surya

well that was what i thought but then relationships are so tender. . anyway she IS deciding to break off the realtionship so we will see.

well the last time i checked my friend thought that my stretch marks reminded him of a cat. and to him it is a turn on. so what may be ugly to some may be beautiful to another. it is what is on YOUR skin and u can't really remove all of it so you might as well be happy and appreciate the fact that u have those rather than cellulite or something worse.

i know of someone who is in a relationship right now with a guy that she has known for about 3 yrs. they are inseparable and it almost looks like it is a relationship for keeps you know. but when i listen to what she says about her feelings for him it does not match up. they really do care for each other they are the only persons that they each trust first and foremost. well actually they are best friends first. but even though he may voice to everyone that he is without a doubt in love, when i speak to her, she feels more of a brother sister relationship, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty of things no other man can a hold a candle to her one guy. this is where the problem starts. even though they are so close and so intimate with eachother they are still virgins after all this time, not by her own volation if it was left up to her. she literally, if losing one's virginity was like throwing rice at a wedding she would have been pelting hands full at him. but he has not caught a thing. so it is almost as though the roles have switched, he is not the one begging for it, she is, and because nothing is forthcoming she gets frustrated etc. men don't realize how easy they let their women walk into the arms of another man. his best friend who happens also to be a good friend of hers apparently, there was always some underlying tension between him and her. and once they started talking about issues in her relationship, the tension began getting stronger but it was still kept on the down low. but now she has asked the best friend to take her virginity and the only thing stopping him from actually doing so is that thebest friend and her boyfriend have been buddies since preschool or something as far back as that. but things changed once she started really explaining to him how she truly felt. apparently they both feel strong desires for each other, and it is more than just lust. and the best friend is now willing to, once he realized that she really does get worked up over him, to "help" her out. so she is now in a worry asking me what to do but all i can do is wonder because it is a tingly situation, very delicate in nature and i quite frankly have no answers to this one. obviously the two would get attached if he took her virginity but then what is the situation with her boyfriend????

i am a little hesitant though. i have had experiences of my own that never seem to disappear, eventhough it may not be in focus at the time , there is always that lingering feeling of shackles. this is why i am asking about someone who has been here, and succeeded in putting it behind enough to move on unhindered.

seeing that i am new here, i would keep a lot of thoughts to myself for now, but is there anyone here now who has gone through the trauma of rape or sexual abuse and has 'turned out fine'. have you been able to move on with your life and how long did it take you to reach to this point?

thank you. i am sure i would enjoy myself here

hi everyone this is my first time on this site. i am really looking forward to meeting some new people. i have been trying to hold things together in my life and i find that it always helps to talk. so this is my way of reaching out or allowing others to reach me for a change rather than trying to do it alone.