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I never understood why my looooooooong single friends said that you tend to just get used to not having sex. It boggled my mind at the time, but I'm really starting to see it.

Kind of depressing.

If you dropped the pony tail part, I'd say hair up. There's something about a woman with her hair up that just really gets me going. But if I have to choose between ponytail and hair down, I'd say hair down.

it is likely you use the cleanser first to clean your face, this is either washed off or maybe wiped off with cotton wool. The toner will be next to close your pores, this should ne wiped over your face with cotton wool. Then the repair cream will be rubbed in probably twice a day. The mask is a cream that you should use once a week on average and then you leave it for about 5-10 mins or until it dries then wash it off

 

btw i am just guessing, but having used loads of skin care products its pretty simple to guess. Are you sure there are no guidelines on how to use it?

You're pretty much spot on. Wash with the scrub first, apply toner with a cotton pad, then use a small amount of the lotion last. You're supposed to go through this routine twice a day, but it seems like a lot of people have better results using it just once. Twice a week apply the mask after the 3 steps and let it sit for 10 minutes. I've been using the system for a week, and I have to say I'm already seeing some small improvements. I'm eager to see how my skin looks after the first month, cause supposedly that's when you really see it.

Good to know that I'm not alone in this. I found it very curious that my interest even in just a quick orgasm went away.

you guys are weirdos if you ask me...

Thanks!

To whack, or not to whack, that is the question.

 

The older you get, the less it'll be. If you're sick or tired, the less. If you're depressed or sick of women (X problems).

 

I'm looking forward to being a senior who doesn't have any interest in sex anymore. Can you imagine how liberating that would be? The older men get, the more gradually liberated we become. It's a countdown to zero.

-shudder-

I'm not looking to ever be that liberated.

I posted this tale on Friday, but here's a recap.

I woke up in the middle of the night with this absolutely intense dream about a girl I used to with. I couldn't get her out of my head for hours, she was smart, sexy, cute and creative. Well after getting the advice of many friends and these boards, I decided I had to call her.

I was a wreck. It felt like I was outside of my body, watching myself nervously hit the numbers into the phone, asking her how she was doing and then finally asking her if maybe she'd like to go out sometime.

I got completely shot down, although to her credit she wasn't mean about it.

It still stings, but much less than it did on Friday. And oddly, I'm not crushed, I feel like I can move on and I have to say I never expected that.

Not self-deprecating.....just honest.

No, I disagree. It's much easier to think that you're all bad than accept part of you may not suck. This has been a difficult lesson for me, and obviously it is for you too.

So I've noticed that since things are final with my ex, my interest in even solo sex has gone out the window. This is a very strange experience for me as I don't ever recall having that feeling before. I think it's been a week since I've had an orgasm, and I'm kind of surprised the world hasn't spun out of control. It had to of gotten used to that rhythm for the last 15 years...

It got me to thinking how often I masturbated before compared to now. Then I got to thinking, hey, this might make for a fun thread.

So, how often do you get yourself off? Oh, and it's only fair for me to start I suppose... used to be at least once a day. Now like I said, down to once in... er well whenever I finally decide I need to. Currently 8 days and counting.

Hell man, I could've written this. I feel precisely the same way. I don't think your feelings are out of line even in the least.

Clothing and hair, pretty straightforward. If I see a woman who is wearing boots with a skirt... I'm smitten.

Have you tried talking to your new boyfriend about this? I think part of your problem here is you're keeping these feelings bottled up. If he is as understanding and loving as you say, I think the two of you could work through it. Go really slow with this, you obviously want to be with him and he with you. It could be that you just need to back off of sex and go to just fooling around and foreplay for a while to continue building those feelings of intimacy and desire.

Do people usually come more easily when masturbating than having sex with someone?

There's no one to please but yourself. If I really wanted to get myself off, I think I've got it down to one minute. There are times I've drawn it out for a couple hours though.

Solo masturbation and making love are completely different. Unless you're a narcissist, then I've got no clue.

A part of me still wants to forgive my wife for cheating on me 4+ times and lying to my face about it for 2 years. But, in the end I decided that I had too much self respect for myself to let her betray me like that. It's very true that sometimes love isn't always enough.

You've been caring for this guy for months, pouring your love and affection into him. Now that your love receptacle been removed, you're probably a little off in what you're supposed to do. Try and focus your energy inwards right now, worry about yourself and not him. It's hard, but doable.

Uhhhh this girl sounds like she's Coo Coo for cocopuffs.........

That's the most spot on analysis of the situation I think anyone could give.

You yourself said everything sounds serious to you. This sounds like a fun girl with a kinky sense of humor, in my opinion. Chances are you're making way too big a thing of this. I mean, a blowjob in exchange for a beer and a game of bowling? Start worrying when she only offers to give you sex in exchange for a car.

Yep, Cinder hit it on the head. If you can manage it (and I know it can be tough to get to the gym) 2 days cardio, 3 days strength and alternate them. Don't ever do strength training two days in a row, you need to give your muscles time to repair themselves.

You're starting to get me fired up about going to the gym again.

Actually I usually just shoot holes through the wall when I jizz, but my neighbors started complaining about the draft.

I'll tell you what my personal trainer told me. Cardio does burn calories, but once you stop doing cardio, your body stops burning. Strength training on the other hand does more than that. The muscle you build from strength training continues to burn calories even after you've stopped, I forget the exact number of hours that this happens. So you can get to the point that your body burns calories when you do... that's right.... nothing!

This is course necessitates that you keep doing the strength training, but anyways.

Another suggestion is to try and get yourself to eat smaller meals throughout the day, 6 is the suggested number. It's really more like 3 meals with 3 really decent snacks. Make sure you get lots of protein (whey protein powder is great for this, you can find it at any GNC) and fiber. Wheat and whole grain bread/cereal is awesome, lean meat (turkey, chicken), raspberries and peanut butter are good too. Protein shakes with banana, skim milk, natural yogurt and frozen raspberies with the protein powder ROCKS! Be sure that you scale back how big your meals are with this plan, and don't EVER skip breakfast. Studies show that people who don't eat breakfast are much more likely to be obese. It has something to do with kick-starting your metabolism by munching on something. Even a doughnut is better than nothing if you can believe that.

This probably all sounds really weird, but I swear it works. The only reason I started gaining weight again is cause I stopped working out when my marraige started falling apart. I just joined the YMCA today and I'm getting right back onto this plan. Once you start getting more solid beefy muscle from strength training instead of the lean muscle from cardio, I think you'll see the results you want.

I always try to think of solutions that are out of the box.

There's this spiffy thing I discovered a ways back called Kleenex. Keep a box on hand and at arm's reach.

Ok, that's good that you can recognize it. My example was more geared towards the fact that perhaps you weren't ready, but it sounds like maybe you already know what the problem is, or at least part of it.

Is it that you resent women, or is it that you resent dating itself?

Shep, I also wanted to chime in here. I've had cystic acne since I was 16 and have been fighting it ever since. I didn't have the patches you talked about, but I had these giant cysts on my forehead and cheeks. Even recently I developed them around my eyes, and believe me that wasn't fun. I know precisely how you feel, and I know on more than one occasion I was with a small group of girls and I also was sure they were laughing at me.

Having acne does indeed suck. Everyone here has given you spectacular advice already, I'm not sure what else I could say. But I did want you to know that you aren't alone in this, not by a long shot. See a dermatologist as soon as you possibly can. Don't worry about what your mom will say, you're an adult now and you have to start taking care yourself.

Sounds great. I had to post because I just saw your pic in the off-topic forum and ... you don't look fat to me at all! You're beautiful, sincerely. Honestly, I wasn't expecting what I saw. You look great to me, so enjoy being healthy!

Seriously, and I thought I was self-deprecating. You really are very attractive, I don't think you should be fretting so much about your weight.

I know I mentioned it, but did you try Yahoo profiles? I have a friend that is using it and he has been very successful. And no, I'm not the 'friend'.

5'10", that is a little taller than average for a woman, but unless a guy is 5'4" I don't think that'd be an issue.