Clementine orange

Been there, done that, felt bad. Many of us have. Here's some help though - you only thought it sounded sarcastic. Maybe she didn't take it that way. Perhaps. I remember when I was in University there was a girl in a wheelchair in several of my classes, we were cordial (said "Hi" if we saw each other in the hallways and the occasional comment but not much more than that) One day she asked me if I knew how to get to such and such a classroom (huge campus) and I gave her verbal directions. After she went off I realized that I had said something like "go down those stairs there and then down the hallway and then back up the other staircase" or something to that effect without even thinking that of course she couldn't use stairs. I was wracked with guilt for months and avoided her eyes after that. A year or so later I confessed this to a friend whose brother was in a wheelchair and he told me that maybe it wasn't so bad as obviously I had seen the person and not the chair and that made me feel a little better (not sure if I buy it though) However, I know that the last thing a disabled (or handicapped or whatever it is) person wants or needs is sympathy. Maybe you could try being supernice to any or all who may be suffering to make up for it. That and just accept that whats done is done.

OK so first time poster here, long time lurker. I'm a single 36 year old male. A little background first. "Samantha" and I were together for about a year. We broke up, fairly mutually, because I was too busy and non-attentive (in her opinion) and I thought she was controlling and too needy (my opinion) Probably the truth is somewhere in between. That was over two years ago. After a couple months NC we got back in touch. We emailed alot and have recently started getting together for lunches, coffees etc. Not dating as such just spending time together - hug and kiss hello and goodbye but nothing more. A few weeks ago she made it clear that she was interested in a "friends with benefits" type arrangement with me. In a general way this sounds like a good idea to me as I am still superbusy and don't really have time to build a relationship. I miss sex and intimacy but have no time to pursue it etc. I've got time to have it but not time to find it (I hope that makes sense) Here seems a pretty ready-made solution. Recently Samantha and I had 2 pretty heavy make-out sessions and seem to be heading quickly in the direction of starting to sleep together. I find it odd but interesting to be treading on familiar grounds again. We have both been with others since the breakup, in my case it was a few "fling" type things that didn't last longer than a few weeks or months (or um days) - nothing serious. From what she told me I'm guessing it was the same for her. However, for some reason she seems to find it necessary to tell me all about her other men. I don't really like this and have told her but she still does it. I think she is trying to make me jealous or else she has to prove something to me - that she is attractive to other men etc. I do get a little jealous actually, but don't begrudge her her past (how can I really?) but I don't really think I want to hear about it. She seems to want to clear the air or something. I think that might be BS and she just gets a kick out of watching me squirm a bit (which I'm really trying to hide). She seems to want to pass herself off as some kind of femme fatale or something. It's dumb actually. I'm thinking of ditching the whole idea actually as her "confessions: are annoying and stupid. Samantha knows I have been with others (she point blank asked me and I reluctantly told her the bare minimum - I'm not the bragging/kiss and tell type of person) So what is enotaloners take on this? Is she being a b*****, enjoying making me squirm a bit, is she trying to prove something? Is she playing head games and why? What can she gain by telling me things about her other men? I'm getting really fed up with this. Thanks for any and all responses