way..
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    Hi Captain34 Congrats on the 28 days NC good work sir! After recently completing the 30 day challenge I do feel a lot better. Regarding the phone call message, did it say anything about getting back together or simply call me kinda thing? This might be the miss you or I am lonley and want a chat call here mate! Just wanted to warn you. It could be more but who knows! If you feel at peace with yourself and are better and able to handle it then make the call if YOU feel it is the right thing to do. Personally I would maybe leave it, if she wants to talk to you mate she will make the effort and call again and if she wants to reconcile she will tell you that too. Anything else means what well nothing really apart from wanting to know if you are still there kinda thing.. It's your call mate but dont ruin all that hardwork you have put in with the NC.. Andy
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    Sandy & Dunzo.. NC is the only way.. Dunzo you sound better hun so NC is obviously working it just takes time.. Sandy..2 weeks well done on that.. him working over the road must be a tough one but your doing well.. keep up the good work.. andy
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    Yeah leave him as a friend no harm in that.. Just try where possible to avoid using it so much but most important thing just ignore his contact via my space well ignore it for now anyhow until you are healed a bit more.. We are all here for you to get you through this and most of us have been there and bought the t-shirt believe me! LOL You will be fine dunzo.. trust me it will get better..
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    With the Myspace thing, If it were me I would contact the ones you want to be in contact with and tell them you wont be logging on for a while and the ones you want to stay in contact with give them your email if not already. I really think this wont help your healing if you look on there and he drops you a message on there from time to time. In a month or 2 you will probably be alot better and wont be too bothered but for now it is obviously bothering you. So maybe consider that too.. Otherwise it's nc all the way.. if he really wants you he will find a way to let you know..!! If not well its onwards and upwards and moving forward with NC as your tool to do that...
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    Dunzo.. It doesnt really matter anymore who he was with does it.. It's out of your control what he is upto and who he is with. Dont even think about all that as you will eat yourself inside out if you do.. This time right now is about YOU.. not him. Forget him, it's GAME OVER for now hun.. That's the hard but realistic truth you have to take in to enable you to heal yourself. So stop analysing and start living. Easier said than done I know but it will start to happen but only if you allow it to happen and dont stay in the past and keep reopening that wound all the time. Hope this helps.. Andy
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    Well continue to use it of course for your other contacts but when it comes to your ex just ignore it or like 1guygirl said leave it a while at least then take a look and decide then whether to reply. Just to warn you though doing that is just continuing your agony.. Read some of my old threads you will see I analysed everything and some and it got me nowhere about from more confusion and misery and a longer healing process but your call.... Andy
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    Dunzo.. Think of it this way.. if they really wanted you would they just send a message on myspace and wait for you to see it and respond!? I doubt it! They would call, or come round to see you surely. This is just a way of seeing how you are, are you still thinking of them, are you still pining over them, are you still willing to jump when they say how high and so on.. What does it get you apart from more emotion and confusion! Andy
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    Myspace is a waste of time hun.. Sorry just my opinion. I did set one up years back myself must admit but just out of interest on what all the fuss was about. So ignore all this myspace stuff.. Well I would..
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