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I've been with my bf for almost 5 months. We talked about moving in together in January. It was his idea, he asked and I did not even expect him to ask me to move in with him. I gave it much thaught and I was ready to take the next step, now this is wahat happened. His friend, which is a girl, is moving back from Florida, and he told her that she could stay with him if she needs a home, told his other best friend, who is a guy that he could stay at his place too. Here I though that it was about us but with that it made it seem that he's just looking for roommates? Anyways he also thinks I'm jelaous, and after I told him that I e-mailed his friend he got into an argument with, I tried to make things better between them, he tells me that he can't believe that I did that and now everythings is messed up for them, and he needs time to breath from me, and things like that. What do you think of this? Thank you for your honesty.

Well I just got off the phone with my bf of almost 4 months, and lately he has been in a nasty financial situation. He hasn't asked for my financial support, which if he doesn't ask I won't offer, but I know that he will do something for that money that will tear us apart. I know that if he doesn't come up with the money he'll lose his apartment, but what he doesn't know is that he'll lose me when he decides to take up the "offer". I haven't told him that we'll be over if he does it, but I told him that I don't want him to throw his life away. I can't spacifically say waht the offer consists of but it's not life threatening, however it's also illegal. Any input would be very helpful. Please help me....

I don't like the girl, and most likely I will never like her. Right now they are not talking at all for the past couple of weeks. He knows that I don't like her, and basically unless I ask if he talked to her lately he won't mention anything. Things changed between them and when the problem comes back I'll deal with it then.

No... the arguments were always revolving around her

The thing is that he met some of my family members, I haven't asked him if he felt uncomfortable with them or anything like that.

The reason why it was really rocky was because he was really attached to a friend who was trying everything to make sure I left him. She was very controlling, and now she backed away, they still talk, but she's basically not the center of his life. That is what I classified as the relationship being rocky.

I have been with my bf for almost 4 months. Our first two months were very rocky, we had a lot of arguments, but things slowed down and we have not had an argument for about 2 months now. I know that I love him and he loves me too but a couple of things have bothered me. He did not remember the date when we first went out, hichI'm not sure if I should look at this as somewhat of a serious issue. We live aboout an hour away from eachother, and every time I imply that I would like him to come over he says that he hates to drive far anduses anything he could to get out of driving out to see me. He has his own apartment and I live with my family, which means that we would have no provacy if he came over, but does it seem odd that he doesn't want to drive out to see me? He invites me over his place and wants me to come over, but isn't willing to drive an hour to see me. What do you think of this? Thanks in dvance for any responses.

I feel like the most horrible person walking the face of the earth. Here goes my story. About 8 years ago I met a guy online (we have never met in person) and I consider him to be one of my best friend's. He has always been there for me, has gone out of his way to call me (7 hour time difference) and puts me as one of the most important people in his life. The reason I know that is because about six or seven years into the friendship he told me that he loves me, and at that point I thought I loved him too. I met someone, well it didn't work out… and then I had 2 more relationships after that. After my last failed relationship I told him that I was in a relationship.. he was heart broken, but told me that he will wait for me for the rest of his life because he loves me. I told him that I don't deserve his love, I really feel I don't, and I know that I don't love him. Since then I have not given him any hope that we'll be together, we still IM each other but it's not as often. He still has hopes that one day we'll be together, and I tried giving him hints that I don't love him. He is a perfect guy and I just can't fall in love with him. I asked him to go on with his life, but he chooses not to hear me, and I really care about him, but as my best friend. I feel selfish because I will probably wake up one morning and realize that I love him and it'll be too late. Sorry for making this story so long. I feel horrible. I'm afraid that all of his relationships, he will judge based upon what I treat him like, because I realized that's what I do with my relationships.

Thank you everyone.....

No, we're not moving in together. He suggested that but in the back of his head he knew that I would say no. The reason why he suggested that is because he is really busy and we hardly get to see each other (He has 2 full time jobs basically) and I'm always the one who has to come and see him, and I complain about that. I think that was the whole reason of his thinking of us moving together.

Last night my bf of three months and I had a discussion about his past relationships. I was the one to bring it but but wasn't expecting to hear what I heard. I asked about his first relationship, it was his HS sweetheart with whom he was for 6 years, got engaged, but due to the distance (he moved back to the US and she stayed in the Philipines) she left him after they were separated for 3 years. She is married and has a son, but she is not fully satisfied with the marriage. They haven't seen each other for 6 years, and haven't been together for 3 years. He thinks that she still loves him, and when I asked him if he would go back to her, whixch he was upset with my question, he said that she was the only one who ever fully understood him. I asked if he's happy with our relationship, and he said that he is and said that he loves me, even suggested to move in together. Should I take this as a red flag?