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Thats fair enough romanticlover and your entitled to your likes and dislikes and your girlfriend is also entitled to hers and propably wishes you liked the same things as her . Hence , why I didnt see him again ( plus i didnt really fancy him)I think it would have gone round in circles and im too old and jaded lol.

Maybe she was only kidding ???????

Pissing myself (pmsl) iceman26 He must wet himself(hee hee)at Glastonbury

Yea fair enough he was honest and it would be horrible if a couple of years down the line he suddenly came up with it. Allthough, this guy really really seemed to be into it and to be honest I know its not for me. There wasnt much spark there anyways so best off letting him find his dream girl and vica versa.

Met a guy - well mannered, nice etc and he told me (a few dates later) that he really likes to pee on girls .Have to say I did not agree to see him again, each to their own but not my cup of tea .Had recently left a head messing relationship and didnt want to take any chances with my fragile self and I cant see the point , to be honest. What do yee all think - I must admit I was taken aback -am I naive??or boring??or would you feel the same ??.

Thanks Darkblue , Funny all my male friends take your attitude (a jerk) and females focus on the abuse part and feel bad for me but sorry for him .Have to say what I have learnt from this is to get advice on males from males.

Thanks nowaysis for all your kind words. I agree after a long time together its really hard .The worst thing is that even after you are treated so in humanly by a supposed best friend and should and do in ways detest them - there is also a part of you that still loves them .I suppose you cant just switch off over night after years together.

Initially when we go engaged - he didnt have a ring We had talked about it and It was never something that was really important to me but he seemed to really want to .He asked spontanously me on my 30th and I said yea and we were both thrilled. We were planning to buy a house together the following year so we agreed to wait till then to get the ring and organise everything .We bought another property and two years later we flew to New york (Concorde - airline concessions)stayed in the Waldorf Estoria suit etc and were supposed to be going to Iceland after but flights were full .My ex wanted it to be memorable and romantic and only the best would do so we waited for two years until it was feasible . Of course I thought it was lovely of him but im easy going about stuff and I didnt need for him to make such a fuss.(but I wasnt complaining and we had a tough year with all his moods)When we came home however, I got the feeling he wanted to be engaged but not engaged to be married. He didnt want to make any plans at all .This all sounds confusing and thats exactly what it feels to me too so sorry.

hi there Thanks for your comments . He did and he did not want to deal with his past .To be honest, now in hinsight I see he used it as a reason to get away with what he wanted to do and hoped if he ever got caught he could use my compassion in order for us to stay together .I was away for the weekend when I found out about his affair from a friend .He had his mother over at the time in our flat and when I rang to ask him about it he wouldnt speak to me and asked his Mum to answer the phone to me - so I told her. When she confronted him about what I said (she was like a mum to me too)he told her all about the abuse .I had being trying to get him to tell her for two years and I really bellieve he only told her to divert the attention away from what happened between us.

hi there, I was in a relationship for ten years , engaged and very happy .Soon after our engagement he started acting different - moody, not as loving etc. When I confronted him about it he told me he was finding dealing with the fact he was abused as a child very difficult but assured me he loved me e.t.c. and wanted to sort it out before we married. I agreed and offered him support ,love ,space when required and even made exscuses blaming me when asked for a wedding date. Some time later he started critising our sex life and that he wasnt happy with it and was reluctant to marry me because of this . Shocked and upset I asked him to see a councellor (he went for two sessions only) and things were much better or so i thought. Nearly three and half years after our engagement I received a call from a friend saying he was having an affair so i kicked him out. I am finding it all hard to deal with and get over - ireally loved him and feel completely betrayed, made a fool of and completely stupid for not even thinking he could be cheating. Any advice on how to move or what to think about what hes done would be welcome .Still getting my head around it all Since then I found out there were many other women.