Here is my situation:
I have been married for 14 years this April. My husband was always gone doing his hobby (Race Car Driver) -his hobby took up much time & $$--He would go to work at 7:30 in the morning & not return home until sometimes 12am or 1 in the morning or later. We have a 12 year old daughter. A lot of the time my daughter & I would have to call him just to say goodnight. This hobby was not cheap--It took a ton of money for him to do this. I really didn't care so much about the money, but more about the time. I would call him numerous times in the evening & ask how long til he came home & he would always say "In just a little while"--then like 5 hrs. later he would finally show. It seemed like when he was home he just made me feel guilty for being home. We had other issues on top of all that too. He likes porn as well as anal sex--I do not like either. Sometimes he would try to force the sex part on me, even if I was crying and asking him to stop, he would proceed.
Well, I met someone at work who was going through a bad marriage as well. We began to have an affair. That was 10mos. ago. He has since got divorced. I began divorce proceedings myself. My husband now knows of the affair. He is desperate to save our marriage & has began to sell all of his racing stuff. He has been coming home every night & has changed so much. Now, I fear it is too late for me to go back to him. I feel like I really love this OM & he is desperate to be w/ me as well. The horrible part is my 12 yr. old daughter is threatening to kill herself & acts as if she hates me now. I love how the OM makes me feel though, it's like our personalities fit so perfectly. What do I do. I feel so pressured by the OM to not go home ever again unless it is to get my things, but my daughter is there & then I want to stay for her. I miss her so much. (I have my own apt. but go home sometimes.) I feel like my mind is so bogged down. I have went to counceling but still feel so confused. What do I do--I need help so very badly!!!!