TheoneandonlyLu

A lot of the time, now that i'm pretty sure I've found love, I feel like I'm in a movie. Every cliche hat they say only happens in movies seems to replay itself for me. THe thinks I used to see as really really silly, such as talking on the phone with him for hours now seems to be natural and very necessary. My question has only a little bit to do with this though. IT's really... how much does love change someone? I used to be very disciplined and puntual and now I find myself laid-back but also not too disciplined wiht my actions and always late for things. It sort of bothers me,and I'm not sure how to reclaim that discipline within the relationship. ~Lu

If you're gonna do the deed, you should be prepared to face the consequences. THat said, good luck, but remember that you have just as much responsibility as she does, and by saying that she was misleading about the birth control doesn't excuse your faultering of emotions now, after the fact. Sorry to be harsh. In the end, I wish you the best, and maybe with time, this can resolve itself? COuld anxiety about the baby be the culprit, and a sense of not knowing how much is enough to love someone to make a lasting commitment? Best of Luck! ~Lu

There was recently a thread on if you can love someone who is really and truly rotten to you, and I wouldn't say that things are.... rotten necessarily in my relationship right now, but there is definitely something amiss. I give and feel like the more I give, the less I receive. Anyway, I keep coming back to the same question: Just how much is okay to sacrifice of yourself for the PURSUIT of Love. Being a completely hopeless romantic, I'm in the GO ALL OUT FOR IT category, however.... I realize that there is a huge difference between pursuing something which will make life so very amazing, and giving too much to someone who is not giving much back. I have a problem nailing down how much I should let myself give and what is just... gratutious in the face of all the wonderful chances for Love there are out there for me... What say you? ~Lu

Yeah, he's had it rough in his past. So, I think if he can somehow believe that I'm not gonna just make him fall for me and then run for it or somehting like that.... it could work. We're not having intercourse, but we've done oral and stuff which is what i think kinda scared him.

Here's one for you all to ponder, and hopefully you can help me sort things out too. I've been with my guy for about six months, and before that we were really really good friends. He has been distant lately, and then he IMs me and says that he's really really afraid of being intimate both mentally and physically, because he doesn;t want anyone to know him that well. I've heard of this thing before, but it's way different when it's actually with me... I wonder what to do. THe way I see it, I have to wait it out for him to decide how to deal with his own mind, but I wonder if it's something he can overcome, or if I'm jsut fooling myself... any thoughts? ~Lu