Boughs

Stop thinking about him. Expecting someone to get on their knees and change is only going to hold YOU back. Think hurting yourself is worth it while he is moving on and figuring out his life?

Who cares if he apologizes... he left you and that is it. He's trying to find something else. Whether you are the one or not, he is on his agenda and finding what suits him best. Likewise you should be too. If you think he was... then you are a fool head deep. Pick your head up and move on.

How long ago was this "sleepover" deal?

Although the breakin NC was bad... the things said were almost harmless. Your response after the "Happy New Year 2 u and the boys" was not good, yet he turned it into something sweet.

I think that this is a good NC initiater. I don't think you'll have a hard time from here on out. Just relax and move on now.

So slight tonight I kissed

and whole bodied

and calming sounds

no sounds or sights

to release bad emotions

only sounds of summer

and this calmness of it all.

I lived a moment

that I will beat to death

in my dreams.

Best new years I've had.

All in all, what people are saying is be happy with who you are. How you carry yourself will create attraction.

Being heavier helps weed us shallow guys out of the mix.

merci Ailec.

I just think no matter who you ask man or woman everyone has their own prefrence for what they like ..their is no one single answer.It all depends on what a particular person finds attractive.

 

hmmm I think women should be womanly and have some curves..but that is my personal prefrence (as a rule) But all in all

I don't judge someone that way though..if someone is thin or overweight (like I am) and they are a great person,I want to get to know them.Size like that to me does not really matter.I am not one to judge.To me it is the person,not their size.

Personality can change someone for me.

Even if someone is slightly overweight for my tastes... if they have a great fun personality... i can become very attracted to them. This has happened to me only a handful of times in my life.

give him space, I'd suggest to not get involved with his current GF's affairs. If you do, it will become a problem in the relationship you two reform.

tbh, I'd jsut stay away from it... you know he is going to talk about his ex a lot... when will he have time to think about you and him?

Sounds like he is attempting yes. Especially if you've known him for a while... but if you only just met him and he did this then perhaps not.

I get physical like that with a girl I've known for a while, only if I like her "in that way".

This could possibly mean only a hook-up though.

5'6'' for me is 115-130. One ex was 115-120 at 5'6'', gorgeous in my eyes.

She once dropped to 110. Skeleton, disgusting.

Snowy blue haze

we sat

and orange lights

from the world

but beyond a dark

and futile decision

to attempt anything,

there was me and you.

No water coating my lips

and no thoughts of holding

onto my rights in life.

Feeling your eyes

and sorting your thoughts

I understood.

The feeling to

and the feeling hard to not

I stood my ground.

My world lights

and your snowy blue haze

should never mesh.

Forcing fullness to either

of our colors, would destroy this.

So i'll listen and I'll think about

the concerns with our contrast.

Yes I'm sure.

I meant that thats ideal for me.

A girl over 125 at that height in my opinion is starting to look "heavier than my tastes".

You should also know that I am very skinny myself. (5'8'' 135) so i need someone smaller than me, otherwise they start to have self image problems and it just ends up pissing me off.

5'4'' 110-125lbs

Too me, a lot of it is in the arms. Big arms is a turnoff for me.

women tend to like to be "asked" things a lot. They like to belt out how good they looked when and what they did here and there. Just question them till they tell you everything. then they'll start asking you in return... and you can give the info you wish to give.

Ask ask ask ask aska skaskaskaskask, even if you don't care what they have to say. Always ask.

Go with the new guy.

When it comes to conversion, I've always thought it was strange that people think it was such a terrible thing that people desire others to convert to their point of view and actively seek to do so. If you think something is right, and you believe that you have enough compassion to share/influence people with that correct/right thing you believe...its only natural to share it with someone else. For instance, if you think that giving is better then stealing and you spy a friend who is constantly stealing...its only natural to try and make that friend come to your point of view about the better actions of giving over stealing. Now, if people are pushy, or rude or oppressive, thats when the ethics of attempts at conversion become more questionable.

I tend to think conversion in RELIGIOUS terms is a bad thing. I think everyone needs to make this decision on their own. If they wish to learn more they'll ask. If it comes up in a philisophical discussion, then that is fine. But when i tell someone "i'm atheist" and they start ranting without easing in... then that pisses me off.

don't see how being atheist is masculine or being theist is lady-like...to me, thats like saying wearing green is lady-like and wearing white isn't.

From that statement I'm afraid I made you feel upset. I didn't mean to be, its just an observation I've had.

I of course understand the stereotypes vs truth... but I think we tend to stereotype because everything in our minds catagorizes so that we can remember things the best we can. So in general (and I have met the exceptions of course) I tend to see athiest girls to be stronger (less ladylike in some areas) while religious girls tend to be more of the prissy type.

There are exceptions I know, but on average this is what I've noticed.

Being 20, I suppose it'd be kind of flattering if a girl called me up saying her friend wanted to 'get together'. I think I'd be taken aback at first... but then I'd reconsider and give you a call.

But I suppose prep to assume he is going to want or expect 1 thing.

Hmm answers I presumed to be the case.

Well... for me, meeting someone else who is athiest makes them slightly more unattractive. I seem to see that they are less "lady-like" which is a quality I don't tend to like. Less religious less ladylike, more religious more ladylike. (seems to me to by synonomous)

So like someone said I like a mild case of both (mediums, center of contrast, simple answer of course I can't date someone who is athiest (even though I'm damn hard set in my ways of being athiest). I can't date someone who is highly religious, I seem to be attracted to the agnostics and the, "I go to church once a year" kind of girls.

I don't know if they get shunned away by the fact that I am athiest. It doesn't matter to me as I will be who I want to be, but I think knowing the other side will help me censor things better in conversation to stay away from those athiest remarks. Sometimes its hard conversing with someone who is set in their theist ways, as I tend to fall back on the fact that I don't think there was a omniscient creator (varies upon each religion I know, but primarily they are jewish or christian in my town). Especially becomes apparent when I talk philosophy... seems to really shun people away from continuing to talk... or I get the "YOU SHOULD COME TO CHURCH AND CONVERT" talk

I don't like that

Is it unattractive to not be religious?

As a 20 year old male, I am athiest. I tend to fall into that topic with even casual conversations near religious holidays. I tend to not want to celebrate holidays as they are commercializations of days of importance for those that trully believe in the birth/re-birth of jesus etc.

Anywho, I was wondering if people (girls in particular) here find guys that are not attatched to religion, unattractive.

This applies to other people who aren't even religious either... do you find that even if you are athiest you tend to be more attracted to those that believe in religion?

I myself seem to be more attracted to women that like the spirit of the holidays and the giving... maybe go to church once a year. Any more and kind of any less and I don't seem to find them attractive. I like a girl that is also associated with their family pretty well... even though I am COMPLETELY disassociated from my family. Just meaning, we never were that close... not that we hate each other or anything (which is far from the reality of it).

Perhaps its because I am slightly intoxicated, but... the way you wrote that was like poetry to me. Incredible to read, and brought me a million images and made me create a movie in my head.

I think no one waits for us. You chose based off of actions. Do what you think is best for you at the moment in time. The future will come.

I met 1 through a friend, and the other from a house party.

Wow, good luck Hereigo. Sorry all this happened.

Best of luck sir, hope all works out. Update us on things. Let us know how its going.

Go, make sure you tell a friend. Tell him where you are going and stuff and just laugh at it with him. If you got a good buddy, he'll even chill nearby just to be sure.

I would not have sex though with her the first time. Go easy and check things out. Is she pretty enough, does she live in a shady area? Things like that.