sarahplainandtall

She has the same alcohol probem as he does. Her boyfriend is hooked on coke and just got out of jail after serving time for abdw with intent. Neither one of them are fit parents. What my question is, should my brother know that his wife is having an affair with his best friend?

My brother and his wife have been married for almost 11 years and have two boys 7 and 3. My brother recently separated from the military after 2 tours in Iraq. He was releades with a medical discharge due to PTSD from the war. They moved back to our hometown in august. He has a severe drinking problem associated with the PTSD and has been in and out of rehab for it. For a while he was extremely violent when he drank. He had been sober for about 2 months when his wife started to give him the cold shoulder. She is form the other side of the country and only knows my family here. She always wanted to go out to the bar and the only guy my brother would trust around her is his best friend. I confronted her and my brothers best friend back at the beginning of october about them having an affair, they denied it. Everyone around them could see what was going on, but my brother is completely blind. Four days before christmas, I was out with her, my sisters fiancee' and his cousin who is my brothers best friend. They decided to tell us that they indeed are having an affair and it has been going on since the beginning of October. They said they felt the need to tell someone about it because they are in love. My brother, his wife and my sister and her fiancee' all live in the same house with their four kids. So naturally the rest of our family went to their house for Christmas. This was very akward as I do have two other brothers that were there with my parents. I didn't want to telll them what was going on because I wanted the kids and my brother to have one last nice Christmas together. My brothers wife spent the entire day in bed and did not get up until about an hour before my brothers best friend came over with his daughter to stay the night. I am not very nosey, but she had left her phone on the counter while she was in the shower so I looked through it and there was a number of calls from her to Nick and vice versa. At this point I had had enough. I took aside my sister's fiancee' and let him know that I was going to tell my sister what was going on. He was very nervous as was i because my sister says it how it is and because of the fact that we had known for a few days and kept it from her. I took her for a ride and told her what was up and continued to drive around until she cooled off enough to be around people. I dropped her off and went home. Long story short half hour later my phone started ringing off the hook, thought my sister has said something but instead my sister in law randomly told my brother that she didn't want to be with him anymore and if he was a better husband to her she wouldn't have to leave him. She left him a few days ago and is staying at my house at the request of my brother. He is not stable enough to handle the separation. He continuously blames himself although she left him and their kids says she is staying at my house but infact doesn't get there until 6 am because she has been with her boyfriend at a hotel. I want him to know that he is to blame to a point but she is haing an affair with his best friend. I don't like to see him like this but I don't know what he would do if he knew about his wife and his best friend. Everyone else knows but doesn't know what to do. Any insight would be helpful.

what about the questions I asked about his wife? Where she said that she is too old for this and if this her way out of the marriage to let her know. Was it to get me to admit to it or does she really believe that this is her way out. The two of them never have anything nice to say about eachother and are constantly bad mouthing eachother to me. She has told me on numerous occasions that when she divorces her husband she will remarry because she loves the beginning of the marriage. She has been married previously. Me and the guy have only one friend in common that knows about us. the friend told me one night that the guy wants to be with me but is scared because of my looks and my age. At first he liked that every guy hit on me but now when we go out if there are any guys my age there he constantly hangs all over me. There is a 20 year difference between him and me and there a 24 year difference between his wife and me. He has always married, dates and still picks up women older than him, I am the only one younger and by quite a difference.

I love knowing that everytime I kiss my guy he gets hard, if he doesn't then i know something is wrong

yes he was with wife #3 when he left wife #2. however I do not nor have I ever planned to marry him.

I started seeing one of my former married bosses about a year and a half ago. It started off just for casual sex with no ties. A few months into the 'relationship" he started getting very attached to me and fell in love with me. At first I did not have the same fellings but evntually they became mutual. His entire life revolved around me. He called me 3-4 times a day for close to an hour each time, send me picture messages and would go out with me every night. most nights he didn't leave my house until 4 or 5 in the morning, only to call out of work and return again about 7 am. his wife was under the impression that he was working until his pay checks showed that he was using up his earned time. this went on from November until April including one night he told his wife he was staying with a friend and while he was on the phone with her, the wife of the friend he was supposedly with called her in tears because she had just found her husband with another woman. He kept telling me that we had to cool things down, but it continued on the same. They built a very expensive new house and thats when things started to change. He would call me or meet me and while he would converse with me he would panic and get mad at me. he would then apopgize and act like it didn't happen. The calls remained the same but the meetings were becoming more infrequent. It went about two weeks with no calls and then he started everything back up like it had never stopped. No one in our group of friends knew what was going on and two months into our relationship his wife began hanging out with us and our group. She would see me and confide in me things about him a couple times a week. Yes it did and still does bother me knowing that what I do has direct impact on her feelings. The things she would say about him were awful and degrading to him. He would be upset and embarrased if he ever knew what she had told me. Was this to deter me from him or was it to see if I was going to tell him what she had said? Back in september I received a phone call from his wife confronting me about the affair. She very calmly asked what was gping on with me and her husband, I obviously played dumb and denied everything. She had his cell phone and intercepted a message I left him about meeting him for coffee. Still this did nit stop him from calling me and seeing me on a constant basis, not as much as a few moths before, but still regularly. The odd comment by his wife in the half hour conversation was that she was too old to deal with this and if this was her way out to let her know. Was she trying to trap me into admitting it or does she really believe this is her way out? He has been forbidden to speak to me and has even told him if she finds out that he speaks to me she will divorce him immediately. He has been telling me that he wants to spend some time alone with me and we even coincided dates for vacation so we could be together. He called me today and freaked out, his wife saw that I had sent hime a text message over a month ago and it kicked things that he said he had put to rest back up again. He told me to leave him the alone, i told him OK and hung up. He called back 2 minutes later asking why I hung up on him. The way he thinks is that he is the only bothered by this whole situation. I explained to hime that his wife is hurting and upset because she knows what happened and he keeps lying to her, that I am not without feeling because I have been with him for so long just to get cast aside when hes pissed off and then to be called days later like nothing happened and that he's the one who has caused it on bother ends but is annoyed with getting yelled at. The coversation ending with him saying I talk to you later. Long story but here's my question, what the hell does he want? He has never said that he loves his wife only that he cannot afford another divorce (she's his 3rd wife the other marriages ended because of his infidelity) and he continues to call me and see me.