purple.eyes

Im back from my trip now, but while i was on my trip she msg me n told me how much she missed and said that she was thinking about me everyday. i was talking to her and she about stuff and she askd me how much do i think of her, and i askd her the same thing in return and she said, " im my head its you constantly, it never ends" made me smile ..

I feel attracted to both guys and girls too. But with girls, its only sometimes, i rarely feel sexually attracted to girls, but it has happened before. Write now i feel that way about my bestfriend.. so i think i am bi.

What you've written has got me very confused. Im so sure that i love her, all the emotions.. i feel jealous when she is with other people especially when she is with a guy. I think that i am bi though, sometimes i check girls out but.. i wouldnt make a move on them though, just becuase i wouldnt and i wouldnt want to. Checking other girls out, is that part of being bi??

well.. she was just touching my arm, moving her fingertips up and down my arm, gently though like she was feeling it... doesn't sound like much hey lol Im going away for a little holiday soon (only a week or so), and she was saying things like "im going to miss you" and "dont go, i dont want u to go" hearing her say that made me smile

i think you should leave things for just a while longer. I reckon her feelings will over time become stronger, because you can see that shes becoming more affectionate =]

Im sure that i have feelings for her, and I have thought about kissing her and hugging her etc. but well you know... Getting tipsy, that is a good idea. I remember she asked me not very long ago "What would you do if one of your girl friends kiss you when they're tipsy and you are too, would you kiss them back or not?" and i just answered i wouldn't know because i havn't been in that situation. lol but ofcourse in my head i was thinking otherwise. Maybe there was more to that question that just randomly asking me.

Im not sure, i think it is more with me though. Maybe she is also touchy feely with others too when im not around, i dont know.. by the way imsoinlovewithher, your inbox is fulllllll

i was with her today and was trying to bring up the subject of bisexual, gay etc. But couldnt find the right opportunity to. We were doing nothing and so she started to play with my hand, massaging my arms and shoulders, then was feeling my arm with her fingertips... wat does that even mean? Just playing around or could there b more to it than that

She told one of my friends that she can't live without me and that she would die for me. Do you think that is a bit odd, for just a friendship that is between bestfriends..?

what i want, is to be with her, i know that its wat i want because i am constantly thinking about it. I admit that i am bi, because i guess if i wasn't bi i wouldnt be having feelings for her. im scared that things might get awkward and weird if she doesnt like me in return, id rather just be her friend then, if it turns out that way. so thats y im trying to read her actions and stuff. I'll try ur adivice, let her in on a little at a time n see how it goes. thankss i really appreciate it, if anyone has anymore advice, that would also be greatly appreciated

so she suddenly just stopped contacting you after that. For no particular reason? maybe it had something to do with her husband? do u know if theyre still together or divorced? could she have started having feelings for you, and hav tried to stop it by not seeing you or contacting you anymore... could be a possiblity.. i think it might be that but i duno.

i dont get to talk to her tonight, she is out with her friends. Everyday i cant wait to talk to her, or see her, eventhough we talk everyday and most of the time its about nothing but i still look forward to it. Hearing her voice, it just makes me happy. When i go out and just happen to see her, like unplanned, my heart just races. I really need to deal with these feelings, because they're driving insane.....

No, i dont think she is an open person, she tends to keep a lot of things to herself, so maybe IF she had feelings for me she wouldnt tell me either and i dont think she would show it either, other than all the things she says eg. "i really miss you" and if i joke around and say something like " no as if i love you!" or "as if i miss you!" she would get upset with me. i cant try the lying in bed and kissing, because her parents still wont let her sleepover, iv tried inviting her over many times though, but shes just not allowed. We were going to go away, with our group of friends to the hills and stuff to camp out, so i was looking forward to doing something there, but then it got cancelled so, thats all going downhill. I've kissed her, not on the lips, on the cheek i guess that is normal but we were at this party and sitting there had nothing much to do, so i just leant over, leant my face on hers for a while and gave her a slow gentle kiss on the cheek for no particular reason, she didnt say or do anything about it, she just sat there. We were watching a movie "superman returns" ok that was a bit irrelevant but anway, i told her that my hand was cold, and she gave me her hand to hold, so i was holding her hand in mine and rubbing it at the same time. anyway imsoinlovewithher, your friends seems like she really likes you, i mean if she didnt she wouldnt me hugging you for hours and kisssing you in bed like that, maybe she is just afraid to come out to everybody about it. yeh i could try and bring up "sexuality" maybe the next time that we drink i can pretend that im drunk and tell her how i feel or ask her if she feels anything for me, something like that. anyway it is extremelly hard to talk the person about it, so im trying to do stuff and see what she does in return? but i dont know wat to do so, anyone have any ideas ??? HELP ME!!!!

thanks robowarrior, i am taking it slow, very slow, trying to figure everything out. i dont want to say it right out to her, i want to try and figure out if she likes me or not. lipostudio, even tho we're bestfriends i dont think we're close as in telling eachtoher things, its weird because she doesnt ever tell me about her guy problems, its like she wants to hide it from me, when i ask her she just changes the subject. i tell her everything all of my guy problems, she always helps me and at the same time seems to hint to me that she doesnt want me to be with that particular guy or something. i think our relationship is kinda like a lovers relationship rather than bestfriends, a lot of people tell me that too. she was with a guy, and she broke up with him because she found out from one of my other friends that i was upset because she didnt spend as much time with me. i didnt know about this, so she decided it herself. she never told me this, but i found out from others that i was the reason why she broke up with him. so what does that mean.. why would she end a relationship for me.. i just dont get it hey lil melly, well i dont think i can bring that up with her, because i never never talk to her about lesbian, gay and bi relationship. so thats really hard. but thanks for the advice so far guys, you have helped me heaps. wat do u think about the brake up with the bf though?

okay i know you hear this alot but here it goes. Im 18 and inlove with my best friend (a girl), we've been friends for four years and the truth is i already started having feelings for her right from the beginning. we're really close, like talk everyday and call eachother everyday. The truth is a lot of guys like me, but i never respond to them because i have feelings for her. Nobody knows this, none of my friends know and i think i plan to keep it this way. its because a lot of people know me and i think it i just cant face the truth. i know im not a lesbian because i like guys too, but i dont like girls, i just like my bestfriend, i cant really see myself being with other girls, so it is just her. I always get mixed signals from her, i dont know if she feels the same way or not. sometimes she does things that make me think that she does like me, sometimes she doesnt so i have clue watsoever. but we are very close, a lot of ppl say that we act like we're together or something, but they are only joking. i just want to know if she has feelings for me too or not, because its driving me mad, everyday it just gets harder and harder. we spend a lot of time together, alone most of the time, we go out with other friends too but not so often. i think she flirts with me too, i mean somtimes when we talk she says stuff like " oh i know you love me " and " i love you " and " i know u want me " and calls me her lover. most of the time i think she is joking but i dont know that either. we have a different friendship compared to other bestfriends, i mean bestfriends are meant to tell oneanother everything right. well she never talks to me about any guys, we seem to always only joke around by ourselves and live in our own world. she has told many people that i mean a lot to her etc. but i dont know if thats just on a friends level. its driving me crazy, all i think about is her, everday day this has been going on forever, i feel like i should tell her but i dont want to ruin our friendship. i wana know if she feels the same way and instincts tell me that mayb a bit of her does, by the way she acts n all. but im just not sure.. she gets upset when i choose things over her eg. doing something else rather than calling her, talking to someone else on the phone, etc. she leans on me a lot, sits on my lap, puts her arms around me ... stuff like that. but then iv done things to see if she likes me or not, iv held her hand just in mine and she wud suddnly pull away, i would be leaning on her and she wouldnt mind but after a while she would just move, so i really dont know what do you guys think, what should i do ?? advice will be much appreciated thanks xox