Boughs

I think you better have a heart of steal to deal with this. Do you really want to have to change someone? You are gonna waste a lot of resources to accomplish it.. but if that is what you want ask her out. Simple

But I've been there done that... so I'd do what Hazy said.

Walk away.

I'd say all of it is true in my case...

I want to say that I don't use sex to manipulate... but maybe I've been a victim of it before.

Also I don't think I'd have the heart to bag her (butter face, but her face, hot body ugly face)... but I guess its an expression I'll use.

Its laden with truth and lies... choose as you wish.

guilty My bf has woken up to find me on top of him. He didn't exactly seem bothered though..

Thats hot. I want a girl to do that

Saying "men get a pat on the back for sleeping around" is quite comical. Its a "standard" we fall into that its "cool". But when I go home that night, and I remember that he slept with X many girls... i view him as someone who is trying to fill a void. I like sleeping with 1 girl for an extended period of time, rather than X girls over 3 days.

So in essense, I think that men sleeping around is far worse than women sleeping around. Although I am a guy, and jealousy could also be a part of my decision... but I get my fair share of "play"... I hope I'm not viewed as a "player"... quite degrading because its not my mode of thinking. If I'm at a party, and I'm attracted to a girl and her to me... who cares? its fun!

18 for college

Thanks honey and laboheme. Definitely working on kicking some butt right now. Learning a lot about my limits right now... very entertaining actually. But physically right now I am weak, tired, exhausted... but I know mentally I am gaining strength.

No problem Flutter. I live near LA myself... and I'm originally from the east coast. Its really hard/tough to make friends like i did back at home. People are just so driven to accomplish their life goals, they seem to forget about their heart and what is going on now.

Some are married to their career. Whatever works for you is what is best.

Facebook makes "stalking" easy. Essentially I've been checking my ex's page and just glancing to see how she is doing.

She always was the kind of person to show her exterior... claiming she was doing great no matter what. But I knew the truth through all the lies she'd dish out to everyone else. Its rather comical, but she really is doing some great things towards her career.

I guess its just really liberating for me to see that she was trapped with me for so long, that all it took was a small kick in her butt and there she goes. I'm glad she has put her abilities and thoughts to the test and is succeeding right now.

I'm not upset, I've just been thinking. I just remember us seeming so compatible, and now I look and I'm like "how did we ever date? I don't aspire to any types of dreams she has." So really I'm glad she is kickin butt.

I myself am getting into things i was not a part of before. I think it really took some kind of motion to stop being lazy and here we are. Its rather funny how trapped I feel in a relationship, but how much I long for a relationship. Frusterating to find a proper mix... but I just don't know what it is I want exactly. I guess time will tell.

Thanks for reading.

Living on ones own is very lonely. Keep yourself busy at home. Write alot... you never know, a story you write could end up becoming the next biggest film in history. At least, that's my mode of thinking.

Its rough becoming single... even after 2 years, its hard for me. But I know its best... i have a lot of personal growth and learning to do. I need to explore more and I know that although it sucks now, this is best. It is best.

Condoms really get in the way for me. The entire experience is lost with them...

Its up to how much you are into the girl and ready for the situation that will determine your enlongated erection.

Always buy as a guy first date.

I've always found first dates to be best when you talk.

Drinking alcohol (yes learning that side of women i found to be a HUGE deal in whether or not I'll date them) or drinking coffee. One or the other. Some girls I know they are valid when you get in the car and they just start talking. i love it when they talk about uncomfortable things that get me into the conversation... so that I'm not doing small talk. Politics in the beginning or philosophy always helps me find comfort... as I'm pretty keen with the two.

From the first paragraph I knew exactly where this is going.

Ignore the ex. Give yourself more time... you must get to a point where you meet him again and its a FRESH meeting... no past happenings should come into play... no kissing, nothing. Just a general conversation. rediscovering one another

Let go let go let go!

Yeah let him call.

Very fun and entertaining to read.

Yes, call him. Go for it hard and fast... if you don't like robowarrior said, I'm sure you'll always wonder.

Here is a chance... he has already put himself out there... now its your turn if you want it.

How does one go about putting money in a mutual fund, or a CD...

I don't think that the other party would want/expect sex. If it were me, I'd stay up all night drinking and talking to her to really get to know her. If things started moving, I'd make a move... otherwise I'd go "im tired, i'm out"

B

Bros before hoes.

I believe height matters for me. No way i would date a girl taller than me.

the things us men learn about from ENA

Hard to find the ones that have gotten their heart broken... but are REALLY up for another shot at the whole game of love. Most go with comfort, and fall back to try and recover their heart... silly move, because its already crushed the artories.

He'll go, let him go.. you can't stop it you can't really do anything. Just NC him and keep truckin.

Sorry you had to deal with this... really a crappy situation to be in.

If you can at least show you are spontaneous and a decent dancer... (i.e. not awkward) you are alright. Just feel the flow and let your body go. Don't think about dancing think about moving with the music.

No change here. Same in HS as it is in College.

Biggest change, is that the people I meet are from DRASTICALLY different backgrounds. In college I've had to date more to find someone similar enough that I'd like to be around.

DON'T say its cuz of the pot. Say "I'm just not interested enough. But thanks for the date."