Okay here i am - its May now- My ex girlfriend and I broke up last August, over various reasons.
Heres my problem - I cannot get over her. I want closure , yet I never received it from her.
I had suspected her of being unfaithful in the relationship, she had changed, and I explained to her my distrust of her. She responded by becoming defensive, and I took that as a sign of guilt. So I broke up with her.
Now please take into consideration that I was (still am?) very much in love with her, and would have done anything for her. part of me thinks I still would.
After we broke up I spent the following week trying to talk with her, I wrote her letters, I left her flowers, etc.. she however felt threatened by me. After two years in a relationships with someone I felt that we should at least discuss what was going on.
Within a few weeks of our breaking up I discovered she had a new boyfriend, which added to my "suspicions" as previously stated.
I am deeply concerned for my own mental health in regards to this woman. My life has gone down the toilet, I've been out of work, I have no drive or energy, and the last thing I want is to get involved with someone else.
Thankfully the weather has changed for the better, and I am starting to get out and do stuff, which has been very good for me. My unemployement insurance is almost out and I am seriously looking for work, and trying to get my life back on track.
What confuses me is why do I still feel the pain, nearly 9 months later? She has not responded to my letters in the past, and I must honestly say that it hurts. How could someone who spent two years with me, who said she would marry me as recently as 3 months prior to our breakup, who wanted to "grow old" with me, be so cold and uncaring?
Granted I do not think she is aware of the suffereing I have been through, I felt that telling her would be some sort of guilt trip for her and I still care too deeply and respect her not to do such a thing.
Why can I not just get over her and move on? What can I do to help me in this process? I am really tired of thinking about her all the time, wondering what shes doing, if shes happy, etc..
please help wth any advice you can spare .
Thank you-
alone and sad