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If you can afford it, take time out. Travel. I was in your situation, stressed out by office job, not sleeping, depressed. So, I grit my teeth, saved for a year, and quit the job to travel for a while. You can travel very cheaply in SE Asia and meet tons of travellers, or do casual work somewhere like Australia, if you can get the visa. Maybe it's escapism, if so, so what? Escape for a while. What's the rush anyway? It did me good to have jobs for a while (bricklayer, cleaner, etc) that I could switch off at 5pm and not think about until the next day, plus met tons of people, made great friends, discovered new hobbies, got back in shape. And... the bags under my eyes have gone

I agree. I'm no expert, and a man to boot, but it sounds like though you think you came to terms with it you still have unresolved issues - not surprising really given that it must have been a horrible experience. Maybe your doctor could point you in the right direction for some counselling?

Has something happened to spark this off now? I mean, have you seen the guy again or something? Did you ever tell anyone about this?

Both, she's still pretty shy about the eating out, but says she likes it

I don't know what to do. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 2 months, I love her, she's beautiful, yet I've never been able to have full sex with her. Every night it's the same, we're in bed and we're horny and we're playing with each other and when we're both good and aroused I go to put it in and suddenly I go all soft, its like the minute she takes her hand away I lose my erection. I'm only 27 (she's 25) and fit and this happens even if I've not had any alcohol that night. So we go back to the hand play and its great, my erection comes back, I come every time and so does she - I usually come first but then I carry on for her until she is 'happy!' We have discussed it and she says it doesn't matter, that she comes every time with me and that I even gave her her first ever vaginal orgasm the other night, but I can't help thinking if I don't get my act together soon she's going to get impatient and leave me for some guy who can give her the real thing, full sex not just a hand job. I don;t want to lose her.