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wow, it sounds like you have alot on your plate. have you thought about bringing more kids into the home? Probably real stressful, though, when you already have a new baby and toddler to take care of. Telecommuting is becoming more common but usually you start out in the office and move to your home later. Perhaps you could find an elderly person to live with your family. They normally require much less care than kids and pay better. That's what my mom did when we were little. We basically had one elderly person after the other living with us. Not only did it help pay the bills, but my first best friend was this old guy named Bob who apparently I loved when I was a toddler. We would hang out all day. Then there was this crazy lady named Florence who was 90 years old but did somersaults in our living room. Anyway, I;m getting off topic here.

Another idea is tutoring kids after school.

Just be careful not to get involved in a scam, ok?

I'm not sure if anyone can really help me. I have a feeling this is just something i'm going to have to deal with for the next month or so until my present arrives. But maybe someone has a suggestion:

so when I sleep i can't sleep on my back or stomach (obviously). So I lay on my left side for about 1/2 hour. then my arm goes numb and i roll over to the right side. It goes numb.. back and forth all night. needless to say, i don't get into a deep sleep. then my hands are aching when i wake up from being numb all night.

Regardless of whether i sleep with my arm up, in front, or behind me, the one on the bottom goes numb. i guess thats due to swelling. a workmate suggested sleeping sitting up. yeah, like that's going to happen. any better ideas? I'm almost ready to handcuff myself to the bedframe!

It's only hard to say at first. But it's important with your family. i know it sounds cheesy, but what if they died today and you didn't get a chance to say it? I usually just say it at the end of a telephone conversation. Just before I say goodbye.

Being hesitant to say it in relationships is ok. it should really mean something when it's said anyway.

No you have to get to know each other in all sorts of different situations. The drama times and the quiet times. But it can set the stage for a good relationship, definitly.

That sounds very new age hippy and a good idea. Painting seems like too much work, what about those silk wall upholstery things. And I've been needing a tree to cry to.

Hey! I can't stand newage hippies! Argh..

But my first apartment was the coolest apartment I ever lived in. We got a ladder and painted this awesome mural on the ceiling with red, blue and yellow paint. It looked like a stain glass window. And we painted stuff all over the kitchen cupboards like "america eats its young" and "meat is dead".

Ah, I love being broke and finding ingenious ways of entertaining myself! sometimes I wish I was a broke 19 year old again.

Was everyone like me before? As far as asking a girl out, and then going through these worries?

 

Did most people go through this through high school, even middle school? I was only allowed to have crushes for the first 18 years of my life. I brought a girl I was in some kind of relationship with to my house to swim in my pool, and my mom called her a wh***.

I'm not a guy, but I can say that, yeah, guys get nervous and worried when they're trying to date a pretty girl. And not just 19 year old guys - even 30 year old guys! Us girls have it so good. We just have to sit there and look pretty and watch you guys fumble around trying to get your game right. How lame, huh?

Anyway, lots of guys don't have their first gf until they're way older. You're totally normal.

Can you paint the walls a bright, cool color? Put a bunch of your art work up on the walls. Get some aromatherapy that you can burn or some scented candles or plug-in things that smell good to cover the bad smell. Open the windows before she comes over to air it out too. Get some plants to bring life to the place. Above everything else, make sure it's clean - especially the bathroom and kitchen.

focus on the first couple of dates for now, without worrying about going home together. After you've gone out a few times, kissed, and are more sure that you like each other, you can go home together and get it on. i know you're horny because you're just a normal guy. But most girls will be really turned off by a guy who tries to sleep with her on the first date (or second or third).

there are people who think you should play by very strict dating rules. Personally, i think balance and common sense are the best guides. Touch her in subtle ways, but don't overwhelm her. Pay attention to her body language to see if you should stop or go further. Don't call every day, but call often enough that she knows you're interested. Bring her anywhere you find fun. Girls often love a creative and inventive guy. In the end, if she's into you, it shouldn't matter how fast you kiss her, where you take her on the first date, or how much you text or call her (within reason, of course).

please don't tell people about your personal life until you are sure they can handle it. the internet is a great place to get your thoughts out so use this forum instead of telling your classmates about your past. You've been through alot and grown through it so you understand things in a way that other 13 year olds don't get.

my dad was a drug addict and he died from an overdose when I was little. The kids in school used to always want to know what happened to him. But when I would tell them they would be so stupid and ignorant. Even now, there are only a few of my friends who I would tell that to. Not that it's a secret, but seriously people don't need to know such personal stuff until they are a close friend and have gained your trust.

It sucks that the kids in school are mean to you sometimes. But telling them about your history won't help. Just try to ignore the stupid kids and make friends with the nice ones. I know it's not that simple, but you've been through worse and you can get through this. Just to let you know - those bully kids ALWAYS end up being the loser deadbeats who go nowhere in life.

when i used to have a crappy apartment with no decent furniture i didn't like to bring guys over. they would see it and think i was some kind of loser.

is there somewhere else you can go to have some privacy? If her place isn't an option then you might have to.

you should think about fixing your place up though. it will make you feel better psychologically

people having hiv are disgusting? that's pretty harsh.

School is just more appealing for some people than others. But the point is that we don't go for fun. We go because it leads to a better life and is the best way to ensure that you'll be able to make a good, honest living for yourself and your family one day.

Try taking some different subjects that what you think you would enjoy. Maybe business or marketing. Communications. Physics. Something you never thought you could see yoruself doing. You might be surprised to find out that it's completely different from what you expected.

And even if you can't find interest in every single lecture you have to attend, you can still make attending school interesting. Build up a good social network so that you have cute girls to flirt with in class or study with in the library. It can make classes WAY more exciting! Try to challenge yourself to get better marks. Challenges are a great cure for boredom. Even if you're getting B+ in every class with no effort, demand from yourself that you get an A. Just having that goal can actually be really fun... especially when you achieve it.

When I see no point in doing the things I have to do on a day-to-day basis, I like to pretend my life is a videogame. It's completely pointless in the eend and I'm just running and hitting my head against bricks and jumping off cliffs (okay, i;m kinda stuck a couple decades back in marioland... but you get my point). It's fun to embrace the pointlessness of it all and run around collecting worthless gold coins. Kinda entertaining

I do think that you messed up. Sorry if that's not quite what you wanted to hear. You guys had different values, and that's okay. That's simply a question of compatibility and there's no right or wrong way to feel about money and stability. BUT you love this woman and she's been your main interest for nearly 2 decades. You passed that up and for what? A fun lifestyle? I just hope it was worth it for you.

In the end, though, maybe it was for the best. Perhaps if you had settled down, got a better job, and started investing and saving, you wouldn't have been truly happy. Perhaps you would have resented her for that. Maybe you would have developed an unhealthy, unbalanced relationship where she simply bossed you around. That's no fun.

Anyway, what's done is done, right? Time to meet a new woman who has values closer to yours. I'm sorry about your loss. It must really hurt to know that she's carrying a life inside her that she shares with another man. Try not to hate her, but I do understand that the healing process may take a while for you. I wish you all the best. Feel free to hang out on this website when you're going through rough times. The posters on here can be lifesavers.

Actually, come to think of it, I do get a bit annoyed when my bf doesn't remember specific things. For example, I think his ex used to love watching friends. So he assumes that I love it. But I don't like it and never watch it. Even after living together for several months, he still thinks I like it!

Don't worry mommy-to-be! How are you tonight?!!!

argh.. that's all I have to say

Oh man, I really have to start checking the dates of the original posts!

Wait at least a couple more years before you start that kind of experimenting. At your age, smoking pot has a permanent effect on your brain. Once you're an adult, smoking a bit of pot every once in a while does not have permanent effects.

Can I take back some advice? If you've been doing most of the chasing and even asked him if you were being annoying, then backing down is probably a good strategy at this point. Let him know that he's special to you, but don't do more of the chasing than him.

Don't let the guys get you down. Guys can have a one-tracked mind when it comes to hot girls.

You shouldn't really have trouble. As musicguy said, put emphasis on you computer skills, any computer courses you took in high school, your typing speed, your attention to detail, your customer service skills and people skills. Since your experience isn't as relevant, put it lower down on your resume.

Try going to an employment agency because they typically have alot of the kinds of jobs you're looking for. And instead of wasting your time applying for 50 jobs that require specific experience, they can match you with an employer that's looking more for what you have to offer.

Wow, Beec and I just gave opposite advice. Sorry to confuse you, PB

To answer your direct question - guys can wait a long time for sex. A really long time, if you are keeping their interest.

Why don't you ask him why he hasn't called as much? Don't do it in a demanding, accusing, or needy way. Just ask if there's anything wrong, or anything he'd like to talk about.

Otherwise, try to be available to him when he is in town. Schedule other appointments or parties with friends for the 2 weeks he's gone. Make him see that he's a priority for you. You can also help with his boredom and loneliness when he's away at work by sending cards or little presents in the mail, e-mailing pictures of you doing silly or sexy things, etc.

He's been doing all the chasing until now. You talk about him calling you, but do you call him? Now that you are starting a relationship, you can do some of the chasing. Make him feel special.

My advice - analyse less! Do what feels right.

I don't have any rules. It really depends on the circumstances. I slept with my current boyfriend on the first night we ever hung out. Other guys I casually dated for a year or more without ever getting intimate. There was one guy who I dated for a while and wanted to sleep with, but I was playing into this whole bs that you should wait if you want to guy to respect you. (I'm sorry, but I really think that's bs.) He ended up not calling me back at some point and I was so angry at myself for not sleeping with him while I had the chance.