shikashika

I don't think there is anything wrong with looking at porn... maybe when I was younger in my early twenties or late teens i may have had a problem with it... but i think as i've matured and got older... I realise it doesn't take away from a relationship... in fact i would worry if my boyfriend didn't look at porn..

how about watching some together... it can be really erotic! i know i found it reaally exciting and hot when a past boyfriend showed me the kind of porn he liked and we watched it together..

I don't see porn as cheating at all... it is just a different dimension to the relationship

I don't think you will find a guy who never looks at porn or other girls... and even if he does... as if he's going to admit it to his girlfriend who says things like "We-are-though-ifyou-ever-look-at-porn-again"

i know a girl who says she will dump her boyfriend if he looks at porn.. I've told her she is being a real B and incredibly child-like and insecure.. she even said "I only want him to think of ME, look at ME.. only ME ME ME"

i think its incredibly insecure and egocentric of her.

Get a degree in social work or psychology. Hopefully money is not too important to you because typically those types of jobs require long, stressful hours with low salaries.

This it true... I have three friends who are social workers... and their salaries are nothing to write home to mum about... and a lot of the time its stressful, and they get slack from the people they are trying to care for..but if its what you want to do.. go for it! Don't be driven only by money... or YOU will end up in misery and need a counsellor

I agree!

I'm so sick of hearing guys and girls moaning about "no one likes me because i'm too nice"

ugh...

a good friend of mine.. not an enotaloner... always uses this as his excuse... it bores me to tears and I told him that... It was because he was interested in me and i was not interested in me he kept saying, " you don't like me because I'm a nice guy and nice guys always end up with no one"

it has nothing to do with being nice or not... it has more to do with the above-mentioned-wallowing-in-misery attitude!

i agree with everyone... a song and a drawing? to her , it would just appear desperate!! it would have made me run a mile as well and tell teh story to my friends... sorry, but thats the truth

don't contact her again.. learn from this lesson... and ease back next time!

For my undergrad degreee.. I fount the busier I was the more i got accomplished...and the better i was at managing my time.

I always worked full time during the summer and then about 25-30 hours per week while at school... and i ran on the track team and volunteered adn still had an active social life.

The one semester that i only took partime studies, I only worke 15 hours a week, but i did horribly in my courses and gained 10 pounds...

i find the more I do, the better I do at everything..

I think its good to work.. gives you a more balanced lifestyle... aside from that I think tis good to work and know you have some money coming in every couple of weeks..

really... I don't think you should deny yourself from having fun... and let her control you by you not going..

REally, she may be your girlfriend and you love her... but you don't need to let her dictate if you go to a party or not...

If i heard a girlfriend tell me that she didn't want her boyfriend to go to a party because there might be sin and boobies there .. I'd tell her to grow up and quit her whining and quit being so insecure...

I can't think of any healthy relationships I know where one person won't 'let' the other go to parties... or out with the boys or out with the girls... or peope won't let the other have fun because of their own jealousy

i still think you should go!

Yes, he drinks quite a bit...not enough for it to be a problem though. He's successful and happy but enjoys his cheap nasty beer.

 

Why am I still in contact? I don't know... I haven't spoken to him, just an IM here or an IM there.

an Im here or an IM there might keep him holdiing on though... if you do NOT want anything again with him.. then don't contact him.. perhaps the IMing is giving him hope that you could change your mind.. and thats why he said what he did?

but I mentioned maybe getting back together and he basically said No way... mind games....grr

ummm HE is not playing mind games... why are you still in contact with him if you broke up with him... I'd say THAT is more mind games... he's just telling you how he feels!

it actually doesn't sound very surprising at all.. considering YOU broke up with him..

He loves you and misses you.. He didn't initiate the breakup.. he's probably hoping you'll change your mind

well she sounds a little jealous and insecure.. there is nothing you can do to change that probably.. but as she is still in high school and you are in the big bad world of college.. I'm sure she has an overzealous imagination of what goes on at all these parties... and she may be right...

I may have thought that way in high school.. but now I wouldn't and i doubt any other girls my age would either... so maybe I'm just forgetting what its like to be a high school girl!

I think you should go if you really want to and explain that you won't do anything 'bad' at this party...and keep your word

bring her back some beads as a present! ha ha!

If she was interested... even if she was busy for the night you suggested( or the night you didn't suggest!) then I think she would have said something like "Sorry Thursday's no good... but what about lunch on Saturday?" or something similar... they might be busy.. but should offer a time when they are not

could be love ... but as others have said... just enjoy what you have and be happy you have someone in your life who you feel like that with

If working out is a waste of time, what do you call posting on here?

I think Tired Man was saying working out is NOT a waste of time!

its NEVER good to do it over the phone..

ALWAYS do it in person... why do you want to break up?

how do you think you are going to keep a friendship if you break the other person' heart? I think thats a bit of having your cake and eating it... you want to do something mean to them.. but still expect them to like you?

A good friend of mine a guy..who is happily married to another good friend of mine said to me over the weekend " if you are considering getting a prenup... you should really re-consider getting married"

In my friend's, parents' marriages, where i see the MOST commitment to marriage..there was no pre-nup signed.

In my friends relationships where I see problems already before the marriage.. they are talking about marriages and who pays for this and who pays for that..

when you marry someone you take them with as much or little money as they have.. not this "this is mine... this is yours' type of attitude..

Take on their debts.. take on their mortgages... student loans etc..

I wouldnt' marry someone if he wants a pre-nup... too much of a different set of value systems for me

 

Sooooo many backpackers around where I live. (Bondi, Sydney)

 

They really don't smell great, hey?

ha.. I tried to avoid the backpacker hangouts like Coogee and Bondi when I lived in Sydney

its good that we all like different bodies!!

(and I've noticed not as many like the muscly types... yay!!more for me! )

no.. but I know a friend of mine found her parents' collection of porn vids... I think its healthy... may not want to think about our parents getting it on.. but they are sexual beings too..

Imagine how our parents feel when they find their kids porn!!

 

Vegemite will make your cheeks rosey!

 

I eat it every single morning on toast for breakfast. Can't start the day without it.

I love Vegemite... however sometimes I indulge in Marmite as well

ghastly huh!

yeah !!!!! Vince Vaughn doesn't look like he fits in with my intense fitness interval training ha ha

joke!

but no.. I don't like vince...kinda greasy looking

who ever asks should pay.. but after that I don't know if its a good idea to keep track on pennies.. if one person is ALWAYS paying.. then no

Well I'm Canadian, but have lived in Japan, England, Israel, Japan and Australia.. have dated guys in each of those countries and of more nationalities... had things in common with all of them.. I can't really say "swiss guys are like this, French guys are like that.

i found in Japan.. it was almost like a trophy or that it was daring to be dating a whitey... in my situation...I never had a serious serious relationship there...

but I know Canadian lasses who have married Japanese guys...

sorry.. can't generalise about any one culture!

Who's gonna pick on me? You'd be surprised. People are extremely judgemental where I live. Like I said, I'd move, but I have no ability to do so right now.

 

Working at McDucks is like not having a job in the first place, unless your 16 or so. So, them girls really won't care either way.

 

You folks don't even know me and say I have an "attitude problem". Now I'm not so surprised about people being so cruel to me... all people are subconsciously prejudiced in one way or another.

 

If I'm stuck with no better for a long time, I'm committing suicide by slitting my throat with one of my Cutco knives.

working at macdondalds IS better than having no job what about a coffee shop?what about retail? so you may be rejected from a few.. but how many resumes have you put out? 15? 20? 40?

No one is being cruel to you.. we are just trying to help you... you say you have no attitude, but then you make judgemental comments about people working at macdonalds

Do you like these judgemental people? I certainly wouldn't... who cares what they think?

What kind of places have you been applying to? Is there an employment agency where you live?

I'm not talking about just fitness, I'm talking about gross over use of gyms. The people that pay to have their house work done and then pay to go to a gym. The get fit paying to run in place when they could use the same amount of energy cleaning their house.

 

Being fit is good. It does keep you healthy and better equipped for the world, but how do over sized muscles benefit any one?

I don't think I'm oversized but I do like having an athletic look!

I don't know who these people are that pay to have their housework done but if they can afford it, and they want to use that time to go to the gym instead why not? Sure housework is 'exercise', but depends on what sort of goal they have.. maybe they need to do a certain type of workout or do some circuit training for the upcoming summer triathlons.. or their butterfly is getting weak so their coach has given them some specific lat and back exercises to help them train for their next swim meet.

Its not about the energy... its about specific types of training that can either help them with their athletic endeavours . Cleaning the kitchen isn't going to help you with your military press or your benchpress or help you throw that shot put further or get that javelin record you've been looking for.. nor it it going to help you get under 40 min for that 10km you have planned in July.

and if people do weights purely for looking good.. then at least they are in a place, where they can make new friends, feel good about themselves adn become healthy and fitter for doing so

who is going to pick on you at 19 working in a fast food industry?!?! how do you even know.. why not try it out first and then see..and if someone makes a comment about job then screw 'em!!

it sounds to me like YO have that attitude ( about being in the fast food industry!)

but what skills and qualifications do you have that you think you should get any better and at only 19?!?!

sorry, but thats where 19 year olds should be working if they dont' have any qualifications

You may not like it but thats just one of the facts of life! No one adores working in macdonalds... you worry about what the girls will say if you work there.. but what will they say if you dont' even have a job?