Cutey20

I understand what you mean.. I am a attractive feminine 22yr old bi/gay girl who no one would pick as being bi/gay. I only find other feminine girls attractive but am crazy about them, and I have also fallen for straight girls and the disappointment hurts. Being butch is just a stereotype that has been placed on this world but unfortuanetly it is true most gay girls are butch..i hate to say but its true....where are all the cute ones hiding!!!!! All the best xx

I know what its like to be head over heels with someone you cant be with, its hard. Everytime i speak to my friend on the phone or online or whatever my heart skips a beat, i get the butterflys in my stomach. I also get the feeling im flirty with her but not realising that im doing it lol just simple jokes or comments i say. Believe me it gets easier with time, if you are definetly sure nothing can happen then just try and put them out of your mind, keep yourself busy so you are less likely to think about them. Maybe try and get out more to clubs and stuff so you can meet some new ppl, maybe even someone to date, try and distract yourself from thinking about your friend, put some else in the picture. Good luck, all the best xx

First of all, NOTHING is wrong with you, you are who you are and there is nothing wrong about that, please never be ashamed of who you are. Everyone is an individual and there is no right or wrong. Have u been in contact with him in the last 3 months? maybe contact him, become friends again. That way you can see him and maybe decide if you are as crazy about him as you think you are, having 3 months away from someone can really change someone so you may see him and realise the reason you still like him is because you are holding on to the memories and the thoughts of what he used to be like. Who knows, he may have changed, you may have changed. I am in a similar situation, I am crazy about a girl, she moved away (11hrs from where i am ) in Feb and i havent been able to stop thinking about her, im seeing her in 3 weeks and for some reason i think maybe i dnt like her that strongly anymore, i have really changed since she last saw me, ive been getting on with my own life and alot has changed. So perhaps this may happen to you, if not then im sorry i havent been much help...who knows i may still be crazy about my friend when i see her... Best of luck, Take care xx

thanks so much for your reply, im sorry about what has happened.. I will be careful, we are just going to be friends first and then if it leads to more then that will be great but im not going to rush anything. She really seems like a gorgeous girl, she has had a few bad meet ups with ppl online so she is wanting to play it safe also, which i really respect. thanks again for your reply, all the best xx

Hi all, I posted a while ago and had told u I had met a girl online. Well I met up with her last night.....she's a beautiful person inside on out, we have so much in common. we ended up having so much fun last night!shes great! I have always thought meeting online friends was so dangerous and i believe it still is. You have to make sure you actually KNOW the person. There are so many fake people out there, please be careful! I have been extremely lucky with this girl. Ill keep u updated if anything happens...we are friends first...then we will see....

soconfused101, writing letters helps, i think i have written 3 now lol You picture yourself giving it to her and picture them reading it. Ive found its helped me really think about the situation and almost made me more confident in giving it to her. Im glad the forum is helpful x

im confused..what r u jealous?

soconfused101, It is kinda scary how how both our situations are extremely similar, I guess you understand what im going through and how hard it is. I wrote my friend,the one ive fallen for, another letter last night. I plan to give it to her in dec when i stay with her. I dont know how she is going to take it, she will be fine with me being gay but the fact that im absolutely crazy about her....well i dunno. She has recently got a boyfriend, whom she says she loves. There is also the age difference of 8 years, shes 28...but she seems my age in every way, shes very young at heart and i feel on an equal level to her.To me age doesn't matter because I feel for her that strongly. I guess thats what im scared about is maybe she doesnt think of me on an equal level perhaps she does see me as 8 years younger than her, so I have this feeling perhaps she will think Im stupid, that I got a crush. Which is not the case, i adore her, I want to be with her. I just want so badly for her to feel the same way.

Thanks for all your replies. I have recently met a girl over the internet, ive been speaking to her for a couple of weeks and next week we are going to meet up at a club just as friends. So im quite excited but extremely nervous at the same time. A friend of mine (the only friend that knows) has said she will come with me so i wont be as nervous and it will be safer. As for my friend that I have fallen for, well im seeing her in dec, infact im staying with her for a week. I think i want to tell her im gay. Im trying to plan it out in my head. I dont think i will tell her i have fallen for her though, i dont know how she will take it. Her brothers gay and there has been rumors she bi so she will take that fact that im gay fine but i dont think i can tell her i like her. I like her sooooo much but i dunno.....its so hard bcos i dont want our friendship to change, i would love to be with her but if that doesnt happen i dont want it to ruin our friendship. If i cant love her then i want her as a friend. Im scared to lose her. I know thats probably everyones fear, losing a friend when they come out. Im just crazy about her. Anyway, i just thought I would write down whats going on through my head, its always better to let it out than bottle it up. Thanks for replying xx

Ok, im hoping someone can help me. I just need to talk this through with someone. I think im bi or gay, but im not sure. You see, im 20 a virgin(by choice), never had a real boyfriend. Ive fooled around with a few guys but ive never been turned on. I know when a guy is cute or hot but im never attracted to them. Im very attracted to girls, but have only kissed 3 girls just a drunk fool around. I have had this major crush on a close friend of me, i slept in the same bed as her one night and i was so turned on like crazy. I have dreamt of being sexual with her many times and cant stop thinking about her. I even wrote her a letter telling her, but i never sent it. When i go out with friends clubbing, i dont notice hot guys, i notice hot girls, and scan the room for them. Its weird but guys almost scare me, if im in a public situation where a stranger is near and its a guy and im alone i kinda get scared, im not sure why because ive never been attacked. Ive told one of my friends that im confused and think i maybe bi but im too shy to act upon it. I desperately want to find a girl to get close with but im scared and i dnt want my friends to know bcos they will think differently of me. help....