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An additional way to look at things. High school is a 'hormone fest', you should find more people growing up mentally in college. Since you have noticed things about high school that you didn't like, it means that you want something different in your life. Now you will be able to make it so. As was said, above you will be kind of starting new with new people. Get involved with different people, doing the things that you want. If you didn't like things like the segrgation and separation that comes with teens identifying with specific groups, involve yourself with many different people. In other words, begin to be more proactive with your life, act and live the way you want things to be. I think you will find college to be a 'blank canvas' for you if you want it to be. Don't wait for them to come to you, go to them. SF is a very diverse open city, embrace them all and you will get more out of life and it from you. Enjoy, Jhald

Some great things for Chillins99 to think on. Here is a bit more. Your life will follow your emotionally backed thoughts. You are what you think! You have gotten yourself in a negative spiral where what you don't like has become the center of your predominate thought, one feeding another and so on. Your perspective has become clouded by all this, so it is all you can see. If all you do is pay attention to exactly what you don't like about life, then you will just get more of the same. It is very much an exact ratio - if you think about how miserable you are 90% of the time, that will become about 90% of your daily life. But if you are only unhappy with 10% of your life, it almost has no affect on you. The key is to do something about it. First you need to turn everything around from what you don't like to what you would like. Try this - take a sheet of paper and divide it down the middle with a line making a right and left side. On the left list everything you don't want or don't like about your life right now, get it all out there. Then on the right list the opposite of each statement - what you would like, and it must be stated in the affirmitive. Now you have some things that you want that you can begin to focus on. Write these positive statements again each on a separate sheet. Then write why it is important to you. Next, write one or two things you can do right away to take a small step towards each desired item. Then get yourself to gradually correct yourself when you are thinking negative and replace with the positive, want statement. You can use affirmations to help train yourself to focus more on what you want, but you will need to add emotion behind the words if you want them to gain in power in your mind, this is why it's important to have a meaningful reason why you want it - something you can get emotional about. Whatever thoughts have the most emotional power will have the most impact on your daily behavior. Plus add in action. You must begin to take action towards what you DO want. With thought, emotion and action you will find yourself with a different perspective on everything, which will itself add to the motivation to take more action. Also your motivation will increase as you see that you are making even small progress towards what you want in your life. You will be in a positive thought cycle where good thoughts feed more good thoughts about what you want, rather than the negative cycle that brings more focus on what you don't like. This got a bit long for my first post here - Just think of it this way, your predominate thoughts right now effect your perspective, your thoughts and your actions tomorrow. You get to choose - what you DO want or more of what you don't want. Whatever you think - it's always there for you! Jhald