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Does anyone have a boyfriend/girlfriend, but lack in the friend department? I am friendly, nice to everyone, and enjoy meeting new people, but just haven't established a real group of friends. I have transfered colleges twice, and this may play a part in my situation...but I feel like a loser if my boyfriend is not around!! I have a couple girls that I can call my friends, but feel a little lonely other than that. My mom is a better friend than anyone I have, I know this can be a good thing for some and not for others, but I just wish I had other girls to spend time with. It is summer at the college I attend (I have been attending for 3 semesters), I will be a senior next year. I am living 39hours away from home, 6 hours away from my boyfriend (who Iv'e been with for over 2 years)...working, and taking a summer class. I feel like a loser when my boyfriend is at home hanging out with his buddies, and I am at school studying or reading, or working I am not a hard person to get a long with, a little shy, but I had some real great friends in high school. Oh yeah, being in a serious relationship I know affects my friend situation... I love spending time with my boyfriend, but I would spend time with girlfriends if I had them!! I am always open to meeting new people at school and at social events, but I just haven't established a group of friends yet. Everyone always talks about the importance of having friends, and this makes me feel abnormal and that I am missing out. Can anyone else relate, or have any advice??!!!

Pheonix69, You are sweet. Thank you.

I appreciate this response and think you are a great guy for forgiving your girlfriend. Congratulations by the way! I really wish I could tell my boyfriend, but I know things would be over, and this mistake is not worth our relationship. I feel like I made a mistake and I am choosing to forget it and move on with my life. This kiss meant nothing to me, except for teaching me a darn good lesson. As far as counseling....Do you think it would help me relationship wise, or self-esteem wise? I have considered both, but since you mentioned it, I was just curious of your thoughts. Thanks.

Very true, and that scares me. If he heard about the kiss from someone else, I couldn't admit it. I just can't tell him. I know it is a horrible thing to lie but my boyfriend is my best friend, and I would rather feel horrible about the mistake I made than hurt him.

Thank you for all the posts so far...it really is great to hear what others think about my situation. Just a couple other things...my boyfriend has had bad experiences with trusting people in his past, family, other gf's etc., and I always thought I was going to be the one to show him true honesty. As much as I wish I could be honest about this situation, I can't. I feel horribe about this mistake, and I know it will not happen again. As far as not being jealous anymore...not quite. I still have my own little jealously issues, but they have decreased in the past few months. Not because I know I can do better than my boyfriend or the few other reasons that have been mentioned. But, I know that I was being jealous because of my own issues, that I have started to take control of. My boyfriend doesn't deserve to hear me nag him and question him anymore...I feel like by the mistake I made, I learned to give him space. I dont know if this makes sense, but I dont see it as being a negative thing. My mistake was selfish and I know by acting jealous and not trusting him, is only making me a hypocrit. I dont want to push him away by being a jealous girlfriend, or just being paranoid about my own mistake. If things aren't meant to be with us, then they aren't. But instead of trying to control things, like ask where he is going, and questioning him all the time, I am just going to let things happen as they come. I plan on talking to him about my self-esteem, he already has an idea that it is pretty low. But since he is an understanding guy, I know he will feel bad that he doesn't make me feel beautiful. I just wish i hadn't kissed that guy....oh well, if I dont move on with better things, I will only be more stressed!!!

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years...we are in college, live together, and really care for eachother. My guy is a college athlete, very good looking and popular with the ladies, nice to everyone, and a great person. I have some self-esteem/insecurity issues which lead to me always worrying about my boyfriend when he goes out to bars/clubs, or even most of the time we weren't physically together. My boyfriend trusts me so much, never questions me or worries, and I am the one who questions him and wonders what he is up to when we are not together. Sometimes I really wish that he would get just a little jealous or worry about me a little bit, because sometimes I feel like he wouldn't even care if a guy was hitting on me etc....Well, it sucks because I am the worrier and he trusts me, and I made the mistake.................. I cheated on him about 4 months ago..just a few kisses, but nevertheless makes me feel sick to my stomach every time I think about it. I was getting attention that I dont normally get from my boyfriend, and I was quite flattered at the time. I feel horrible now, and I guess I am just affraid my boyfriend will find out and end things. I know if I were him, and found out, I would not want to continue seeing each other. But I really feel this was a huge mistake and worse thing of all, this guy I kissed and my boyfriend began hanging out in a group setting in the past month. I can't really explain the relationship I have with my boyfriend, its pretty amazing and he is my best friend. But, he doesn't tell me that I am pretty, even when I am dressed to impress him...I know he must think I am attractive or he wouldnt be with me, but when other guys show me more attention than he does, I fall for it. Basically, I have really learned my lesson about cheating. This whole experience has made me a less jealous person because I am the one who made the mistake, not him. I am just curious if I will ever forgive myself for this mistake I made? My boyfriend and I have great marriage potential, and I could have already messed that chance up by making one bad decision. Should I completely forget this mistake that happened like I have been trying to do? There is not way I can be honest with him about this, I would really hurt him, and I want to be with him in the end way too much. Was this a learning experience for me? I have not been with many guys, just two serious relationships, and I think at times, I get curious and interested in the attention i get from other guys...especially when my boyfriend lacks in that department..... I do not want to drive my boyfriend away by being the jealous girlfriend, or asking too many questions...so i have simply stopped being that way...because of my unfaithfullness I have learned to "let him go" and not worry so much....Now it is time to work on my own self esteem, and adopt the attitude that I am beautiful even if my boyfriend doesn't always express it!!! Any thoughts? Sorry so much information!