melly11

The title says it all....any tips on how to gain weight? I'm doing the whole working out thing trying to gain muscle, but feel so discouraged

The title pretty much says it all, and I know its different for everyone...but this time I'm just bahhh. He left again this morning after being together for a month, and I don't know when he'll have a long weekend...this semester is busy for both of us. So i was just wondering...what do you do to deal?I know for me the first few days are the hardest, so maybe this will all get better. Knowing that it'll be worth it in the end too.

Thanks guys, I've been doing all this but I guess it just takes time

As you can tell from the title, I have some body issues with myself. I feel that I am way too skinny and don't know how to change it. To me its disgusting, and completely unattractive. I'm trying to gain wight, but I don't know how. Eating is not the issue, I eat lots...more than a lot of my friends. I am a very active person. Just recently though, I started getting closer to one of my friends. Before we knew who eachother were but that was all. So we started going to the gym together, and we changed my routine. I no longer run, because I run and I lose weight like crazy. I am focusing much more on weights. Is there anything else I can do though? Me and this friend have started seeing eachother, and have become more than friends...but he weighs almost double me. Weird right? Any tips?? M~

"yeah I screwed him over, but thats ok, I still think I'm a good person." I'm still kind of unsure what you mean with this. How did I screw him over? The next day I treid calling him with no answer....he didn't call me. If I screwed him over wouldn't that mean he would have to care?

Hey guys, well for a recap of the story go to "biggest mistake of my life" anywho... I woke up this morning, and he had left me a message. It was very nice actually saying that he had just got back into town late last night, told me a bit about his vactation and asked me what I was up to. I don't know how to take this or what to do with it. any advice?

Hey B rock, Thanks for the honesty in showing how you felt. I totally do understand what you mean. But...when you said I don't think you should be so easy to forgive youself...trust me...it hasn't been that easy. Its something that is always on my mind day in and day out and will be for a while. I know I made a huge mistake and I know that it was my fault. Nobody forced me to do anything that night. I still believe that sex is sacred...I just made a very dumb decision that night. I made a mistake and I think that everyone makes mistakes. I mean I want to move forward......forgiving myself will take time, but what is beating myself up about it going to do? I will forever be reminded of my mistake regardless. This isn't just a mistake that I'm going to keep making...I've made a conscious desicion that it won't be. I am not at all in the mindset of "well I've done it once...whats the big deal?" I just want to get out of the place that I'm in right now...feeling like God hates me, I hate me, and any future boyfriend will hate me for this...all I said was that her words made me feel better.....but forgiveness; thats still a ways away. Sry, just soem thoughts...thanks for your input. p.s. what do you mean by : "And if I had been hurt a number of times like he was it would be REAL hard for me to get that far with someone" - I just don't know where you're going with that thanks Mel

Thanks again, your post made me feel MUCH better. I really enjoyed listening to your take on things, all things. You seem like an awesome person. Thanks again

Thanks shadows light, your message helped a lot. I'm going to try to forgive myself for this and just move on. I mean there's nothing I can do about this now anyway right? I've learned and will move ahead. Thanks guys.

I left him a message before he left for vacation and didn't hear back. He's still not home yet, and I just realized that its only been one week not two. (not that it makes much difference to me) And about the comment for lasting only a minute...I think that had to do with the fact that he could tell I didn't want to be doing it and he felt bad for a second. I think I'll talk to him when he gets home. We have a couple mutual friends, they don't know any of this happened, but they're all saying how he hasn't had many girlfriends in the past but the couple he's had have hurt him bad. So if he's been hurt...why would he want to do that to someone else? Which also makes me wonder why he was only in it for one thing (if thats true) because he wasn't that kind of guy. Bah I dunno, sry for the rambling

Hello all, I'm new here at enotalone. I just need to spill my guts to someone. So as you can probably tell from the title...I feel that I have made the biggest mistake of my life....and I'll never be able to forgive myself. I had been really interested in this guy for the last couple of months and i guess you could say that we had started seeing eachother without officially stating it. Anyway, we had talked one night about everything...just sitting and talking and sex came up...he discovered I was a virgin and he wasn't...no big deal. I told him that I would have regretted it because of how the relationships ended and he respected that. A few days later I was in a very messed up state of mind. (Has to do with details of the death of a friend) Anyway, that night he called and asked me to come over...and me just needing to get out went. We were just sitting, talking...and then we starting making out (not that out of the ordinary for us...but totally for me) but that night it went farther and I honestly don't know how...before I knew it we were going to have sex. I tried to talk to him and all he said was "its ok..." and anyway, long story short...it kinda happened, even though it lasted maybe a minute. Then he kinda stopped and I rolled over. And we just lay there and he held my hand etc etc. I went home and haven't heard from him since. He left to go out of town 2 days after but its been like 2 weeks. I completely and 100% regret everything that happened. Especially because I was a good christian girl and I had standards.....and now all of that is out the window. How did this happen? I am seriously never going to forgive myself. Plus he was very wishy-washy during our whole time spent together over the last couple months...one day he'd be super into it, and the next not so much. Is he a jerk and just going to ignore me forever? or does he feel bad? How do i forgive myself? I feel so nasty and dirty. I can't believe this happened. How do i get over this? Any advice. P.s. sry so long and detailed for a first post.