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That much drama at 15? I didn't have "cheating drama" till I was 18.

even though i wont do this.. i feel like emailing my ex and telling him that he aint got long to come back coz i think i will be over him soon

He'll laugh at you and think you are just trying to say that to get a rise out of him (and from my PoV it looks like that is EXACTLY what you want from him)

Back off, do NC, don't respond to him, don't call him. It'll all be ok soon enough.

In fact, if they laugh at their own joke louder than anyone else... it does the same thing.

A gross cackle after telling a joke. Can anyone say, Wicked Witch of the West?

By setting down and achieving goals, you have stories to tell... with stories you can get people's interest... with holding interest, comes confidence, with confidence comes girls.

Set goals, achieve them, and then look.

I can't just walk up to random people and start a conversation.

Why not just start doing it... laugh at yourself.

Best to have tried and failed than not have tried at all...

My friend and I were walking on the beach, we saw two cute girls and he was like "lets keep walking"... i said "no lets go check it out". So we went over and started talking... complete flop it turned out to be. But you know what I have that story to tell you... it was silly but I learned something from it. Can't emphasize how important it is for you to make mistakes and do stupid things now while everyone else is doing the same. Discover yourself and your definitions for things... itll prove to be more fruitful in the coming years.

You look young. i too am blessed/haunted by this VERY young look. Its rough but, of course has its benefits.

I've realized, as I've made better friends with guys, that my confidence and my social skills with girls has risen. I think girls towards the latter years of college are actually looking for a RELATIONSHIP... they tend to be a bit more open minded and not so concerned with image.

Like you think, and is said, time... for maturity on their part and your own might be the key.

Try dressing nice, but casual... its all about mixing very "uptight" clothing and mixing it with something that is not uptight. Tie with collared shirt and jeans is a great way to start... make sure the tie does NOT hit your belt, also wear it LOOSE around your neck, you want it pretty darn short (but not so short it dwarfs you). Try growing your hair longer... let some facial hair come in? even if it doesn't suit you, knowing you can grow it adds confidence.

Attractive, willing to come up and say hi to anyone, considerate but not to the point its annoying, open minded (this applies primarily to being conscious of her own rights and wrongs), likes to party but has limits, comfortable with her own looks (doesn't bring up her looks every time she comes near a window/mirror)

As a guy wishing to date a girl.. I'd make sure she was up for the same partying I am... or else I lose my party friends... and thus, I lose a piece of myself.

yeah I've asked Y when X her and I are going to get drunk. So lets see what her response.

I understand not to pursue. I'll just do the "i'm just being friendly".. maybe she'll break up to have fun with me

mmmm z.

Here we go... kind of a strange situation, but similar to any "attraction" situations you read about.

I meet Girl X and Y at work (my type of work puts me up with different crews everyday). X is, gorgeous.... absolutely incredible. I get along with X, she even came over to say hi to me at one point, which was flattering. Y goes to school with me, so i befriend her on Facebook (for those that understand befriending on this is no big deal). I don't befriend X because, she does not attend the same college and we only had brief convos.

So Y and I work together a few times we have a good time working together, I am not attracted to Y at all (she is beautiful however). So about 2 months pass, then suddenly on Facebook I'm asked to befriend X (meaning X had to find my name and deliberately befriend me)... this is completely out of the blue, because it had been 2 months since I worked with Y. So I start looking at X's profile. For those that understand how Facebook works, when you befriend someone or do really any action whilst on the site, it tells all your friends what you're doing. Anywho so it says You and X are friends. So I browse her pictures then return to her main page... all the people she befriended that day, all the actions she did are up there... except mine is gone.

So I go "huh". I think this implies that she likes me but doesn't want anyone to know. X is in a relationship (yay add some more drama to the mix yes!).

Anywho, so I see Y at a party recently... and she comes up to me (she is pretty damn drunk) and the first thing she says to me "you need to steal my friend, X, away from her BF... we hate him." I laugh and say I will (I was sober). Then later that night as she is sobering up (and kissing my neck as she does) she says it again. X is not at this party.

So am I to go after X? or do I back off? I mean, X initiated some kind of revival to our meeting again. She is dating of course (only been 3 weeks into the dating process... god Facebook gives out too much info) so that tells me no... but since its short and she initiated moreso (and Y must be speaking from something she heard from X) think its ok?

How do I go about such? calling up? partying? I'm pretty aware of what to do exactly, but I always seem to second guess myself... I don't want to come on too strong, and I don't know if its appropriate. Any advice would help.

He just wants to feel the enclosure on his penis as he comes. I have the same urge sometimes. Its a great feeling for a while, but then you begin to worry later on... so even if she was on the pill, I pull out just because I feel wrong/rude to.

You're young, nothing wrong with wanting to explore. Why not mention that to your bf and start moving with ur life. I missed out on years of exploration, making up for them now.

Masu,

 

Your 16 sweetie, trust me as you get older, their faults will show through...

but this is just gorgeous what you say about ur ex. Even though we are all slagging them off ( its therapy sshh )..you sit there and show you still have so much respect for her...

 

Is'nt young love so beautiful.....

Agreed, but so dangerous at the same time. It was full of adventure and discovery... too bad it fades.

Now that u mention it seems like every girl I know including my current gf needs drama. whether it be health, family or someone at work that wants to destroy them lol. at least most of the girls that I know have this and it does get annoying after a while.

Its a game. "Who gets the most pity for the day!?"

I'm sure post 20 this will pass... but I'm probably just lying to myself.

The reason I ask is I told a man that I was in love with that my dream night with him would be for him to leave his door open, I would come in and get into bed with him and make love with him. I never heard from him after I said that. I scared him away.

Maybe being told that would turn me off... but saying "come down, i'll leave my door open" would be sexy... a command is better than a suggestion in my eyes.

For me, I take the nights where I snuck into her house. She cracked open the door so i could sneak in. She slowly grabbed me and pulled me into bed.

And then a "taste of life never ending" feeling runs through.

This was back in High School of course.

I know I am coming on very rude and strong, its just I've been on both sides of the situation, and both times, i wish I and she, handled it more along these lines.

Make sure you let her know that she has an "out" and that it won't hurt you.

Your caring a lot for one another, is dangerous. No matter how innocent it might seem. Her head still being mixed up with an ex is going to hurt her ability to make judgements in her relationship. She is going to compare and contrast too much, and will ultimately not give the new guy a fair chance.

I'd suggest not talking to her for HIS sake.

She lives her life from one chrisis to another, one week she is in pain from her period, next she has migranes, next a fight with her mother, then she gets sick, the two days everything is fine, then she develops some sort of flue, this has pretty much been the standard for two years, at some point i had a really hard time supporting her through her ever lasting and ever changing problems. i got to the point i just didnt know what was real and what was just out of constant stress.

AMEN!!!!!

Both of my longterm exes were EXACTLY like that. I'm beginning to wonder if that is a typical female attitude.... even with my female friends... it seems like there is always some DRAMA or CHRISIS that they are in...

Using pity to make themselves more... hmm... interesting? ANNOYING is more of the word I'd choose.

I'd back off. Ease into the friendship part.

Personally, if i were her and you brought 2 drinks for me and my new boyfriend, I'd be ****in pissed. I think its a cruel move in using her to make yourself out to be someone better than her.

I also think that the way she reacted is cruel to her new BF. If I were her, I would just not talk/hug/look to you. Time needs to pass more.

The e-mailing back and forth is hurting her relationship, no matter how harmless it may seem. Its messing with her and your head.

If you want to be the bigger man, I'd suggest e-mailing her saying "we had our fun, now its time for us to move on. No contact and we'll prove to be better friends when we have no ties, in the future."

Just my opinion.

I'd suggest not. Its just too early. I think by not calling her/e-mailing her, you'll see a faster progression in "getting over" the relationship... and hopefully soon (for me its years, others its months) friendship could ensue.

always seems to be this situation. I don't think you chickened out so much as you were trying to be respectful. Sometimes its hard to tell if a girl is really interested. Even if she was nudging, you were probably still questioning if it was completely purposeful.

The relationship also has some weight on ur subconscious. It'll pass, just keep going at it and I think you'll get your senses back.

i am not insane or a psyco, i was just drunkand never ever act like that at all when i am sober. i feel he is soo blinded by stubborness (he is really stubborn) and everyone he knows who is poisoning his mind against me.

Just a red flag in that section (along with the majority of it).

I think you are trying to justify lust for love. Perhaps you need to let love go.

Dane Cook said "Screw guys, I just wanna dance."

I'd say follow his advice. Escape this drama and clear your head. When you have spent 2 months doing that, return to this post, and look at what you have written, I think you'd be surprised.

"later" is the word I generally use.

But Goodbyes, however sad can be, are exhilerating to be a part of. It would suck to never say goodbye.