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My mom was there for the birth of my oldest son.

 

I cried because she was gone for my 2 year olds birth and the new baby. I like to think that she was there somewhere watching even though shes passed away.

Of course she was. My paternal grandmother, the most beautiful woman I've ever known, passed away when I was 4 months pregnant. I like to think that a part of her still lives in my baby.

Let her teach you.

My mum wanted to be in the room!! But....NOOOOO WAY!

 

I barely wanted her in the building!

lol.. mothers!

It should be totally your call by the way hazey.

I should be, but it's not. She was supposed to come, but now she's informed me that she's got more important things to attend to.

Not necessarily in the same room. But was she at least at the hospital waiting to see her grandchild? And if not, why? Your choice or hers?

A little off-topic, but are you still planning on an all natural birth?

Yes, thanks for asking. I'm planning to give birth at home and use a TENS machine and sterile water injections for pain relief.

Did you end up using anything for the pain?

This isn't the first time you left. You probably said you were going to change each of the previous times. She came back and you didn't change. So you need to convince her that things will be different this time. Give her concrete examples of things you have changed and steps you are taking to better yourself. That's what she needs to hear. Don't worry, after a long relationship like that, she's not going to just stop needing you overnight. Encourage her to take as long as you both need before getting back together. If you try to take things too fast, she may feel that you're insincere or that the problems haven,t had enough time to be resolved.

I wish you the best.

you know the saying - actions speak louder than words.

If a guy is all smooth talk, but his actions don't back it up, I'm going to run in the other direction.

However, we mainly communicate through talking so that's important too.

I need both

Read over your threads. You can't stand this girl.

Everything is a coincidence.

Please read the thread I've just posted and comment on it! Pleaseplease

Concidence. Why are you thinking about this? Are you having trouble getting over him?

What she said. ^^^^^

 

Wow you are good Amber. isn't ANYTHING left to say !

Yeah, from the way I authoritatively give advice, you'd almost think I was capable of running my own life. Unfortunately, I'm clueless.

Definitely go to a good dermatologist, especially if they are on your face.

I had a mole (about 1/2 cm in diameter, slightly raised, on my cheek) which I wanted removed. I saw my family doctor and he said he would have to cut it out and it would leave a scar just as big as the mole. I also have friends who had moles removed this way and they have scars. I didn,t want that.

Then I met this great dermatologist and I asked him about it. He said he could take it off with no scar. He sprayed some kind of acid on it and within a week there was absolutely to sign left of it - not even the tiniest scar.

I didn't pay anything for that because he was a friend, but I know it should be cheap. It took less than a minute.

If your moles are deep, however, the procedure is more complicated. Mine was just on the surface, but if yours have roots going into your skin, the procedure may be more expensive and a scar may be unavoidable.

Maybe she's wise to listen to her friends and family. If they are trying to keep her away from you, why do you think that is? They love her and objectively want what's best for her. Maybe you're not what's best for her.

What steps have you taken to fix things from your end? You're talking about playing games - not being too available because she wants a challenge. Games are a waste of your energy, IMO. Stick with the therapy, but don't just show up at the sessions and feel like your job is done. Put some honest thought into what you are willing and able to change in your behavior, and if it's not consistent with what she needs, let her go.

I know. I just don't like it when anyone thinks they have me figured out. I pride myself on being unpredictable and I feel like I'm suffocating when someone puts me in a box.

what do you want?

My question too.

The hardest thing in life is figuring out what you want and convincing yourself you're capable of acheiving it. After that, it's just a matter of getting up every day and following through.

It sounds like you have some self-esteem issues. You were able to approach girls when you were the big king on top, but in the face of competition you crumble like a chocolate chip cookie.

You're not the hottest guy in the world. Or the coolest, funniest or smartest. There will be girls who aren't interested in you. There - it's been said. Now go out there and get back in the game.

"and I love when he says that something is a "Kelly movie".

 

As long as your name is Kelly, that works .. . .;-)

I guess I'm different from you ladies because this would aggravate me to no end.

Yeah that will probably happen. Just remember that it's an unavoidable phase in the whole process of moving on to bigger and better things.

We can call it whatever you want. When I go out with my girlfriends I call it a date. I guess it's semantics.

Do you think it's okay for a guy to go to a strip club when he has a girlfriend?

It's okay if his girlfriend doesn't mind. It's not okay if she does (in other words, you're not entirely comfortable with it. thereforeeee he has no business going. Would you do something purely for the sake of entertainment if you knew it made your bf feel insecure or less loved?)

And strippers are not necessarily beautiful. I've been to some strip clubs in rural Alberta where the women were... how shall I say this?... less than average. But then I've been to strip clubs in Montreal - a city revolving around sex, sex, sex - where the women were absolutely stunning. It depends on the establishment, the community, and personal taste.

I'm excited about your date. Please, resist any urge to talk about you-know-who. And let us know how it goes.

Yeah, my childhood best friend was diagnosed as being bi-polar and put on meds which made her gain about 60 lbs and then they later figured out that she didn't have any kind of disorder whatsoever. She was just expressive.

Cool, so why are you with her if you find her to be so annoying?

Yeah, why are you with her? Does it stroke your ego to be with someone you have so little respect for? Someone who thinks you're perfect? You seem to think you're better than her. And it gets on my nerves when you come on here and start these threads looking for validation and confirmation of how much your gf sucks. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but you pretty much lost my favor a couple months ago when she got you a Christmas present and, instead of appreciating the gesture, you bashed her like she was your worst enemy.

There are guys who like baby talk... guys who would love and appreciate her antics. Seriously, why are you with her?

Two scenarios:

1. Whenever he makes me breakfast, he makes my eggs sunny-side-up, or

2. He knows that I like them scrambled, but never makes them for me.

I'd take the first, because at least he's trying to do nice things for me.

Does that make sense? Of course, the ideal situation is one in which he both remembers what I like and tries to give it to me.

Regarding communication, I don't like deep conversations of any kind. For me, the most intimate conversation I can have with someone is one in which we tell about our pasts, especially our childhood. It's quite rare for me to talk about my past and it makes me feel vulnerable (not that I have anything to hide, but I just feel like my past is mine and if I share it with others, it becomes less mine). If I have too many of these conversation in a short time, I will become uncomfortable and pull away.

The communication I like best is playing and joking. Probably 80% of the time when I'm talking to my bf, it's light and playful. Not that the things we're talking about are necessarily superficial or unimportant, but I think humor is often the best way to approach things.